When the Smoke Clears

When the smoke clears will there be the smoldering ruins of a vast and once gold tinted empire? Will the burned and scorched shoulder bones of a Titan...

Take Off Your Team Jersey

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But...

Join Hands, Give Thanks

I lived through two decades before I discovered that there were people in the world who made dressing with stale bread cubes instead of fresh cornbread. My...

Three Truths About Relationships

The Authentic Journey of a Professional Counselor I normally spend the first moments of most mornings on the front porch swing. It’s become a place of...

Omaha Beach & the American Cemetery

There are so, so many markers placed so carefully in ordered rows over so much ground. One comes and it finds you in whatever way it does. You find it, too,...

3 Reasons That I Am Unable to Face Remembrance Day Ceremonies

3 Reasons That I Am Unable to Face Remembrance Day Ceremonies Triggers of Anxiety and Trauma My partner Dave attends our local Remembrance Day ceremony every...

Trust Me It’s Hard: Confessions Of A Porn Addict

A Quick Guide to Porn Addiction There are many types of addictions that exist in our society today. From drugs to alcohol, from people who are addicted to...

One Clap, Two Claps, 50 Claps

Just My Mind’s Wanderings Okay, this picture is not my brain. When I first started writing on medium I tried to figure out the process, the algorithm (I used...

New Feelings

Newfound feelings of peace and love Abundantly alive within my spirit, Not sure from where or how they came Enjoying pleasant warmth they bring today. Waves...

The Caravan of the Desert

“No sign of water, No sign of vegetation, No sign of human habitation. We are doomed in this Desert” shouted a migrant of the Caravan. The Caravan mostly...

Are You Settling for Second Best in the Game of Life?

How to Get Back on Track Do you find yourself just trying to get through the day? As much as I talk about living in the present, I don’t always practice what...

A Way to Stillness

Epode to Tao You’ll find me in emptiness and stillness Though life in abundance, eternal continual of existence When accepting the constant with an open mind...

5 Easy Ways to Make Medium Work For You

How to increase your following with honest techniques. Medium is the place that set light to my writing. I have been writing on this platform for six months....

Things I learned from the Ninja Turtles

My childhood was chaotic to say the least. But there was one thing I could always count on. And that was Saturday morning cartoons. My favorite, as you might...

Try This Incredible Mind Hack, If You Have Anxiety

If you scoured this whole planet you wouldn’t be able to find a single person who hasn’t been in the grips of anxiety at some point in their life. Don’t be...

Am I Walking What I’m Talking?

I could have shown you the fat mouse we caught in the trap; the one whose leg was still flailing, trying to escape, but sorry, the camera wasn’t my first...

I Crossed 5000 Followers for the First Time

And This is What I learned on the way. 5000 followers do not appear like a big deal. But it is not a small number also. And it took me a little less than 2...

How To Find The Thing That Gets Your Blood Racing, Your True Passion

A feeling that no words can describe What exactly is a ‘life passion,’ you ask? Passion: an “intense, driving, or overmastering feeling of conviction.” That...

A Useful Perspective On Your Greatest Goals

Goals are meant to give us a direction in life, right? Without them, how could we carve a path in all this mess? We always must have an end-goal, something we...

Winds of Change Are Blowing

The moving air around me  has given me new light. I feel the cold air blowing,  into the solitude of night. There’s something morphing, an odd sensation. I’m...

How Amazing it is that God Creates Powerful Encounters?

Telling my #storybystory We met while curling. For those of you who haven’t heard of this game — it is played on ice with rocks or stones. You slide the rocks...

Why it’s time to stop saying, “I’m not into fiction.”

You are missing out: Extolling the value and virtues of reading FICTION — Part I My heart always misses a beat when I hear people say: “I don’t read fiction.”...

Fixing Your Brain: A Guide to Balancing Neurotransmitters

Understanding, Troubleshooting, and Addressing a major component in Mental Illness and Chronic Conditions Neurotransmitters are signaling chemicals in our...

Why I’ll Never Forget Cody Coffman

My heart is broken into a thousand pieces today. Twelve people died a few days ago in Thousand Oaks, California, at the hands of a gunman at Borderline Bar...

