What’s the Big Deal About Children?

Why are children so important to Jesus? What can we do about it? And is there something about children we need to learn in order to be all we can be? Often we...

While I Wait to be Rejected

Like an itch I can’t scratch, distraction is a dodgy shadow on the edge of my periphery. I pull back my arm and send a dart spinning through the dim light of...

Unsubscribe These Myths To Become Who You Are

By Redefining The Boundaries of Unlimited Possibilities. Fact is everybody’s truth — A rational mind loves it.  Fiction is nobody’s truth — An idle mind...

Hope And Encouragement For Times Of Grief

A Grief Recovery Guide Grieving is one of life’s most challenging experiences. No one lives a life without loss or suffering. “Life is a long series of...

Maturity Is Knowing How Lucky You Actually Are

“We’re flawed because we want so much more. We’re ruined because we get these things, and wish for what we had.” -Don Draper | Mad Men In AMC’s Mad...

Why Writing Is One of the First Things I Do in the Morning

And Why You Should Try It Writing is a time for me to flesh out my thoughts — all the ideas that I’d previously thrown down on some random sheet of paper....

How Can You Hear God? Here’s How!

If we could only hear what God wants us to do all the time, life would be easier! When we follow Jesus, we want to hear God! Do you get frustrated when you...

7 Ways to Be a Traveler. Not a Tourist.

“The traveler was active; he went strenuously in search of people, of adventure, of experience. The tourist is passive; he expects interesting things to...

How to Create Interesting Characters (in Short Story Writing)

The Essential Elements of Character Building “What does your character want, what is his dream, what shape has it, and how expressed? Given expression, this...

How To Survive and Thrive In The Modern World By Using 4 Key Skills

What does it take to succeed in life? How high is the skills stack you need to make it big? Some say ten skills are enough. Others say twenty, or fifty-two....

How to Inspire People (Without Being a Self-Righteous Guru)

The “guru,” never tells you about the fact that his current marriage is failing, he feels like a fraud and is riddled with self-doubt. The guru is an...

The meaning of life and purpose found at an estate sale

Everything you have worked for will be sold — cheap — at an estate sale. It sounds sad but there is a deeper meaning. It always struck me as sad when we went...

Forgiving My Toxic Mother for the Pain She Caused

I must admit I am at a crossroads in my life. In the last two years, since I left my home city, I somehow feel responsible for my mother’s sharp decline...

Why Didn’t My Mom Save Herself?

I imagine her. She’s trying to navigate the living room filled with assorted junk, bags of garbage and unopened packages from QVC. She’s trying to be careful,...

I Have Social Anxiety - I’m Afraid Everyone I Meet Will Hate Me

I’m afraid of meeting new people.  Actually, I’m afraid of meeting people period, even if I know them or they’re my friends. It’s not because I hate...

You Are Not A Job Title

Stop living and acting like one. At the end of the day, the position is just a position, a title is just a title, and those things come and go. It’s really...

Give Your Creativity a Platform

You may not know where to start, but keeping those ideas moving changes everything. I've always considered myself a creative person. From the moment I was...

What Can Be Learned from a Car Accident?

Is there a life lesson to be found in getting into several car accidents? There’s a common belief that if your accident was minor and didn’t result in any...

Why You Should Write.

Why have you chosen to write? What led you down the path to being a blogger and writer? Last week, I began pondering why I had chosen to write as my second...

We’re Getting Divorced - Who Gets To Keep the In-Laws?

And who has to take Uncle Icky — the old perv? “Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times...

This is What 70 Looks Like, Episode #3

Channeling my inner Nancy Pelosi I’ve been flattered of late, in a way not experienced before. Two years ago I moved to the Hudson Valley town of its namesake...

How to Write Your First Blog Post.

Without losing any sleep over it. Start with a listicle. It is the best way to begin. Yes. They are one of the simplest ways to start writing especially when...

Why The Experiences Of Others Is Not The Core Thing You Need

Why The Experiences Of Others Is Not The Core Thing You Need Learning from the experiences of others is something that we have come to see as a norm....

Why Willpower Works And How You Can Get More Of It

The shortest shortcut to success Its been described as the ability to control oneself and the decisions one makes. As the ability to delay gratification and...

Does Intuition Make You a Better Leader? It Does!

Intuition: the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning; something one knows or considers likely from instinctive...

How to Stand in Love

John Allen Lee, in his book Colours of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving, defined the Greek word Pragma as a mature, realistic love found among...

I’m Learning How To Talk

Yep. Like a baby.  “Are you okay?” “Yes.” 10 seconds later… Inner voice : WHY DID YOU LIE? I have always had a bit of a problem expressing my...

Freedom from Freedom (for Freedoms’s Sake!)

“Freedom may be mankind’s natural state, but so is sitting in a tree eating your dinner while it is still wriggling.” ― Terry Pratchett Freedom is a word...

Bed

Just say it, when you need help The trouble I met is changing my attitude toward asking for help. When I looked at the room, the first things I noticed was...

My Secret Names for G*D

There are probably as many ways of prayer as there are people. Most religious traditions offer forms and formalities to be followed, and most have preferred...

Author Spotlight: Kamga Tchassa

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Kamga Tchassa is a creative from Cameroon, Africa who now resides in Colorado. He writes, makes videos, and audios and spends the bulk of his time either learning how to tell stories or practicing. He immigrated to join his wife and his writing reflects his journey with relationships, creativity, and passion-driven work. Find him on Medium and Twitter @tchassakamga. 

