Simple Ways To Worry Less

Small shifts in perspective can help you manage your fears. When I was young, when anybody offered me anything, my mother believed they were just being nice....

It’s Not Fair!

Isn’t life supposed to be fair? “Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not.” — -Oscar Wilde As a middle school...

Don’t Be Fooled: Strong Relationships Take Work

Self-awareness will carry any bond farther. Who doesn’t want a strong relationship? Anyone who sets out to coast by on a shaky foundation is asking for...

What You Need to Know About Powerful Settings in Fiction

Examples from Stephen King, J.K. Rowling, George Lucas As a writer, you’ll hear it over and over, “Write what you know.” It’s good advice. And almost everyone...

Fake It Til You Make It? The Truth About Building Confidence

“Fake it til you make it,” they say. See, we all have someone we want to be. Everybody has a vision for themselves where they’re supremely confident, get to...

True Freedom Requires Responsibility

To enjoy freedom, we have to control ourselves. — Virginia Wollf There are so many stories I could tell about the things I observed and heard within the...

But You Seem Fine: Living With High-Functioning Depression

Why looks can sometimes be deceiving. At first glance, it might look like I have it all. I’m a wife to my husband of five years and a mom to three wonderful...

How Rearranging Personal Space Will Make You a Better Writer.

Good Writing needs optimum personal space to thrive. In reality, even the most experienced, productive writers often need to force themselves to write,...

The first of many last suppers

A tale about saying goodbye, over and over again Saying goodbye is hard enough. Saying goodbye. Goodbye cuts deeper and hurts longer than the uninitiated...

Your Writing Becomes Boring When You Ignore Your Emotion

Placing a high value in filling your writing with how you feel makes for greater impact. Here you are again, taking those steps to put words on an empty...

When Someone Misjudges You, Keep Showing Them Who You Are

“You don’t know about real loss, ’cause it only occurs when you’ve loved something more than you love yourself. And I doubt you’ve ever dared to love anybody...

What I Did To Better My Life

Maybe these ideas will work for you too I grew up hard. My mom was bipolar, my sister mentally ill, my brother a hemophiliac, and my dad was a walking cardio...

How To Balance Creative Ambition With Your Relationships

You desperately want to work on your art. It’s the weekend at last but now there are other things to do. Shopping, chores, family time, looking after aging...

How to Make Your Content Attractive To Readers

How to write consistent content that attracts followers. As important as it is to attract readers with an eye-catching headline and first sentence. You then...

The Real Reason You Never Finished That Article

There’s too much room for excuses. Two weeks ago, my brother asked me what I was doing. I said, “I’m working on a song.” He responded, “I thought you were...

How Keeping a Gratitude List Can Change Your Life Forever

Before I talk about keeping a gratitude list, I want to talk about the word itself — gratitude. Gratitude can be a nebulous and meaningless term. It can be a...

Why I Went Back to My Childhood and Read Harry Potter

The first-ever Harry Potter Book came out when I was in Year 7. My English teacher, Ms. Ostepeev, raved about the book and insisted we all read it. I didn’t...

How Walt Would Have Done It Raising !magineers: The Way Walt Disney Would Have Brought Up His Kids Today

How Walt Would Have Done It Growing children by giving them the freedom to discover, identify and deeply engage with their innate passions, and providing them...

Why Madwomen Seem So Nice

But you have no idea Today I mastered a tempest. But to the 20-something clerk at the clinic check-in desk, I was just another incoherent lady who thought she...

Stop to Nurture your Soul. You’ll Be Glad You Did.

How do you do it?  Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better. —Albert Einstein Recently, I spent some time in nature....

How To Get Into Heaven Without Being A Church-Going-Christian

For a long time, it has been standard that if you are a Christian you attend church and that lack of attendance your revokes your Christianity and puts your...

Having Anxiety Over Having Anxiety?

Am I the only one that feels this way?  Having mental health issues is no joke. Some of us are lucky enough to not rely heavily on medications to help us...

How Emotionally Intelligent People Wisely Deal With Their Problems

I know something about you… Regardless of who you are, I can guarantee these three words apply to you: You have problems. The question is — How do you deal...

How to Easily Deal with Big Issues Without Therapy

A simple strategy to handle mental issues that you can easily use at home. t’s a well-known fact that therapists don’t fix people. We all think when we go to...

And then came the time to leap

A story about jumping and living The final strip of road, before it burst onto the ocean, embraced by ironwood, yellowwood, and Cape Beech, was as straight...

The Joy of Being Unknown

We all want to be ‘KNOWN’ until we realize the advantages of being unknown. We say things such as this all the time: “One day I’m going to write a book.” “I’m...

Your Relationship is Over… Now, What?

Long term relationship break-ups are no joke. They are taxing, exhausting, frustrating, and if you aren’t careful, you can end up leaving pieces of yourself...

Be Careful what you Promise - You May be Called on It

How my bargain as a child was realized Life purpose becomes clear when coming close to death I felt the most alive when I was fighting for my life in an...

Going Out vs. Going Somewhere

42nd Day in Spain Do you prefer to just go out, or do you require a destination? City life offers so many opportunities for adventure and entertainment....