The Fear of The Empty Page And How to Deal With It

Blank Page. White screen. It seems to you like all those 26 letters, don’t want to bind them self in words and sentences. These are those moments when those...

The Importance of a Kickstand

A childhood lesson on leading by example and accepting that which you cannot control. I was in the back seat of the car, Mom and Dad in front and we were...

Picture What Is Possible…Using Old Tools to Get New Results

Now is the Perfect Time to Strategize for 2019 “It is a universal principle that you get more of what you think about, talk about, and feel strongly about.”...

Hurt by Just Words

A Poetic Shout-Out You know, words can hurt One word, that is the start An expression uttered for my ears to hear Did you know they were my biggest fear? The...

How a parent’s affection shapes a child’s happiness for life

We all live busy, stressful lives and have endless concerns as parents, but it is clear that one of the most important things we need to do is to stop and...

Absolutely Grateful For A Wonderful New Day – Photos

Spoiler Alert — I’m Not Really There Yet, But I’m Working On It “Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.” — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in...

Author Spotlight: Shayne Seymour

Shayne SeymourSee more of Shayne’s work here

I’m just a regular guy!

I’m shy, an introvert. I don’t make enough money (yet) to travel the world and drive an Audi. I’m mentally exhausted after a long day at the office.

I want to spend more time with my family.

I’m frustrated and struggling just like you.

Just like you, I’ve got a spouse, kids, a pet who deserve my time. Just like you, I’ve got bills to pay, but never enough time–and sometimes not enough money–to pay them.

I have faith though.

I’m working to get to where I can give my family and friends the time they deserve and take my family on travels all over the world. I’ll probably pass on the sports car thing.

I’m going to build a life of my own and document it right here. In my blogcumentary. I’m going to show my kids that they never have to feel stuck. I want to show you that too, because…

If I can do it, you can do it.

And I’m doing it.

I’m not a guru. I’m an anti-guru. What does that even mean? I can’t tell you what to do. I just come up with ideas and try things that you can also try. I read every book and blog I can find and listen to every podcast I can find.

I’ll make some calls if I have to!

Whether you want to cheer me on or join me (or jeer me, but that would just be mean), this is the place, IndependentlyHappy.com. Let’s go. 

Bring your questions for @IndyHayHay to #PubChat on Twitter this Wednesday, November 14th at 8 pm Central.

5 Easy Ways to Make Medium Work For You

How to increase your following with honest techniques. Medium is the place that set light to my writing. I have been writing on this platform for six months. I learn something new every day and I love it. Medium is a place to write, as well as a place to read. It is...

The Fear of The Empty Page And How to Deal With It

Blank Page. White screen. It seems to you like all those 26 letters, don’t want to bind them self in words and sentences. These are those moments when those questions pop up in your mind. Where I should start? What should I write about? A nightmare? Disease? Nearly...

The Importance of a Kickstand

A childhood lesson on leading by example and accepting that which you cannot control. I was in the back seat of the car, Mom and Dad in front and we were about a half a block from our house when I saw it. My old bicycle, lying down on the ground in the front yard of a...

4 Simple Strategies To Strengthen Your Marriage

I have been married for more than 26 years. That doesn’t make me an expert, but I have learned a few things in the past couple of decades about making relationships work. If you’re married then you know it’s not always easy to get along. It takes some effort. Here are...

How to Eradicate a Kitchen Faucet

Our kitchen faucet suffered from a worsening water drip for years. An embarrassingly significant stream of water appeared this year. We spend excessive time delicately readjusting the faucet position with every use. At times, we succeeded in exiting the kitchen before...

that’s when

I’m walking on wet ground bare feet touch the grass I see life in their green limbs that’s when I know the earth is happy. The unseen passes through me along with it, memories and wishes I find myself reminiscing that’s when I realized creation is blessed. I live in a...

When I Get Old

Just when the day wanes longer, Legs and body not getting any stronger, Memory short and not clear, Times of ending days are near. Hair turns from gray to white, And it seems like you’re not feeling right. When you’re hearing turns quiet And you’re not as fit but put...