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Why Writing Is One of the First Things I Do in the Morning

And Why You Should Try It Writing is a time for me to flesh out my thoughts — all the ideas that I’d previously thrown down on some random sheet of paper. There is a sort of relief that I feel once I put these things down on paper. And writing earlier in the morning...

Reaching Cacao

 The Day I Pushed a Taxi up a Mountain in Nicaragua Above the cloud forests in Nicaragua is a tiny village where coffee and chocolate grow wild. It is extremely remote and difficult to access.  I traveled there recently to explore the viability of a future...

How Habit Stacking Works (And How To Start Using It Today)

I’d heard of habit stacking for awhile. Do this one thing and then it leads you into another thing. But I just didn’t get it.  As someone who is in the “productivity writing niche” you’d think I’d get a brochure in the mail. Nope, I didn’t.  So it wasn’t...

Work it Right, Not Work it Hard - The first lesson I learned from my life at a very young age

I was born in the last year of three years of Great Chinese Famine, and when I was still a child, just starting to understand the meaning of a life, my family was impacted by the Great Chinese Culture Revolution, which probably the reason why I was so thin and weak...

The Curative Power Of Face-To-Face Interaction

In the networked world produced by technology evolving at an ever-accelerating rate, we are more interconnected than ever, in ways that give new meaning to the concept of “face time.” We enjoy fantastic scientific advances and conveniences that extend and enhance...

Buddha and the Mountain Bike

The Buddha spoke of moderation in all things. The more years of life experience I gain, the more truth I realize there is to these simple but vastly eloquent words. Most often, when I find myself “off-course,” if I can allow myself to glimpse a reality outside of...

The 1 Thing We Miss about the Fruit of the Spirit

And how it leads to real relationship growth Do you find your spiritual life disappointing? We are promised new life, abundant life, eternal life. But all you’re feeling is the humdrum of ordinary life. All that “love, joy, and peace”, all that spiritual fruit stuff...

Eternally Fallen

The realization that safe spaces do not exist There are no safe spaces and threat forever looms under the surface.  We all know this deep down and have been telling stories about it for a very long time. The awareness that we are eternally vulnerable might, in...

Don’t Just Follow Your Heart, Lead Your Heart

You’ve heard it all before, follow your intuition, tune-in to how you feel, listen to your gut. It all sounds cliché and vague because it’s easier said than done. What does that even mean anyway? How do we listen to an organ that just pumps blood? Where is the gut? Is...

Having Hard Conversations

Have them with the ones you love because you love them.  The last nine months of my marriage were a nightmare. I discovered I’d been living with an active drug addict and had been for almost the entirety of our nine-year-long relationship, AND I also had one-year-old...

What’s the Big Deal About Children?

Why are children so important to Jesus? What can we do about it? And is there something about children we need to learn in order to be all we can be? Often we overlook children, assuming, in their immaturity, they don’t have much to offer. Yet, Jesus held them up as...

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While I Wait to be Rejected

Like an itch I can’t scratch, distraction is a dodgy shadow on the edge of my periphery. I pull back my arm and send a dart spinning through the dim light of a basement room. It stabs into the pale of the blank wall.  Nothing.  My eyes narrow. Nothing? Wait…...

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Unsubscribe These Myths To Become Who You Are

By Redefining The Boundaries of Unlimited Possibilities. Fact is everybody’s truth — A rational mind loves it.  Fiction is nobody’s truth — An idle mind grabs it.  A myth is somebody’s truth — A mind looking for assurance snatch it. Usually, it’s a mix of...

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Hope And Encouragement For Times Of Grief

A Grief Recovery Guide Grieving is one of life’s most challenging experiences. No one lives a life without loss or suffering. “Life is a long series of losses.  It’s pretty much the only thing that is guaranteed in our existence… I’m no stranger to loss. I don’t...

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Maturity Is Knowing How Lucky You Actually Are

“We’re flawed because we want so much more. We’re ruined because we get these things, and wish for what we had.” -Don Draper | Mad Men In AMC’s Mad Men, Don Draper works in the advertising business during the 1960’s in New York City. He has a beautiful wife,...

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Why Writing Is One of the First Things I Do in the Morning

And Why You Should Try It Writing is a time for me to flesh out my thoughts — all the ideas that I’d previously thrown down on some random sheet of paper. There is a sort of relief that I feel once I put these things down on paper. And writing earlier in the morning...

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How Can You Hear God? Here’s How!

If we could only hear what God wants us to do all the time, life would be easier! When we follow Jesus, we want to hear God! Do you get frustrated when you don’t hear God? So, how can we hear God? First Things First First, we must believe that God still wants to...

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7 Ways to Be a Traveler. Not a Tourist.

“The traveler was active; he went strenuously in search of people, of adventure, of experience. The tourist is passive; he expects interesting things to happen to him. He goes ‘sight-seeing’.” — Daniel J. Boorstin Being a tourist has its time and place. There are...

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How to Inspire People (Without Being a Self-Righteous Guru)

The “guru,” never tells you about the fact that his current marriage is failing, he feels like a fraud and is riddled with self-doubt. The guru is an automaton. He’s chiseled his life and body from a slab of sacred stone into a masterpiece. He wakes up at 5 a.m. every...