The final shade of death: She doesn’t have Alzheimer’s anymore!

On writing a eulogy for my mother “Well, Tal,” I had said at my mother’s memorial service, “Maybe she’ll forget.” What I should have said from the podium...

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Every writer wants to be paid for his/her craft, but it’s so hard. The blog, the website hosting, the writing, the promotion. Nicole Akers cuts through the bull and helps you start earning money for your writing. “Make Money on Medium” is the best tool every writer needs to get started today.

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How Walt Would Have Done It Raising !magineers: The Way Walt Disney Would Have Brought Up His Kids Today

How Walt Would Have Done It Growing children by giving them the freedom to discover, identify and deeply engage with their innate passions, and providing them the supports to achieve creative expressions of their dreams “I want to have ten kids, and I’m going to...

Positive Thinking Will Destroy You.

Don’t be positive, or even negative. Be real. “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” — Wayne W. Dyer When you are in stress, people advice to stay positive. You may have overheard these sentences:...

How I Plan To Write My Heart Out

In the middle of feedings and diaper changes Forget the big plans I had big plans for my maternity leave. Living in Canada means I get a full year (now with an option of 18 months) off work.  Twelve glorious months to write. I was going to write my...

How Emotional Trauma Drives Nearly Everything We Do

Every one of us is in pain; every one of us wants to be loved. We act the way we act because we want the hurting to stop. “Pull over! Pull over now!”  In a rage-filled tirade, the driver in the car next to me screams in my direction as he tries to force me...

Is It Bad To Want To See A Psychologist?

Deep down, we all know the answer. All my life, I’ve been told by my family and close friends that talking to a psychologist means you’re sick. That something is wrong with your mind that it’s shameful. When we talked about someone meeting a psychologist, it was...

Stop Giving Fat People Your Free Advice!

Kindness works best, folks. We aren’t allowed to insult disabled people. We aren’t allowed to be racist. We aren’t allowed to dislike people of different faiths. We can’t hate women. Fat people are all we have left to shame! Why do fat folk get shamed? People have no...

5 Steps to Become a Paid Writer in 5 Weeks

In the past year, I’ve made tens of thousands of dollars from my writing. (I made a whopping $40 total in my first 4.5 years). Obviously, I’ve learned a thing or two!).  I discovered you can earn money from your writing very quickly, if you know what to do. ...

Why Writing Is One of the First Things I Do in the Morning

And Why You Should Try It Writing is a time for me to flesh out my thoughts — all the ideas that I’d previously thrown down on some random sheet of paper. There is a sort of relief that I feel once I put these things down on paper. And writing earlier in the morning...

Reaching Cacao

 The Day I Pushed a Taxi up a Mountain in Nicaragua Above the cloud forests in Nicaragua is a tiny village where coffee and chocolate grow wild. It is extremely remote and difficult to access.  I traveled there recently to explore the viability of a future...

How Habit Stacking Works (And How To Start Using It Today)

I’d heard of habit stacking for awhile. Do this one thing and then it leads you into another thing. But I just didn’t get it.  As someone who is in the “productivity writing niche” you’d think I’d get a brochure in the mail. Nope, I didn’t.  So it wasn’t...

Simple Ways To Worry Less

Small shifts in perspective can help you manage your fears. When I was young, when anybody offered me anything, my mother believed they were just being nice. Her response was always to inundate me with questions and commentary: You told them no, didn’t you? You can’t...

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It’s Not Fair!

Isn’t life supposed to be fair? “Life is never fair, and perhaps it is a good thing for most of us that it is not.” — -Oscar Wilde As a middle school English teacher, I try to make my writing assignments interesting for my students. My thought is, if they are...

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Don’t Be Fooled: Strong Relationships Take Work

Self-awareness will carry any bond farther. Who doesn’t want a strong relationship? Anyone who sets out to coast by on a shaky foundation is asking for trouble right from the start. But the problem is often not that we begin with that in mind. Rather, it’s not...

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What You Need to Know About Powerful Settings in Fiction

Examples from Stephen King, J.K. Rowling, George Lucas As a writer, you’ll hear it over and over, “Write what you know.” It’s good advice. And almost everyone will tell you, from your creative writing teacher to your college English prof, “If you want to write...

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Fake It Til You Make It? The Truth About Building Confidence

“Fake it til you make it,” they say. See, we all have someone we want to be. Everybody has a vision for themselves where they’re supremely confident, get to do what they want, and have total control over their life. We crave being that person, but the process of...

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True Freedom Requires Responsibility

To enjoy freedom, we have to control ourselves. — Virginia Wollf There are so many stories I could tell about the things I observed and heard within the walls of my classroom over the last three decades.  The first half of my career, I taught high schoolers...

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The first of many last suppers

A tale about saying goodbye, over and over again Saying goodbye is hard enough. Saying goodbye. Goodbye cuts deeper and hurts longer than the uninitiated could ever imagine. There was no easy or painless way of telling our parents we were leaving. Leaving. It had to...