A Collection of Inspirational Quotes to Restore Your Soul

Over the last number of years, I have undergone profound spiritual and personal transformation and received heart and soul based knowledge through direct experience but also, for example, during mediation or rest. I have kept most of this information locked away in...

How to enjoy life more through a simple realization

We have Linkin Park to thank for. It’s easy to get lost in the storm of life. Simply because one thing happens that leads to another and so on. It’s an endless chain of action-consequences. We gotta do that and this, we gotta go here and there. We are always on a run,...

The Best Advice You Didn’t Take

There seems to be no shortage of advice when you are undertaking a new adventure. Whether purchasing a car or getting married, everyone seems to have something to offer to persuade you one way or the other. This is especially true if you have an idea and want to run...

When the Smoke Clears

When the smoke clears will there be the smoldering ruins of a vast and once gold tinted empire? Will the burned and scorched shoulder bones of a Titan blackened by the fires that burned so bright in heart lay among the broken glass and seared concrete? Or will just be...

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Take Off Your Team Jersey

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” — Friedrich Nietzsche The crowd cheers as...

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Join Hands, Give Thanks

I lived through two decades before I discovered that there were people in the world who made dressing with stale bread cubes instead of fresh cornbread. My oldest sister’s second husband, the nice one, was from somewhere up North. New York, I think. He had dark,...

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Three Truths About Relationships

The Authentic Journey of a Professional Counselor I normally spend the first moments of most mornings on the front porch swing. It’s become a place of reflection, prayer and a hot cup of coffee. My authentic journey has led me to become a professional counselor as a...

read more

Omaha Beach & the American Cemetery

There are so, so many markers placed so carefully in ordered rows over so much ground. One comes and it finds you in whatever way it does. You find it, too, like partners in some strange kind of a dance, or round one fighters in the ring. Because that’s how it feels...

read more

Trust Me It’s Hard: Confessions Of A Porn Addict

A Quick Guide to Porn Addiction There are many types of addictions that exist in our society today. From drugs to alcohol, from people who are addicted to exercise to those addicted to food — there are more addictions than most people realize. One of the most...

read more

One Clap, Two Claps, 50 Claps

Just My Mind’s Wanderings Okay, this picture is not my brain. When I first started writing on medium I tried to figure out the process, the algorithm (I used the word). Realizing I had the potential to be paid for things I wrote, my interest rose even higher. I could...

read more

New Feelings

Newfound feelings of peace and love Abundantly alive within my spirit, Not sure from where or how they came Enjoying pleasant warmth they bring today. Waves wash gently through my heart Unexplained but deeply felt, Calmness as this morning breaks Light revealing...

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The Caravan of the Desert

“No sign of water, No sign of vegetation, No sign of human habitation. We are doomed in this Desert” shouted a migrant of the Caravan. The Caravan mostly consisted of tribal communities who move about from place to place in different seasons in search of livelihood,...

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Are You Settling for Second Best in the Game of Life?

How to Get Back on Track Do you find yourself just trying to get through the day? As much as I talk about living in the present, I don’t always practice what I preach. These last few weeks, I’ve been operating purely in reaction mode. My ever-growing list of...

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A Way to Stillness

Epode to Tao You’ll find me in emptiness and stillness Though life in abundance, eternal continual of existence When accepting the constant with an open mind With compassion and even-handedness While understanding the equality, cadence of creations In effortless peace...

read more

5 Easy Ways to Make Medium Work For You

How to increase your following with honest techniques. Medium is the place that set light to my writing. I have been writing on this platform for six months. I learn something new every day and I love it. Medium is a place to write, as well as a place to read. It is...

read more

Absolutely Grateful For A Wonderful New Day – Photos

Spoiler Alert — I’m Not Really There Yet, But I’m Working On It “Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.” — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart Today dawned after I’d been working for several hours. No, I haven’t suddenly decided to rise at...

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4 Simple Strategies To Strengthen Your Marriage

I have been married for more than 26 years. That doesn’t make me an expert, but I have learned a few things in the past couple of decades about making relationships work. If you’re married then you know it’s not always easy to get along. It takes some effort. Here are...

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How Can Art Battle Against Human Trafficking?