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The meaning of life and purpose found at an estate sale

Everything you have worked for will be sold — cheap — at an estate sale. It sounds sad but there is a deeper meaning. It always struck me as sad when we went to estate sales. The sad reality of life is this: No matter how much or how little you attain, it will...

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Forgiving My Toxic Mother for the Pain She Caused

I must admit I am at a crossroads in my life. In the last two years, since I left my home city, I somehow feel responsible for my mother’s sharp decline in her health. Her mental health, that is. All the chaos and heartbreak that ensues when she’s ill. It doesn’t...

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My Secret Names for G*D

There are probably as many ways of prayer as there are people. Most religious traditions offer forms and formalities to be followed, and most have preferred languages and liturgies. But nearly all serious theologies or philosophies admit human words simply cannot...

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Can Vocabulary Affect Our Ability to Feel?

I remember first learning the word petrichor, coined in 1964 by two researchers to describe the scent produced when rain falls on dry soil. We all know that smell. It is my favorite part of spring in Memphis, but before learning that word, I had no vocabulary for it....

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What do you hoard?

‘Fess up, is it shoes or handbags or hats or trousers or brooches that you love? Maybe you stash away PlayStation games or DVDs or books? I love necklaces and brooches, and kid myself that I’ve bought my last pendant …… for the Australian Summer anyway!  The...

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You Should Never Hide What You Really Like

Your quirks are just what we need. With all the new trends and updates going live every second, it’s hard to figure out what we actually like. There’s just so much being thrown in our faces that we lose our ability to point out what satisfies our cravings. Since the...

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They are more insecure than you think

Tips to protect yourself and maintain your sanity So you are in a meeting and it’s finally your chance to speak. You have an idea that you have been working on and you want to get this across. But you know there will be at least one person who will immediately cause...

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What I Learned in the Second Week of My Writing Challenge

The ups and downs, but mostly ups, of week 2. The half-way mark of the Challenge month. It’s the Ides of March. A date traditionally signifying doom, thanks to Shakespeare’s dramatic warning. What better time to take stock and recalibrate as necessary.  During...

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Don’t Waste It

A Few Simple Reasons Why You Should Use What You Already Have I’ve mentioned in the past that I love playing the piano, keyboard, workstation, or whatever anyone wants to call an instrument with black and white keys. If it makes musical sounds, there’s a chance I...

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Self-Leadership: How to Learn How to be Your Own Mentor

Self-leadership is the currency of success in 2019 and beyond. What do I mean? There are going to be disproportionate rewards for people who are self-reliant vs. people who need to be told what to do all the time. I have no mentors. All of the work I do is in the...

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How to be Happy; Why Most Get it Wrong

Have you ever watched someone dance without music? As I was sitting in my car outside the ballet studio where my daughters were taking lessons, I could see little girls leaping and twirling as I watched through the enormous windows. The graceful movement of the...

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Why Didn’t My Mom Save Herself?

I imagine her. She’s trying to navigate the living room filled with assorted junk, bags of garbage and unopened packages from QVC. She’s trying to be careful, but her shaky legs don’t cooperate. She steadies her gait with her cane as she heads for the couch. It’s...

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You Are Not A Job Title

Stop living and acting like one. At the end of the day, the position is just a position, a title is just a title, and those things come and go. It’s really your essence and your values that are important. — Queen Rania of Jordan Let’s start with a question: ...

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Give Your Creativity a Platform

You may not know where to start, but keeping those ideas moving changes everything. I've always considered myself a creative person. From the moment I was able to pick up a crayon, I would attempt to construct a world that was the epitome of happiness. Throughout my...

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What Can Be Learned from a Car Accident?

Is there a life lesson to be found in getting into several car accidents? There’s a common belief that if your accident was minor and didn’t result in any serious injuries, that it’ll just fade into memory and get brushed under the rug. That’s not true though. I’ve...

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Why Having Confidence Should Not Be Your Focus

Many of my clients come to me struggling because they don’t feel they have the confidence to do what they want in their life or in their business. One woman, in particular, stands out in my mind. She’d had her business for years but wasn’t getting anywhere with...

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Energy Drainers: 9 Vampiric Habits You Do to Yourself

Avoid them at all cost to keep your long-term sanity. I’ll give you just a handful, but they are among the worst drainers in the world. The order is not dictated by the effects. They differ for different people.  1. Procrastination. source: pixabay.com It can...

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A Garlic-Equivalent for the Energy Vampires in Your Life

Sure, it would be easier just to throw some healing crystals at the energy vampires in our lives. While that may not be the intended use, it would certainly be satisfying to take a chunk of black tourmaline and smack someone with it. I don’t think, however, that...

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I Love To Watch The Blinking Cursor

It’s A Lie… Sometimes I feel blank. 💭 💭 💭 What the hell should I write? Or let’s put it in a better way. What new should I write? Every day, it’s the same story. Like right now, I’m liking this one sentence per line idea, it’s good. But I’ll break the rule right HERE....

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Are You a Pharisee?

Everyone likes to pick on the Pharisees but no one wants to be labeled as one! But there are plenty of them out there. And they tend to ruin things. How do you become a Pharisee? Could it really happen to you? The Pharisees were a good thing for Israel — at least they...