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Your Writing Becomes Boring When You Ignore Your Emotion

Placing a high value in filling your writing with how you feel makes for greater impact. Here you are again, taking those steps to put words on an empty canvas. You felt the rush of excitement from the moment you opened your eyes until this point. Sitting down with...

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When Someone Misjudges You, Keep Showing Them Who You Are

“You don’t know about real loss, ’cause it only occurs when you’ve loved something more than you love yourself. And I doubt you’ve ever dared to love anybody that much.” Sean’s words dug into Will. The normally cocky, confident main character of Good Will Hunting was...

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What I Did To Better My Life

Maybe these ideas will work for you too I grew up hard. My mom was bipolar, my sister mentally ill, my brother a hemophiliac, and my dad was a walking cardio condition who finally died from his third heart attack. My extended family was no better. Cancer, diabetes,...

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How To Balance Creative Ambition With Your Relationships

You desperately want to work on your art. It’s the weekend at last but now there are other things to do. Shopping, chores, family time, looking after aging relatives. The clear day that you have promised yourself all week is ebbing away before you have even got...

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Why I Slapped A Sexy Butt On The Cover Of My Book

The secret to successful book cover design is as much about ‘fitting in’ as it is ‘standing out’.  ‘Don’t Judge A Book By Its Cover’ is perhaps the most ignored advice of all time. Everyone does it — and that’s why the cover is the most important part of any book you...

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You’ll Never Write Better With Toxic Expectations

Embracing the process will improve your writing voice. Possibilities are everywhere. The thought of doing that something that will impact others brightens our eyes and makes our hearts beat a little faster. For those who take it seriously, they crack their knuckles...

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Who the Heck is Steve Cioccolanti?

He wrote two bestselling books on numbers. Now listen to this Asian/Italian pastor from Australia explain Gematria, then investigate more of his work.  What the heck is Gematria? It is the ancient Jewish method of discovering how God works through/with numbers. This...

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How I Wrote a Book from Content on Medium

Taking What You Have and Turning it into Something More Last month, I released my first book. It was truly a dream come true and I had never been more proud of an accomplishment. While sharing about it with some friends, they asked how I came up with enough material...

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How To Cope When Some People Don’t Want You In Their Life

A lesson I learned the hard way. Have you ever been ghosted? I hope you didn’t. It’s not pretty. I’ve been ghosted multiple times in my life. Ghosting is a term given when someone decides to treat you like a ghost and completely ignores your existence. The immediate...

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How to Make Your Content Attractive To Readers

How to write consistent content that attracts followers. As important as it is to attract readers with an eye-catching headline and first sentence. You then need to provide content that will engage.  The first thing to consider is that you have to deliver on the...

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The Real Reason You Never Finished That Article

There’s too much room for excuses. Two weeks ago, my brother asked me what I was doing. I said, “I’m working on a song.” He responded, “I thought you were already working on another one!” At that moment, I realized that I have a severe problem. I start things without...

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How Keeping a Gratitude List Can Change Your Life Forever

Before I talk about keeping a gratitude list, I want to talk about the word itself — gratitude. Gratitude can be a nebulous and meaningless term. It can be a crutch to hide from your ambition. Or, it could be the key to true happiness, sanity, and contentment. How you...

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Why I Went Back to My Childhood and Read Harry Potter

The first-ever Harry Potter Book came out when I was in Year 7. My English teacher, Ms. Ostepeev, raved about the book and insisted we all read it. I didn’t get it and had no interest in dragons, witches or wizards. I ignored the advice. As I got older, there was an...

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What is the reward we get for loving our enemies?

In Luke 6, Jesus tells us that if we love our enemies and those who persecute and do evil to us, we will be rewarded by God. “But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the...

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The Girl Who Lived In A Tent

Even at the age of ten, it was clear to me that my mother had lost her mind. For a long time, I blamed the tent. It was medium-sized canvas, dark blue, and I’d just been told my mother and I were going to live in it. My mother did her best to make it sound exciting....

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The Only True Freedom

What does it mean to be free? Understand This One Concept to Truly Honor and Appreciate Freedom It’s early July, the time of year to celebrate and appreciate freedom! It’s easy to get caught up in fireworks and brisket and lose sight of what freedom really means. One...

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This Is Why You Reject Self-Help

5 reasons behind the rise of the anti-self-help movement My friend James held up a copy of Simon Sinek’s book “Start with Why” that he grabbed from my table and remarked matter-of-factly, “You still read this self-help garbage?” James’ isn’t alone in feeling this way....

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Christianity Is Not About Moral Goodness

Our effort at goodness is a weak facade for faith We Christians — genuine followers of Christ — need to stop moralizing the Christian faith. We need to quit portraying Christianity as a life of moral goodness. Our effort at goodness is a weak facade for faith. It...

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Fear Can Go To Hell

Tell the voices inside your head that they don’t belong there. Fear can go to hell, shame can go there too. I know whose I am. God, I belong to you. Prophesy Your Promise by Bryan and Katie Torwalt This was one of those days when I felt most alive. Nothing like...