A look at the first 5 days of creative art in YELLOW. For the past 5 days I have drawn a picture to go with a prayer scripture. One every day. And the pictures had to be in yellow. Yes — yellow. I am advocating against human trafficking working with IJMCanada...

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Strange Convergences

Random thoughts curiously fulfilled One day when I was in high school, a curious question popped into my head: What must it have been like to be an early Christians bringing the Gospel to Rome? I have no idea why I wondered, nor do I recall actually speculating on it,...

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Stretch Marks and Scars

And the Beauty that Grows Beneath I’m 36 weeks pregnant, down to those final, uncomfortable weeks. Eager to give Baby an eviction notice. Last night, I was praying when a kick stretched the dry skin on my belly more than usual. My prayer about other areas of our lives...

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Contentment and Freedom

Contentment with our place in life Contentment with its rhythmic flow, Watching new scenes unfold each day With changing nature of what is seen. Contentment in earth’s simple beauty Desiring no new toys with which to play, This contentment brings real freedom Freedom...

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How to find your off switch and use it to your advantage

Almost any entrepreneur can tell you what excites them because it’s a speech they’ve given hundreds of times. It’s their motivator to get up in the morning, to keep working long hours, and to do the work even when they haven’t seen success yet. Passion keeps the...

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A Guide to Self-Improvement with Zero Self-Sabatoging

Moving forward without beating yourself up  It’s frustrating when your personal development journey doesn’t come to the destination you expect it to be. The reason solely lies on the fact that a wrong mindset in self-help scenario has been so wide-spread than ever....

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Everyone’s Obsession With Not Being Average

It will ultimately be your downfall Youtube, Instagram, Facebook, wherever you look, there is another “entrepreneur” who drops one of those inspirational quotes. They tell people to go out there and make a 6 figure income because they shouldn’t work a “9 to 5 job”....

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Things I learned from the Ninja Turtles

My childhood was chaotic to say the least. But there was one thing I could always count on. And that was Saturday morning cartoons. My favorite, as you might be able to guess from the title of this article, was the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. I learned many life...

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Try This Incredible Mind Hack, If You Have Anxiety

If you scoured this whole planet you wouldn’t be able to find a single person who hasn’t been in the grips of anxiety at some point in their life. Don’t be fooled by those putting on a happy front either, they have all had their fair share of moments too. We are after...

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Am I Walking What I’m Talking?

I could have shown you the fat mouse we caught in the trap; the one whose leg was still flailing, trying to escape, but sorry, the camera wasn’t my first thought at the time. When my husband went to flush it down the toilet it revived and tried swimming and I was...

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I Crossed 5000 Followers for the First Time

And This is What I learned on the way. 5000 followers do not appear like a big deal. But it is not a small number also. And it took me a little less than 2 years and more than 800 articles to reach the figure. But more than the stats, the sinusoidal curve was a...

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3 Tips to Speed Up Your Writing

If I waited till I felt like writing, I’d never write at all There is absolutely no denying that writing can be a dreary and draining task. Pulitzer Prize-winning American novelist and short story writer, Anne Tyler, once said, “If I waited till I felt like writing,...

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How to Shut Down, Kick Back, and Achieve Balance In Your Life

You can do anything but not everything “It’s all about quality of life and finding a happy balance between work and friends and family” — Philip Green “Life is all about balance. You don’t always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it’s perfectly okay, and...

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How to Succeed by Deciding to Fail

At a recent writer’s conference (Jeff Goins’ Tribe conference), I heard a speaker, Joseph Michael, author of the online course Learn Scrivener Fast, say he was thankful for his failures. I’d always known intellectually that failures are good for you. As long as you...

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Exercise Overviews: Understanding Your Options

A Guide to Understanding the Most Popular Forms of Exercise, What They’re For, And How To Use Them Exercise is a broad term referring generally to physical activity for the purpose of improvement. However, what you are improving varies depending on the kind of...

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Driving In Lower Gear

Or with the emergency brake on. Spinning your wheels won’t get you too far, especially if you’re driving in lower gear, or heaven forbid if you forgot to take off the parking brake. You will be exerting much more energy than necessary, while not making the progress...