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Why Brainwashing Might Be Good For You

I’ve been where you are. I’ve had the feeling of, “I can’t wait to start the new year with this new habit.” Maybe it’s writing. Maybe it’s working out. What happens after a month? It tends to drift, that commitment, that memory, that motivation. That motivation...

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You Feel Me?

Recently, someone I know — a fellow screenwriter — more of an acquaintance, than a friend, told me that he believed I was an empath. At first, this threw me. I instantly envisioned myself seated at a round table, leading a séance, even though I know that a “medium” is...

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Un-Trapped

Delia lived in a world surrounded by cameras and surveillance. Her life was pretty, yet unfulfilled. She wanted nothing more than unconditional love, and trust, but with Jeff, it simply wasn’t in the design of their relationship.  Everywhere she went, Delia’s...

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Confronting Powerlessness

My son’s autism presented abruptly in front of my eyes and I was overwhelmed by my inability to intervene I had a difficult pregnancy with my son, but he was a ray of sunlight as a baby, in much ways like his older brother, a true joy. Good natured. Smiling. Happy. He...

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Why You Should Write.

Why have you chosen to write? What led you down the path to being a blogger and writer? Last week, I began pondering why I had chosen to write as my second career. My first career choice is as a Deputy Head Teacher for young people, excluded from school.  The...

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This is What 70 Looks Like, Episode #3

Channeling my inner Nancy Pelosi I’ve been flattered of late, in a way not experienced before. Two years ago I moved to the Hudson Valley town of its namesake river. To Hudson, New York. A lighthouse sits right off the city’s shoreline; the Catskill Mountains rise to...

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How to Write Your First Blog Post.

Without losing any sleep over it. Start with a listicle. It is the best way to begin. Yes. They are one of the simplest ways to start writing especially when you are getting embarking upon your writing journey. Let’s be honest. As much as we hate to admit it, we do...

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Good Morning, Scar.

I don’t normally check out my naked body in the mirror. Never have, really. Oddly, that had nothing to do with my not liking my body. I just never wanted to look too closely. These days, I’m peeking more, and longer, because I don’t want to forget what that jagged,...

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Happiness Is Nothing But A Perspective

If you think about it… “Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is.” — Mandy Hale What is happiness exactly?  It is a question that we ask ourselves from time to time, but find...

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Immigrants

People crowding southern borders Struggle to escape cruel oppression, Fleeing South American countries Ruled by dictators with firm hands. On a daily quest for freedom Trying to find a life to live, Most with no intent to harm Only seeking opportunities. Compassion...

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Reaching Cacao

 The Day I Pushed a Taxi up a Mountain in Nicaragua Above the cloud forests in Nicaragua is a tiny village where coffee and chocolate grow wild. It is extremely remote and difficult to access.  I traveled there recently to explore the viability of a future...

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I Feel Comfortable in Publishous

My words feel at home! I’m sitting at my laptop reading, wondering and worrying, as I peruse the new website I had discovered a couple of days ago. “Should I take a chance and join?” “Could I really submit articles I wrote and have people actually read them?” “Would...

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At the Rugby with Ben

What I learnt from taking my autistic friend to a sport I know nothing about He’s standing in his West Tigers jersey, track pants and cap with an orange over-sized foam fist. Waiting. We’re catching a bus to the ANZ stadium in Homebush.  ‘Hey Ben! Ready to watch...

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33 things I have learned in 33 years

Yesterday was my 33rd birthday. That means I have been around the sun 33 times and had the chance to learn a few things. I would consider most of these things useful in my everyday life, and because of this fact I have decided to share them with you.  Always be...

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Unicorn Inverted: A Timely Gift From the Heavens

My Salvation in a moment of despair and hopelessness a Canine came to me. Unicorn Inverted: A Timely Gift From the Heavens My Salvation in a moment of despair and hopelessness a Canine came to me. Image Credit Catrig on Adobe Stock “A dog is the only thing...

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You are what you hide.

Beneath the surface lies our true nature.  Deep down lay the struggles we spend a large chunk of our mental energy suppressing. Former French government minister and author Georges André Malraux said it best. Man is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides....

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Why Willpower Works And How You Can Get More Of It

The shortest shortcut to success Its been described as the ability to control oneself and the decisions one makes. As the ability to delay gratification and choose long-term rewards over short-term rewards. As a muscle that can be strengthened. We are of course...

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Does Intuition Make You a Better Leader? It Does!

Intuition: the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning; something one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning. Intuition is a strange and wonderful thing. It’s kind of mystical...

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How to Stand in Love

John Allen Lee, in his book Colours of Love: An Exploration of the Ways of Loving, defined the Greek word Pragma as a mature, realistic love found among long-established couples. Pragma is about making compromises to help the relationship work over time, and showing...

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I’m Learning How To Talk

Yep. Like a baby.  “Are you okay?” “Yes.” 10 seconds later… Inner voice : WHY DID YOU LIE? I have always had a bit of a problem expressing my feelings as far as I can remember. Expressing it to people outside my family circle, to be precise. At home? No...

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Freedom from Freedom (for Freedoms’s Sake!)

“Freedom may be mankind’s natural state, but so is sitting in a tree eating your dinner while it is still wriggling.” ― Terry Pratchett Freedom is a word that gets thrown around quite a lot, especially when subjects commonly held to be “political” get underway....