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How To Obliterate Your Anxiety In 2 Minutes

I’ll start with a simple question. Have you ever heard of ASMR? If you haven’t, boy are you in for a roller coaster of a ride with this post. The truth is, I’ve been waiting to write this article for quite some time. The title seems like it could never live up to its...

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Why Garbage Can Be So Attractive

It’s often the seedy things of life that interest us For everything Satan has to offer you is a collection of what Jesus rejected; it is the garbage bin of Jesus Christ. — Felix Wantang Photo by Susan Grant I have a dachshund, though he’s 4 inches from the...

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How To Handle Verbal Abuse

Verbal abuse is subtle, insidious, and extremely painful, but there are easy ways to respond if you can properly identify when it is happening. Disclosure: This post contains affiliate links.  I’ve been birthed by, worked for, befriended, or dated my fair share of...

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Why Madwomen Seem So Nice

But you have no idea Today I mastered a tempest. But to the 20-something clerk at the clinic check-in desk, I was just another incoherent lady who thought she was vaguely entitled to special treatment for reasons that weren’t very clear.  I had a 10 a.m....

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Stop to Nurture your Soul. You’ll Be Glad You Did.

How do you do it?  Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better. —Albert Einstein Recently, I spent some time in nature. This is where everything becomes clear. To get in touch with nature is to nurture me. Imagine with me… You are...

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Having Anxiety Over Having Anxiety?

Am I the only one that feels this way?  Having mental health issues is no joke. Some of us are lucky enough to not rely heavily on medications to help us stay emotionally stable, and some of us aren’t. I have been on both sides of the wall.  I have struggled...

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How Do You Market Your Writing As An Introvert?

It’s hard to say nice things about myself. Maybe I didn’t speak out before because I felt shame for so many years. I made a lot of mistakes in my life, and not everyone has forgiven me. There were days I hated myself that stretched into years. I believed the people...

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Personalities in the workplace. Can we all get along?

Personality management strategies for leaders. A few years ago a senior leader came to my office, closed the door, and had a little rant. Well, maybe a big rant. It was on the order of “I spend too much time dealing with personalities! I’m so tired of people not being...

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We Are All a Little Too Entitled

It is true that, when an entitlement begins to be enjoyed by people, they like to keep it. — Jon Kyl Sweat is developing under the hair on my head as I type. I can feel the heat on my scalp as though I’ve just finished a workout. Moisture is building up and...

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10 Things I’m Grateful For

What Are You Grateful For in Life? ”Gratitude is the wine for the soul. Go on and get drunk.” — Rumi Do you ever pause what you’re doing and reflect on the things you’re grateful for? Not many people do this. I should do it more often. When you express your gratitude...

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How to Grow Your Mindset

Getting this one thing right changes everything. We have complete control over our biggest problem. Our mindset-the assumptions, judgments, and expectations we have about the world, about God, about ourselves-filters how we perceive and process information. Our...

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What To Do If You Feel Stuck At Any Point Of Life.

Take a rest. Sometimes, life is a kick in the pants. You don’t know what to do or when you’ll do the next task, you don’t feel like it. You don’t understand why this is happening. You’ve numerous options but are confused. You’re unclear about the future.  Being...

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5 Questions to Test Your Spiritual Growth

A simple approach to measuring progress “It’s time for a pop quiz.” What student loves to hear these words? When I was in school, and only on rare occasions, the teacher would allow us to grade our own quiz. Now, that was good! But tests help us measure our...

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The Heavy Weight of Excessive Empathy

Life as an Empath can be both beautiful and crippling. It is honestly a double-edged sword if you are unable to control how you handle it.  Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash On Being an Empath When you struggle with too much empathy for others, there...

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What if you’ve set the bar too low?

How to manage success and all that comes with it. Congratulations! You’ve made it through Life Planning 101!  By this time, you have:  • Recognized that you’ve been drifting (this one is BIG don’t forget to acknowledge it) • Completed the funeral exercise by...

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How to Easily Deal with Big Issues Without Therapy

A simple strategy to handle mental issues that you can easily use at home. t’s a well-known fact that therapists don’t fix people. We all think when we go to therapy, our therapist puts us straight. Actually, that isn’t true. A therapist will listen to us. They might...

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And then came the time to leap

A story about jumping and living The final strip of road, before it burst onto the ocean, embraced by ironwood, yellowwood, and Cape Beech, was as straight and narrow as an arrow. Keeping left, as per the rule of the road, the sun warm on our backs, the Volkswagen...

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The Joy of Being Unknown

We all want to be ‘KNOWN’ until we realize the advantages of being unknown. We say things such as this all the time: “One day I’m going to write a book.” “I’m going to start a business that is going to become the best in the industry.” “That next promotion is going to...

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Your Relationship is Over… Now, What?

Long term relationship break-ups are no joke. They are taxing, exhausting, frustrating, and if you aren’t careful, you can end up leaving pieces of yourself on the floor of your previous residence, to be trampled on by your ex.  So, how do we move on?  Short...