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The Day I Met Sir Ken Robinson

Several years ago, I had a magical experience, one that I nearly missed. The end result was me sitting in a Seattle restaurant on a Thursday night next to Sir Ken Robinson, he of the famous TED Talk on how schools are squelching creativity in children with nearly 54...

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Practice Makes Prolific

That’s Why I’m Grateful for It To a writer, not much is worse than writer’s block. I rarely have writer’s block, though. I’m open to the notion that it could be because I’m not an actual writer, but it’s not something I dwell on. It’s probably just another futile...

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How to Eradicate a Kitchen Faucet

Our kitchen faucet suffered from a worsening water drip for years. An embarrassingly significant stream of water appeared this year. We spend excessive time delicately readjusting the faucet position with every use. At times, we succeeded in exiting the kitchen before...

read more

A Useful Perspective On Your Greatest Goals

Goals are meant to give us a direction in life, right? Without them, how could we carve a path in all this mess? We always must have an end-goal, something we strive for every day. Go to the library and get any self-help book. Chances are you’ll stumble upon pieces of...

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Winds of Change Are Blowing

The moving air around me  has given me new light. I feel the cold air blowing,  into the solitude of night. There’s something morphing, an odd sensation. I’m allowing it to engulf me A wind of change is here. It’s like a new epiphany. I embrace the cold, but fear it’s...

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How Amazing it is that God Creates Powerful Encounters?

Telling my #storybystory We met while curling. For those of you who haven’t heard of this game — it is played on ice with rocks or stones. You slide the rocks down the ice toward the target. The team captain is called the skip, next is the vice, then the second and...

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Fixing Your Brain: A Guide to Balancing Neurotransmitters

Understanding, Troubleshooting, and Addressing a major component in Mental Illness and Chronic Conditions Neurotransmitters are signaling chemicals in our brains. They are responsible for our moods, motivation, energy, learning ability, and much, much more. When our...

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Discoveries Anew

Cool autumn air kisses my face Awakening in a new season here, Brisk realities in day beckoning Sun slowly rising in eastern sky. Birds sing choruses in their flights Season’s migrations to warmer south, Changing seasons, changing views Earth continues on natural...

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Fresh Mercy

Every morning God’s mercy is fresh and new Have you ever smelled fresh-baked bread as it comes out of the oven? I remember mornings in the Philippines when I’d walk by a bakery and smell the fresh pan de sal rolls baked fresh every day. It makes me hungry just...

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10 Ways to Become the best Father in the world

Life just keeps getting busy and as a result of that, many more families are broken and many more kids are getting frustrated as a result of that. In this article, I take a deep dive as to how you can become a more loving and understanding father. Just follow me along...

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You Are Not a Bad Person When You Struggle

“when you meet someone, treat them as if they were in serious trouble, and you will be right more than half the time.”  — Henry B. Eyring We all struggle. We all suffer. We all have weaknesses. You, me, and everyone we have ever met or will ever meet is the same way....

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What You Need To Do Before You Even Sit Down To Write

The act of writing is meant to be smooth and fluid. In other words, once you start writing, the words should spontaneously be typed out and you should be expressing yourself clearly and with flair. There is very little brainstorming or analysis during the writing...

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Laughmares and Time Travel

19th day in Spain You lose half a day traveling from the central time zone to Madrid. 7 hours disappear from your life. Your watch and phone adapt as soon as you power them on in your new time zone, but it can take your body a few days to catch up. The Tale of...

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We Need to Teach Our Kids to Blog: The Hows and the Whys

Writers are an emotional breed. We all know that. We also know that through the art of writing, we are able to unleash those emotions. They get out of our brains and hearts, and are exposed for the world to see, or they are tucked away in a notebook, so we can see...

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Finding strength in hard times

You are more capable than you know! I am sitting with my mom at the hospital, ready to pass out, having fasted for 24 hours for a colonoscopy exam. Good times. I am thinking of my dad, who, just over two months ago passed away from cancer. It was the most atrocious...