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The Moment I Chose My Life

It ended badly, like most relationships do when you rush them. I met Donny in AA. When we broke up, I had seven months sobriety under my belt. I didn’t touch a drop of alcohol or use drugs in all that time, but the monster still raged inside me. Donny wasn’t allowed...

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I Am Optimistic, But I Embrace My Bad Days

why I don’t turn my back to negative emotions I am optimistic. Always have been, and not even after endured deep sadness, lost and sickness I have changed. I’m that person that always sees the glass half-full. I focus on the positive side of the events, instead of in...

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I Have a Clone

The Truth About Being a Twin and Its’ Common Misconceptions Recently, I was asked to talk about what it’s like to be a twin. If you don’t already know, or have never noticed, don’t feel bad. It happens all the time. Yes, I have a clone. And this guy is also on Medium....

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4 Surefire Ways To Gain Wisdom Now

One of my favorite Youtube channels is “Smarter Every Day” by Destin Sandlin. He’s a mechanical engineer who films himself learning something cool and then shares the videos with his audience. Obviously, Destin didn’t invent the idea of getting smarter. It’s an idea...

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Overcome Your Challenges

You Choose Whether Overcoming is Better Than Being Overwhelmed Running in a group is a lot of fun. There’s always somebody just a bit faster than you to give you just enough incentive to push it a little bit harder. Of course, there are also people that you can move...

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Quiet Your Mind

Have you taken time today to let the warm sun beat down on your face? The cool breeze on your neck? Thankfulness on your lips for all the Lord has created. I sit here in my car on my lunch break looking at the barren trees, and the melting snow in wonder. The blue...

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A Life of Wisdom - Here’s How

What is wisdom? Is it attainable by effort or a gift of time and chance? If you could become wise, would you be willing to do what it takes? Who doesn’t want to be wise? There are no shortcuts to wisdom but there is a real process that can take you to that point. The...

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How Habit Stacking Works (And How To Start Using It Today)

I’d heard of habit stacking for awhile. Do this one thing and then it leads you into another thing. But I just didn’t get it.  As someone who is in the “productivity writing niche” you’d think I’d get a brochure in the mail. Nope, I didn’t.  So it wasn’t...

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When You’re Ready To Throw In The Towel…

But You Know You Can’t. Lately, I’ve been in a rut. I feel like withdrawing from the world. From my family. From everyone and everything. Yet, I know it’s not a wise or feasible option. I feel like I’m in perpetual Stand-By Mode. Waiting For Further Instructions....

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I Had To Let Her Go

Saying goodbye to my mom Eight months after my dad died, I was standing at my mom’s hospital bedside watching as she slept. Her chest rose and fell easily because of the constant flow of oxygen from her nasal cannula. Her emphysema was not a surprise, given her 50...

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3 Ways My Life Has Changed After 44 Hours of Meditation

As my birthday was approaching last August, an interesting question popped into my head. What could I request for my birthday that would help me be a better husband and father? After nearly 30 of them, I’ve come to learn that birthdays are much better for you and...

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Is My Attitude The Best It Can Be; Can It Be Changed?

Our attitude is a settled way of thinking, but can we unsettle it? Our attitude is reflected in the behavior we have towards people, places or things.  To be honest with you when in my late teens and early twenties I had it all figured out. (Maybe you did too?) Now in...

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Now

Life flows at same eternal pace Revealing mysteries all its own, What is present, soon to be past, New horizons coming into view. Horizons soon to be our present Once the future, becoming now, Visible presence with complexities Intriguing mysteries it conceals. No...

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What You Need to Know for Baby’s First Flight

Flying with less Crying (for Babies and Toddlers) By my 20th birthday, I’d taken one trip involving air travel. One. By my child’s second birthday, she’d flown around the world. She’d done a half dozen long haul flights and at least a dozen shorter hops. Here’s what...

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4 Keys to Effective Prayer

Nearly everyone prays — you pray. But do you pray effective prayer? Does your prayer make a difference? Does your prayer get answered?  Effective prayer is answered prayer! When we pray effective prayers, they make a profound difference. While faith that your prayers...

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Firewood For Spring

Maybe developers will buy him out and he’ll make a fortune; much more than his firewood would bring.Spring danced in this week, tentative and teasing. She followed on the heels of deadly tornadoes, torrential rains, and record lows, and she will most likely get our...

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Why You’re Absolutely Worth It

The Secret of Decision-Making From Tony Robbins and Me I have a suggestion for anyone interested in physical intimacy: wait. Draw a line in the sand. Throw down the gauntlet. Challenge your partner: “am I worth waiting for?” Make that decision for yourself. Decide...

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OCD Is No Fun. And It’s Not Funny.

Melvin Udall in As Good as It Gets. Adrian Monk in Monk. Dr. Hannibal Lecter in the Red Dragon series. The list of TV and film characters rendered particularly memorable by their peculiar quirks, mannerisms and tics, is long. In reality, the number of people suffering...

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What’s the Purpose of Life?

Have you really sat down and thought about it? People-pleasing, as a term, sounds so nice, like something we’d all want to do. Really, how could pleasing people be bad? Aren’t we often told to please people when we’re at work anyway? “The customer always comes...