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Be Careful what you Promise - You May be Called on It

How my bargain as a child was realized Life purpose becomes clear when coming close to death I felt the most alive when I was fighting for my life in an ambulance in the city of Kangnung, South Korea. I doubted I would survive. That’s when the purpose of my life...

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When I Should Have Done Something, but I Didn’t

Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act. — Dietrich Bonhoeffer As a teacher of many years, I have seen many extraordinary things, some good, some bad.  One year, I saw a beautiful...

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The Song That Changed My Life

Writing a letter to my younger self about that day I spent many years as a geek. Sheldon from the Big Bang Theory had nothing on me. I spent a long time being reviled for thinking outside the box. Years later, I would discover that being a nerd was cool, but in...

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Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You

My philosophy about making it big in writing, inspired by a comedian.  Back when I was still in high school, I was a bass clarinetist in the Minnesota All-State Band. One year, we had a conductor from Texas who told a story about his college days in California. You...

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Nature and Working in It, My Antidote to Anxiety & Stress

Gardening, weed pulling, planting… these activities restore and rejuvenate a worn down soul who is sad and ragged around the edges When things weigh me down… get to be just too much… I know it’s been too long.  Too long since I had dirty fingernails, my fingers...

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You Deserve The One Who is Truly Yours.

Love Is powerful than your brain. What type of person do you want in your life as a partner? One who’ve multiple relationships with others or who are fully devoted to only you. The condition is, those who’ve multiple relationships are available and easily come...

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Introverted Freelancer? How To Avoid Becoming A Recluse.

I am an introverted freelancer with an anxiety diagnosis. I am NOT a recluse… but I could be. Socialising is exhausting for me. After even a few hours of socialising, I need time out to rest and recuperate. Prioritising ‘out-of-house’ tasks stresses me out because I...

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How To Be Self-Reliant And Achieve Greatness

Depend on yourself and be unstoppable I woke up with my face covered in blood sitting in the driver’s seat of my Honda Civic wagon. I looked at myself in the rearview mirror and thought I was in a horror flick. There was a knock on the driver’s side window that shook...

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7 Simple Ways To Support The Artists In Your Life

Whether or not you realize it, you’re surrounded by artists: painters, photographers, podcasters, musicians, sculptors, writers, designers, and much, much more.  But we often only see the end product.  We rarely think about all of the hard work that it took...

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What Happened When I Started Olding

Real life happened, that’s what It was a great day earlier this year when I decided I was done adulting and ready to start olding. With olding, you’re no longer compromising with the phony expectations of the “Real World.” Instead, you’re just grown up and ready to...

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5 Lessons on Writing by Ayn Rand

Ayn Rand’s writing tips on theme, plot, characterization and style. “To be the kind of writer you want to be, you must first be the kind of thinker you want to be.” — Ayn Rand Recently, I came across the book ‘The Art of Fiction’ by Ayn Rand. An incredible...

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I Kissed The Boy I Feared The Most

I thought Clifton wanted to kill me. When the elementary school bus dropped us off the first day, I jumped off and skipped my way towards my trailer. Thoughts of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and afternoon cartoons went through my mind as I shook off the stress...

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The Importance of Focus for Success

Every time we are not focused, the work we produce takes us much longer to produce. Here are some simple steps to get and stay focused. My future husband has begun a side hustle that is now producing some good income for him, but it’s been driving me crazy. Since this...

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If You’ve Cried For Someone? Read This.

Crying Is the last action to actualize your feelings. “You left and I cried tears of blood. My sorrow grows. Its not just that You left. But when You left my eyes went with You. Now, how will I cry? “— Rumi You cried for those whom you love. Crying is not obvious. It...

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The Most Annoying And Useless Business Jargons at Work.

But they can make you shine at work. The urban definition of business jargon(or corporate bullshit in a cruder language) is something like this. · A new language that looks and sounds just like English, but is actually lies and propaganda spewed forth by big...

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Sowing the Seeds of Trust

Growing Your Relationship Garden Trusting people can be a daunting matter. Learning about another human being enough to put credence in what they do or say is one of those skills that is learned, or unlearned, over the course of a lifetime.  I have been thinking...

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You Know We’re Friends When We Show Up Naked

And are comfortable around each other Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul. ― Charlie Chaplin in a letter to his daughter Geraldine My college Theatre professor told us:  Imagine your audience naked.  It...

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How to Find True Freedom, Joy, Recognition, and Sanity

Do you see a man skilled in his work? He will be stationed in the presence of kings; he will not stand before obscure men. — Proverbs 22:29 I’m not the most skilled writer in the world, not even close. I’m not the most prolific, original, or stylish. But I know one...

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How to Get People to (Actually) Read Your Story.

Do you want to seduce readers with captivating content that will leave them wanting more? You’ve spent sleepless nights, carefully crafting each word. You finally hit “publish,” and what happens? Nobody reads them. No comments, no tweets, no sharing on any media. Why...

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A Conversation With A Best Friend

A conversation that changed my life.  “A writer? Who do you think you are?” My best friend said with a sneer.  Wow. I expected this but I didn’t know that it was going to be this bad.  A seed of doubt was cast.  Who the hell did I think I...