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Why Women Won’t Admit What’s Wrong

And it's killing us... Months before I got my diagnosis, I knew something was amiss. I felt strange, simultaneously wired and exhausted and the pounds were falling off despite consuming vast quantities of cake and cookies in an effort to keep going. I was twenty-four....

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A Collection of Inspirational Quotes to Restore Your Soul

Over the last number of years, I have undergone profound spiritual and personal transformation and received heart and soul based knowledge through direct experience but also, for example, during mediation or rest. I have kept most of this information locked away in...

read more

Why I’ll Never Forget Cody Coffman

My heart is broken into a thousand pieces today. Twelve people died a few days ago in Thousand Oaks, California, at the hands of a gunman at Borderline Bar and Grill. It’s a country-style bar frequented by young people complete with music and line dancing. It’s also...

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The Fear of The Empty Page And How to Deal With It

Blank Page. White screen. It seems to you like all those 26 letters, don’t want to bind them self in words and sentences. These are those moments when those questions pop up in your mind. Where I should start? What should I write about? A nightmare? Disease? Nearly...

read more

The Importance of a Kickstand

A childhood lesson on leading by example and accepting that which you cannot control. I was in the back seat of the car, Mom and Dad in front and we were about a half a block from our house when I saw it. My old bicycle, lying down on the ground in the front yard of a...

read more

Hurt by Just Words

A Poetic Shout-Out You know, words can hurt One word, that is the start An expression uttered for my ears to hear Did you know they were my biggest fear? The way you spoke, I just wanted it to end What you’ve said took so long for my heart to mend Endless days where I...

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Things to do in November

You will want to live in bed all day, to eat more carbs, to begin, like the black bear, to fill yourself in anticipation of long sleep. Make it to work anyway. Pay rent with the money you are making and buy new boots for your sweetheart. His feet are already wet with...

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Revelation

If you love me like you say that you do, if you truly feel that way, careful what you say and do, when it’s separate from what you say. You tell me that you love me, but in your heart you know, merely words upon the breeze, what do you do to show? Syllables without...

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Yanni: His music can stir your soul and melt your heart

Thankful for 25 years of EXTRAORDINARY music “I don’t want to relax the audience; I want to engage them in the music, get them interested. My music can be very rhythmic, very energetic, and even very ethnic.” — Yanni Yanni originally known as Yiannis Chryssomallis was...

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Who Did You Help Today?

How did you make the world around you better? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson Recently, I have taken some time...

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5 Productivity Hacks That Will Change Your Work Life

Life is honestly hard. It’s full of so many chores that have to be done and errands that need to be run. You can attest to the fact that most at times, most of these activities stand in the way of the stuff you actually want to do. If you’re feeling burnt out due to...

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Why Do Women Call Each Other Sluts?

Glenna Scott is a slut! That’s what it said in the girls’ room in one of the stalls. I might have never seen it if I didn’t stop to go to the bathroom between third and fourth periods. The writing was large and in black marker, and my heart pounded like a fist in the...

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Dear John,

Let’s face it, I stopped crying, the tears have had years for drying, if you heard that I’ve been missing you, I can assure my aim will improve. A little tip for the next one on the menu, keep expectations low, and he’ll convince you. As for me, my palate is more...

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Nocturnal Visitors

Visits from a Leopard and a Pride of Lions. “Before dawn, as with the leopard, the lions simply melted away into the bush as though they had never been there.” In the 1950’s, Senanga, Barotseland, a remote settlement on the banks of the Zambesi, provided the setting...

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Most Curious

Not all who wander are lost, not every soul seeks home, not every heart wants companionship, lonely does not always mean alone. Company is not a crowd, nor is love always shared, beauty is individual, unique, be careful when you care. We give the things freely, that...

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Layers Upon Layers of Social Media

When you try and gain exposure as a writer, something very surreal can happen. In an attempt to reach readers, you can get caught up, and tangled up in a spiraling, deep hole of Social Media. I have learned this recently, and am trying to crawl out of it. But it’s not...

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The Journey of a Boer Kid

The Journey of a Boer Kid Photo by Artem Sapegin on Unsplash I went out through the creaking door of my house in the misty morning. Not much was visible in the foreground. The ground was soggy and the air had a terrible smell. The occasional grunting of vultures was...