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What I Learned in the First Week of my Writing Challenge

Early days, but I think I can do this. A week ago, I started a personal writing challenge month. A first for me. I committed to writing at least one-half hour every day. A big deal. I didn’t commit to publishing daily; I’m a fan of quantity balanced by good quality. I...

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The Only Thing Worth It For The African Creative

And any other creative for that matter. From the moment it becomes the life you seek to live, you will fight. You will get better at your arguments even as you lose friends and family. You will refine your thoughts, you will embrace the stop. You will seek...

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This Is The Little Known Secret Of Light And Darkness

He doesn’t need the sun to do it either! It is in the Bible and can change your life. Are your dreams shrouded with the curtain of darkness?Do the curly edges of life’s purpose fold over you dimming your dreams of success?Does the cloud of darkness, defeat, and gloom...

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Lent This Year is All About Self Improvement

some thoughts on being a “good Catholic” This Ash Wednesday came and went, and I got to be part of the city that walked around all evening with ashes on my forehead. A tourist on the subway craned her neck to see what the heck was on my face, and a guy with his own...

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Damned Spring

Chinooks, they say, for the last few days are blowing out windows, punching at trees,teasing of spring in the deadlock grim of winter;melting snow: powdering breaths of almost-summer,hale and evocative, driving me mad.In spring I know I’ve spent another...

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How to be content

about always wanting more & the simple things in life Everyone seems to be running through life. The pace is getting faster and faster in a world that glorifies the word ‘busy’. We’re all trying to juggle everything at once, trying hard to advance in all...

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Because You Have to Earn Your Crown

“Just 10 more minutes”, I told myself. Just breathe through it all for 10 more minutes.  I braced myself for the big moment.  Today would not be the day I took home my new crown. It was just the “fitting” of it.  I wasn't emotionally prepared for what...

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We Should Work On Being Useful, Not ‘Fit’

If a fire broke out in your house, would you be able to escape out of a window?Would you be able to carry a wounded friend or family member to safety?Could you physically run to the aid of a stranger?Could you fend off someone who was trying to drag you or your...

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How to Get the Basics and Get Started on this Platform

“You can always edit a bad page. You can’t edit a blank page.” ― Jodi Picoult If you are new to Medium, you probably need to spend some time getting the lay of the land. That is, to understand what others are doing on this platform — what works and what...

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How to Buy a Used Piano

A story for writers about the freelance writing life. In 1992 I published an article on how to buy a used piano. It was actually co-written with former piano tuner and friend Ed Beaver, appearing in the January issue of Parenting magazine. I learned a lot about the...

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Anticipation

Present feelings of anticipation Not sure why I feel this way, Accepting them in full awareness Waiting to see what happens next. Drama felt in life’s becoming Uncertainty in what path it takes, Some things are in my control While others randomly occur. My spirit...

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Writing My Way Out Of Depression

I’m making myself write this. It’s been seven days since I’ve written anything. Most of the time, I aim for three to four blog posts a week. Writing is my favorite activity in the world, but depression is taking it away from me. It reared its ugly head at the...

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What To Do When Mom Guilt Slaps You In the Face

There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one. — Sue Atkins I have to get this out, and I have to hurry — fast!  The kids are running, the dog is barking to be let out, the dishwasher just dinged, and not 5 minutes ago the washer stopped...

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How Do You De-stress?

How do you de-stress? How do you let go of all the things that have crawled into your brain throughout the day? I’m one of those people who take on all the things I’ve dealt with and bury them as deep as I can. I see things in my line of work that can make you...

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What the heck is a leadership mantra?

Listen. Sweat. Create. Be kind. Give. This is my personal mantra. Several years ago I thought carefully about picking words to define my best self. These are the words I chose. They represent the things important to me and serve as a day to day reminder of how I want...

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Silkworm - How I handled a bully when I was a child

The Principle of My Life I could let you attack me once, I could let you attack me twice, but after you attack me three times, I have to fight back, catch whole power I could carry, fight back forcefully so that you would never, ever, not even think, be near me...

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The Invisible Illness

Living with Autoimmune Disease(s) I feel like I’ve been sick my entire life. Not the in-hospital with incurable condition kind of sick — the can’t really do much but stay in bed all day and heal kind of sick. Although my symptoms are rarely deemed “bad enough,” to...

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Trusting Truth

Truth, a forever lingering presence Powerful molder of our character, Critical in forming our personas To be who we authentically are. Who do we genuinely want to be? How do we want to be perceived? What character will personas have? Truth at heart of what answers...

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My Eyes Are Always On Something

Sometimes I just want to close them Captivate: fascinate, enamor, attract, mesmerize To be captivated, something or someone must hold you captive. Captive: slavery, confinement, shackles, bondage.  What does it take to come out from being held captive? Can I be...

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What If For Lent I Gave Up Excuses

I’m relatively new to the practice of Lent, and it’s certainly been a learning experience. This year I’ve been thinking about what I might give up for Lent. Having just come off of a sugar fast, I’ll admit that I don’t particularly want to give up sweets. I’ve spent...

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Wellbeing begins with acknowledging this truth…

You are your first HOME. Home. Most often referred to as a place where we reside. There are those who however, define home with regards to certain people or memories made during a certain period. No matter how we choose to define it, most of us would agree that...

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Swan Lake, Pink Tutus and Dreams Doomed to Fail.