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Fear is a Universal Emotion

Fear is a powerful beast. But we can learn to ride it. (Justine Musk) Fear is a universal emotion. It is likely that fear protected early man from extinction. Fear of danger creates a fight or flight state that would have saved an early human when he or she was...

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Who Said Women Can’t kill Dragons?

St. Martha did it, and she didn’t even break a sweat Lazarus, Martha, and Mary often entertained the Lord when he came into Bethany. They would sit and talk, listening intently to what the Master had to say. Martha, however, was always full of pluck. After all, she...

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If You Love Someone, Don’t Ask For “Why?”

Love has one answer. “It’s okay.” Someone has told you that you lack something, so he or she doesn’t accept your proposal? Or currently, she has plans, so she is not ready. In other words, people reject you when you confessed your heartfelt love? Everyone encounters...

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Want to Be More Driven? Honor Reflection

Looking back is not easy, but using it to light your creative fire is the secret to your success. As I look back over my life, I can’t help but be thankful for where I am today. Every now and then, memories invade my thoughts and cause me to place a high priority...

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The need to see beyond ourselves

Seeing the hearts of people ripe for God’s harvest Agrarian economies still dominate a good part of the world, so planting and harvesting are important times of the year. They impact the livelihoods of many people. How good the harvest is or isn’t impacts everyone....

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We Only Have One Side of the Story

And that’s okay.  When we sit down to write, we can only write what we know, right?  The fact that stories, especially when relationships are the topic, we can only write OUR VERSION. But you know what? That’s okay. I have been writing a lot lately about the...

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3 Lies That Lead to Writer’s Block

Here’s the truth that will set you free Every writer faces her worst fear at some time.  Writer’s Block.  Even the name sounds awful. There’s a barrier between you and your creativity. Your imagination has to scale a wall that is three feet thick and made of...

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I Want To Help You Say; NO.

Whew! I got through that speech. The one I did not want to do. I know I said YES when they ask me to give the talk to eighty plus old-timers. (I can use ‘old-timers’ since I am one). The most extended hour known to man was mine when I talked about something I knew...

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Weighing the Odds

A Reflection on 3 Mind-boggling, Near Impossible Events “If you set out in a spaceship to find the one planet in the galaxy that has life, the odds against your finding it would be so great that the task would be indistinguishable, in practice, from impossible.”...

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My Life As A Bipolar Introverted Empath

It’s not as fun as it sounds. My husband and I share an office at home. He does IT work while I write, and the arrangement works out well. We sit back to back in our office chairs and hunker down except for the occasional joke or comment that passes between us. We...

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How To Be Authentic In A World Full Of Fakes

“Authenticity is about being true to who you are.” Michael Jordan When I think of the word fake politicians are the first people that come to mind. They talk and talk and talk and make false promises to get your vote. Even when they smile you can feel how full of shit...

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This Is Why You Stop Hating Yourself In Distress.

but, why do we Hate ourselves? Having a heartbreaking experience can cause a fortune. It takes months to notice even slight recovery. I observed from my experiences that when I’m in the healing mode, I feel extreme cynical tragedies. Something passes out of control,...

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Read This If You Feel Stuck and Want to Start All Over

Starting over is all the rage in 2019. We’re always chasing the new, the novel, the fun. We live in an abundant society, but we’re sick of the mundane. Instead of being grateful for what we have, we always want more, more, and even more. Nothing’s ever enough. Maybe...

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7 Little Emails can Launch a Best Seller

The limits of the possible can only be defined by going beyond them into the impossible — Arthur C. Clarke Most launch teams I’ve been on have been a relentless pursuit of time and action. I’m usually sick of hearing from the person I’m trying to help before...

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Are You Afraid of Being Quiet?

Being Quiet is Powerful “Sometimes you need to sit lonely on the floor in a quiet room in order to hear your own voice and not let it drown in the noise of others.” — Charlotte Wriksson All right, everyone! I am here to air a pet peeve of mine and I wonder if others...

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Anxiety, Depression, Healing and God

A letter to my past self, during the hardest time of my life The children are small, your husband is out of town a lot, and the old feelings of panic start to resurface. Where did they come from, these fears that erupt when you’re driving, sitting in a movie theatre...

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When You’re Too Poor To Be Healthy

There has to be a better way. My bottom back tooth is currently throbbing with the white-hot intensity of a thousand suns. It’s my own fault, I know that. After I had a root canal on this particular tooth a year ago, the dentist told me I needed to have a crown put on...

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Your Greatest Fears Are the Greatest Wastes of Time

Quit fearing and get to doing.  As a member of a 12 step fellowship, we talk a lot about fear. We have acronyms. We have its spiritual principle opposite. We talk about how to walk with courage. All of us, including my teensy-weensy wimpy self, can let fear run our...

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The Ugly Truth About Your Spouse Editing Your Masterpiece

Kill your darlings, kill your darlings, even when it breaks your egocentric little scribbler’s heart, kill your darlings. — Stephen King If you ask your spouse to edit your book manuscript, this is what you are asking of your partner.  You are asking your...

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How To Stop Drifting And Start Succeeding

What to do when you’ve recognized you’re drifting If you haven’t read the first post in this series, Stop Doing This One Thing Today, you owe it to yourself to start there. Then, come back and keep reading. You and I are meant for great things. I recently figured...

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What You Need To Know Before Becoming A Digital Nomad

What happens after traveling starts sucking? The other day one of my favorite bloggers (and people) in the world sent a newsletter saying they were going home after 2 straight years on the road. Two years! Think about that for a second and marvel at their bravery. I...

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Make Money on Medium - a Review

Build your audience and grow your income with Medium (dot) com If you only read one book about writing on Medium, make it this little gem by Nicole Akers.  She has packed more information into these pages than you could find in a month of reading “How To Succeed...

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Don’t Wait For Life To Happen

You’re going to run out of days I usually turn my phone off on the weekends because I like peace and quiet. I’ve always loved being in charge of my technology, and if people need me, they can leave a message. On Monday morning I listened to a cryptic voicemail message...

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When No One Will Support You, Support Yourself

When you have a serious goal, it lives inside your mind. It’s a burning desire that doesn’t go away. Even when a bout of demoralization or simple uncreativity strikes, you still have that goal burning. It’s smoldering, perhaps not burning strong, but it’s still there....

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Your Best Creative Self Is Waiting in the Quiet Time

Avoiding the noise comes at a cost that will always be worth it. Our creative minds are often subjected to the cruelest negligence. We dismiss the thought of being alone with our ideas because we assume they’ll either be awful or won’t be useful in any way. Yet, in...

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How To Contribute In People’s Lives.

Share your secrets openly. “It’s the ultimate luxury to combine passion and contribution. It’s also a very clear path to happiness.” — Sheryl Sandberg You want to create something significant, but, you’re unclear. What to do and how it can be accomplished? Everyone...

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How To Take Breaks, Without Feeling Like A Lazy Bumb

Cultivate a relaxed state wherever you are. Despite the well-known benefits of taking breaks, many of us struggle to disconnect from work. More than half of employees end the year with unused time off. This ends up costing employers in more ways than one, such as...

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My Kids Don’t Go For Any After School Classes.

Whenever I happen to meet up with other parents, the conversation eventually goes to, “So what classes are you sending them to?” To which I always reply “None”. In about 2 seconds I am met with a surprised, confused, silent expression which screams “Butwhy?” I am...

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How to Edit a Short Story

A Guide to (Self) Editing and How to Ask For Help “What am I trying to say? What words will express it? What image or idiom will make it clearer? Is this image fresh enough to have an effect?” Then finish with these final two questions: ‘Could I put it more shortly?...

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How to Live Like you are Dying

“Mommy, You’re Dead at 48.” That’s what my daughter said as she climbed into bed next to me this morning, with tears streaming down her face. What do you mean, Honey? You’re dead at 48. I had a nightmare, and I don’t want you to die, Mommy. I want to love...

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How to Know You’re Heading in the Right Direction

Creating landmarks can help you decide if you’re heading in the right direction. Welcome back my fellow travelers on the river of life. If you’re just joining us, I recommend you go back and take a look at where we’ve been so far. We started by recognizing that we...

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Why You Should Worry Less and Pray More

My future step-daughter is having her very first eye doctor appointment this week. She’s absolutely terrified of getting her eyes dilated because one of her friends told her it was painful.  Several times throughout the past weekend, she handed her father a...

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Overcoming Betrayal: How To Move On After Infidelity

And save your relationship Ask anyone in a committed, monogamous relationship, and they’ll probably tell you the same thing. Cheating destroys trust. It’s the lowest blow you could deliver, the ultimate form of betrayal.  Infidelity is often regarded as...

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A Simple Message On the Corner of Selfish and Selfless

To what end are we traveling? How do we return trust and compassion to a world divided by self-absorption? I saw her on a Wednesday morning on my way to pick up some medicine for my cat. She was standing at the corner of Central and Hillside outside of the Spangles...

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How to Become the Best in the World at What You Do

I’ve decided that I want to become the best writer in the world. This is a goal I’ll never reach. I mean, you have Hemingway, Plath, Bukowski, Rowling, King, R.R. Martin, Gladwell, Kafka, Gilbert, and a slew of other writers from ancient to contemporary that are much...

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Stop Doing This One Thing Today

You may not even realize what you’ve been doing wrong.  You are meant for great things.  Let’s start there.  Do you believe it? I’ll bet you do. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this.  Take a few seconds to center yourself. After you’ve read...

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You and your have-no-regrets career. How to map it. Own it.

In the seventh…or maybe ninth…grade, the assignment in English class was to write a philosophy of life. I wish I’d kept it because I have no idea what I ended up with but I remember how difficult it was to write. The problem wasn’t properly putting words together, it...

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Write Despite Your Critics

Because they’ll never be as hard on you as you are, and someone needs to hear your story. A couple of months ago, I published an article where I described how I’d abused my own dogs. It was a terrible, painful, shameful truth that I would have liked to have put in a...