Last night the fat little girl in the baby-pink tutu dreamed once more.  The Impossible Dream. She went to see - The Russian Ballet performing Swan Lake. The soaring music of Tchaikovsky. The beloved story of Siegfried and Odette. Many years ago, she wanted to be...

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Healing When You Least Expect It

After 18 years! For millions of Christians around the world, this is Lent, a season when we prepare ourselves for Easter by making sacrifices of self-discipline. The idea is to imitate the mysterious 40-day fast Jesus made in the desert before beginning his public...

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A Day in a Metro

Metro trains are common around the world, but my city got one just a few years back. When it was first launched, everyone was talking about it. But soon, like all things the excitement had died down. Nowadays, the metro is sparsely used. On rare occasions when I’ve...

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How Successful Remote Teams Manage Mental Health

Graphic by acework, 2019. All rights reserved. “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” — Wendy Mass Mental health challenges for remote workers In Part I of our Remote Best Practices series, we mentioned how remote and...

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A Fire in my Soul

On approaching 50.  In just a couple of weeks, my half-century clock turns over. That day is quickly looming over me like a shadow, reminding me of where I came from, and where I could be going.  It’s only a number. I don’t FEEL old. In fact, I emotionally...

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Don’t Believe the Lies

Tell yourself the truth I sat across from her with hope, maybe this counselor would help me. I knew the drill. I pour out my hurting heart, she tells me what she thinks. And then she said words I had not heard before, and I felt hope flicker inside. “I believe your...

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5 Ways to Use Fear to Get What You Want

It never fails. Every time I launch something new in my business, like this course I’m currently developing, all my doubts and fears come flying to the forefront again, even though can see the infinite possibilities this will open for my clients. The fear pushes aside...

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An Idiom of Light and Happiness

A Poem I hear the music of the light resonateIts warmth speaks to my face againI am singing in the light of the sunAbout the light that shines upon me I consider how the light shines on all things and beingsThe always differently reflecting lightIn the spark the heart...

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Why We Need To Let Our Children Fail

Our hearts ache when our children suffer, but sometimes they are more resilient than we think. The parent scheduled an after-school meeting with teachers, advisors and counselors. His son was failing one subject and barely passing three others. “What can you do...

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3 Approaches to Cultural Shifts

Finding a better way to approach cultural change Culture is dynamic. Fluid. Fickle. Culture changes over time. Sometimes with extreme pendular swings. Popular culture is reflective of shared beliefs, values, and social norms.  Each swing of culture has its own...

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Creative Spirits

Feeling calm freedom within Patience pervades my spirit, No rushing urgency today Tranquility in being present. Heart enveloped loving kindness Compassion for my fellow beings, All similar, but uniquely different, Everyone with own personas. Creative spirits reside...

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Smiling depression

Smile oh smile …beautiful features on the outside as your lips expand Smile oh smile …you keep appearing for no reason Inside a cry for despair, no one sees or notices your inner pain Inside you carry the healthy and the rotten…and the rotten keeps piling up...

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The Subtle Reason of Choosing Your Problems

In life, there is no escaping from problems and struggles. Even if you manage to change your current lifestyle, don’t be surprised to find yourself surrounded by an entirely new set of issues and struggles.  It’s another matter that context and magnitude of your...

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How to Choose the Best Flight Path for Your Family Trip

“At least we’re flying First Class,” I thought. Boy, was I wrong.  Before we moved our young family to the other side of the world, I worried about the flight. I thought it would be bad because it was overnight. I thought it’d be awful because it was 13 hours long. I...

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Is Transhumanism Enough to Overcome Global Suffering?

Higher intelligence, even one aided by Artificial Intelligence (AI), is not the solution that will end our suffering — a view that is promoted by transhumanists, who believe that the human race can and must evolve beyond its current constraints through science and...

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Your next post on social media may carry a hefty price

Let the curtains be raised, characters take the position and “ACTION”. Prologue: A nice cozy house in an equally cozy city, no inhabitants inside the house, but wait someone’s in the kitchen!! That is no denizen of this house but turns out he is a robber. He has...

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You don’t know what you don’t know.

You don’t know what you don’t know. It’s a riddle challenging every new leader. I wish I’d understood twenty or twenty-five years ago there were ten thousand things I didn’t even know I needed to know. If I’d understood that, I would’ve been a better leader from the...

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Dollars and Sense, Seasons and Reasons

Dollars and Sense, Seasons and Reasons A few days ago I was looking out my window and happened to see a single robin, hopping across the snow-covered lawn as if to imply she is not ready yet to return. I have heard that all robins don’t fly South for the winter,...

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The Purge

A creative nonfiction tale of catching fish. When cancer took Ouma, we lost more than a grandmother. Reeling from the loss, the tears not dried on their faces, her four sons decided, the farm had to go. Her two daughters’ voices, bitter in its opposition, didn’t carry...

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How to Respond to People Who Don’t Believe In You

Maximizing your potential by minimizing your distractions. I'm pretty sure you can remember a time when someone treated you like you didn’t exist. It made you so upset you didn’t even know how to respond. Like when a person you know questioned your ability to follow...

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Why Advertising Doesn’t Work

The world has changed and you should, too. The world has changed radically since I was a kid.  And it’s never going back.  Every day after school back in the 1970s, I watched TV. I loved the shows, but honestly, I could care less about the commercials. ...

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Transitions

“You ask me what I came into the world to do. I came to live out loud.” — Emile Zola  It was hard not to notice themso I stooped down to inquire Muscari girl, you and your sisterswhatcha doin’ in my garden so early this year? We have come...

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Spring Awakening

Cool spring morningNew sprouting growthGlistening sunlight. Spirits nurtured by shimmering sunAwakening from slow winter slumber. Aliveness always presentSurfacing once againNew creative thoughts. Feelings of love and reconciliationOld hopes in new spring awakening....

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The Hook up at Motel 6

She spent hours and hours, flawlessly designing the perfect profile. She added photos that made her look more beautiful than she was and mastered the art of adding strangers, like her friends. Why wouldn’t they want to be her friend? She was stunning, and she composed...

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This Stupid Facebook App Controls My Life

Want to see how much time I spend on my iPhone every day? Four hours and ten minutes on average. LIKE, WHAT?! And a whopping 60–70% of my time is spent on social media.  If you want to break it down even further, here it is… This is a problem. I Am Obsessed With...

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I have to quit swallowing my anger.

I tend to swallow my anger a lot. I am not sure if it is because I grew up in an alcoholic home, or what, but something inside causes me to stuff my angry feelings down deep inside of me. It is a really detrimental thing to have to deal with, especially as a wife and...

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A Recap of My Last 30 Days

And the Lesson I Thought I Knew I took a full month away from posting or writing a single story on Medium. I felt like my life was missing something the entire time, to be honest. I craved the time I used to have writing out my thoughts. And after developing a...

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Spring Arrival

Full moon shines through murky haze Ethereal glow before morning arrives, Enjoying stillness while darkness fades Stark awareness of silent presence. Cherry trees sprout glistening shoots Nurturing beginnings of new buds, Gradual opening of blooming blossoms A gift of...

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The Vicious Cycle of Loneliness

Do you fear being alone? Or is it a fear of “loneliness”?  As I age, I seem to embrace my alone time more and more. It is the time when I can write, or watch crap TV, and eat whatever I feel like. It is the time when I can make my own decisions and spend my time,...

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Love It’s In The Details.

My father died four years ago of Stage IV Lung Cancer. As did my mother. I could say they “passed away,” I suppose. A softer, more palatable alternative. But, that’s not really what happens, is it? If only. Four years. It seems like a long time…but not really. Not...

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Creating Content As If I’m Going To Die Tomorrow

What if today was my last day? Carpe Diem’ is a phrase that I try to embrace. It means seize the day, to make the most of the present and to give little thought to the past or future. In the time that I have here, I want to love and live life to the fullest while...

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My Daily Routine in a Tech Company.

Don’t Envy our lives through rose-tinted glasses. I work as a manager for a tech services company based out of India (We are also lovingly called sweatshops, body shops, cost-cutting shops etc.). We are also nicknamed as owls (night-owls, day-owls, twilight-owls,...

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This Mule Taught Me How To Fulfill My Destiny

When we are opened to being taught, even a Mule will instruct us! Walking past the barn I heard hoof beats. Seconds later the mule past me at a full gallop out the lane. He was free, no harness to hold him. Free, free at last. He darted out the farmer’s lane towards...

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How to End Social Greed

We all hate corporate greed. No one likes being reduced to a dollar sign. No likes being treated like a sales target. We can all feel when we’re being pitched and we hate it, especially when it’s clearly disingenuous and false. The reason we hate it so much is that no...

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The Moment I Chose My Life

It ended badly, like most relationships do when you rush them. I met Donny in AA. When we broke up, I had seven months sobriety under my belt. I didn’t touch a drop of alcohol or use drugs in all that time, but the monster still raged inside me. Donny wasn’t allowed...

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I Have a Clone

The Truth About Being a Twin and Its’ Common Misconceptions Recently, I was asked to talk about what it’s like to be a twin. If you don’t already know, or have never noticed, don’t feel bad. It happens all the time. Yes, I have a clone. And this guy is also on Medium....

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7 Ways to Finally Build Habits that Stick

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. — Jim Ryun I am a strong believer that if you manage to build the right habits you will succeed in whatever you do. Establishing habits and sticking to them requires a lot of willpower and dedication....

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The Magical Art of Tidying Up Your Whole Life

Several years ago when Marie Kondo wrote her book suggesting all the ways to reduce, fold and organize your “stuff”, many people became absorbed with at least starting to address their clutter. That was good, but I wonder how many people put the same energy into...

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Prayer for Mercy

Deliver me not, Oh Lord,Over to those who sayThey love me yet waitFor me to be their preyThe ones who should be hereYet they lead others astray. Listen to my cry, Oh Lord,Those who lie about meDon’t listen to their prayerThey breathe out crueltyThey turn against the...

Feel Sad After You Have Sex? You’re Not Alone.

In studies, nearly half of men and women have experienced it in their lifetimes. Postcoital Dysphoria (PCD) or “post-sex blues” or “post-coital tristesse” (tristesse is the French word for sadness) is “the experience of negative affect characterized by tearfulness, a...

A Blogger’s Journey - The Snakes & Ladders

Learning from my mistakes to pursue your blogging career. My journey into blogging has not been a smooth journey. However, it has been one where I have grown considerably. Over the last year, I have developed and grown as a writer and this is due to my blogging. I...

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