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The Haunting of a Murdered Pigeon

Every once in a while, as I sleep, a pigeon flies through the window in my dreams. Last night was no exception.  It is a the symbol of a lesson. It is a reminder of a traumatic moment in time, that will never leave my memory. I am not a highly spiritual person,...

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What I Did When I Got Lost

Time flows like a river, and there is nothing we can do to go back in time or move forward into the future — so our boat has no oars. We can only steer our way through life at a constant speed — which is why our boat only has a rudder. Let’s talk about how important that rudder is in the right hands.

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The One Thing I Was Missing

So there I was, adrift on the river of life, heading toward… well, I thought I was heading somewhere…
That’s when I realized I was just drifting. Caught up in the currents of life, I mistook motion for progress.

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5 Proven Ways to Be Happy Now

Experts weigh in on implementing your signature strengths to raise your level of happiness “Happiness is the joy we feel striving towards our potential.”-Shawn Achor, author, The Happiness Advantage. I can’t begin to tell a story without sharing why it matters. There...

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You Are Not Responsible For My Feelings

And Vice Versa “But if you would just stop doing that ONE thing that I HATE — then I wouldn’t have to keep reminding you not to do it!” “But if you’d just done what I asked you when I asked you to do it, we wouldn’t be having this conversation!” “But if you were...

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The Key to Good Relationships: Active Listening

Active listening is an often-overlooked but incredibly important social skill, both at work and at home. My very first job interview after graduation did not go as I had expected. It was with some type of startup in the Chicago loop. I had been staying with my...

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Happiness Comes By Sharing Your Part With The World.

Contribute your share. “For 30 years, the society provided you everything, shelter, food, money, friends. Now it’s your time to give it back to people — not for them, but to make yourself happy.” This line is by Mr. Anoop Khanna, who started his retirement with a...

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Here’s the Fastest Way to Get Wiser

Thousands of years ago, King Solomon, one of the great kings of Israel, had a dream. He dreamt God came to him and said, “Ask for whatever you want me to give you.”  In his dream, Solomon considered all the things he could’ve asked for. Israel was constantly at...

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To My Ex-Husband…

….is this why I was so angry all the time? **********************Trigger Warning — Gang Rape******************* I want to tell you this, but it’s a long story and we never have much time. I come to you to see Autumn, she should have my time and love when I am...

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A Time to Plant: A Nod to the Planter

There is a belief that I hold for all of humanity. We all have a purpose and a calling. We are here for a reason. To put this in the context of farming- each of us is called to plant or water. We may do one or the other depending on the season of our lives- perhaps...

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How I Grew Younger And How You Can Too

How was your childhood? If you can say that your childhood and younger adult years were largely stress-free, and happy and healthy, congratulations!  You started young and as long as you appreciate and honor your biological growth processes, and you have used...

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The Power and Strength of Self-Esteem

Isn’t it funny how we are so driven by the way others treat or perceive us?  Think about this for a minute. Someone says something offensive to you, and you feel anger or resentment toward them. Or, a friend comes along and tells you that “you need to update...

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Depending On The Kindness Of Strangers

The world can be a pretty good place Ten years ago, my world began to unravel. I had followed the mantra of my generation. Go to college, get a good job, work at that until you retire. I did this in an unusual way. I joined the Navy, utilized their tuition assistance...

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Madcap Delinquent Prophet on a Scooter

On taking back your power My new electric scooter arrived last week, and I am already hopelessly in love with it. It’s the stand-up kind — I just step on with one foot, kick off with the other foot, and toggle a power switch that glides me forward. Wind in my hair…...

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My Kids Don’t Go For Any After School Classes.

Whenever I happen to meet up with other parents, the conversation eventually goes to, “So what classes are you sending them to?” To which I always reply “None”. In about 2 seconds I am met with a surprised, confused, silent expression which screams “Butwhy?” I am...

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The Day You Realize How Much Your Freelance Work Is Worth

You’ll stop giving discounts I worked a 9 to 5 for most of my life. It was predictable, relatively safe, and I knew how much my time was worth because they told me how much it was worth. I never realized how difficult that last idea was to change until I entered the...

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Personal Branding Strategy (The Emotions Strategy)

This article is about how evoking the right emotions is a personal branding strategy.  For those of you that don’t care what other people think, all you want is to do your job and get out of work. You may want to rethink this approach. Think about what that...

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Freedom of speech: has the blessing become a curse?

Why it matters what we do with our freedoms and liberties Freedom of speech: has the blessing become a curse? Why it matters what we do with our freedoms and liberties Photo by Clem Onojeghuo on Unsplash Freedom of speech is our unalienable right. Or is it?...

Autism and Humanity

I recently read This is Autism by Karen Smart. It is a great read, very human. It made me think back over my son’s life and about my interactions with people who have disabilities. My son is nearly 22 and was diagnosed with autism/learning disabilities when he was 2....

Rejection Is For Writers

There are certain disappointments every writer must face. So you think you want to be a writer? Quit your terrible day job to write whatever you really want to write? It doesn't have to be an impossible pipe dream. Sure, it’s tough. You have to be willing to put in...

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