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Lest I am called a Bible Thumper

I used to think that I would lose my creativity in Faith. The more content I created, the more my faith was more pronounced in my Faith. It has been the most conflicting part of this journey, trying to figure out where the two are intertwined, and why my Faith finds...

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Do You Want to Share Something that Will Make People Weep

TRIBE Conference 2018 Take-a-Ways and Then Some… I did something new last week. At 56 years old, I flew away on a plane by myself for the first time. Well, there were other people on the plane of course, but this was a new milestone for me. I’ll tell you why… My...

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The Wheels on the Bike Go ‘Round and ‘Round

I flipped through the glossy pages of a fashion magazine and there, alongside an article on how to dress for a summer party, I spotted a glossy ad featuring a slim model posed gracefully alongside her Schwinn. I thought about the pants in my closet that no longer fit,...

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The Descent

Finding my range I was a soprano. I sang at church for years. I wasn’t that good. Some said I was great. Some said I was gifted. Some said I was “anointed” (I know what that means). I had a few professional lessons. I was nervous when I sang in front of others. My...

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Creative Forces

Creative forces daily enrich our lives Whether our own, or works of others, Beautiful paintings and sculptures admired And stories and poetry touching emotions. Never quite sure how inspirations received Or exactly how they will ultimately evolve, With feelings...

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A Writer Doesn’t Need A Wingman

I work in a world of collaboration, I’m sure you do too. Teamwork is the ‘new black’ of our age. We’re told over and over teams are important. Companies spend countless dollars converting their offices so they’re wide open spaces with no walls. Consultants and other...

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Stone by Stone She Builds

A prosody Stone by stone she builds Rock on rock formations With every stone, she hopes To find her transformation Photo by Martine Weber A volcano so perpendicular To the clouds, always hiding Her crater lies in shadows On a plate almost submerging Dormant volcano...

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No One Is A Weed

A Poem For Abuse Awareness in November We are, but dandelions… We are here for such a short time. When we go what seeds will we sow to the earth? Abuse is not only a “They” word. It is a “We” word. It is an “I” word. Once upon a meadow dandelions grew Free and wild...

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How To Make Money With YouTube

“To me, YouTube isn’t just, ‘Watch my videos!’ It’s, ‘Let’s have a conversation and get involved in each other’s lives.’ I want to make [my fans] feel like they have a reason to have a YouTube account because they can comment and have a voice” — Shane Dawson You may...

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Can Kindness Be Taught?

I assumed that I would be the one to remind or “teach” this concept to the students. But it was just as often they who taught me, and each other, about it. Maybe more. In 1993, I proposed to a group of parents the basic philosophy and concepts of what a year later...

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What Frazzled Moms Really Need

It isn’t medication… A friend of mine gets paid to talk women out of taking medication. No, that’s not her real job title. It’s not even IN her job description, but she works in social care and discovered it as a serendipitous sidebar to her services. These women are...

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When a Child has “behaviors”

In my day to day career, I hear this term DAILY. “Oh, he/she has “behaviors” and we can’t deal with him”. My career is in the child care industry. My role is to visit every type of early childcare program (daycares, preschools, out of school cares and day homes). I...

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Done Is Better Than Perfect

The worst enemy to creativity is self doubt. Sylvia Plath They say that everyone has a novel inside them. Maybe you know someone who is hard at work on theirs. You read their comments online or chat with them at an event. They tell you they’ve been working on it for a...

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We All Begin as Strangers

Heads up!! This post references Tom Waits & Bette Midler! In my efforts to encourage my kindness students to do something kind for someone they don’t know, I often reference a song by Tom Waits, what Waits recorded as a duet with Bette Midler. It’s called “I Never...

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Bible Stories About Confidence

Are you a Christian in the workplace who struggles with confidence and you have been praying for a solution? Then this article is for you. Many times, you grapple with finding your voice as a member of the team. You have the skills and the expertise, yet like other...

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The Boy Who Could Hear Your Thoughts

I can hear you saying, “Wait, what?!” 👇 👇 👇 Part 1 👇 👇 👇 The Boy Who Could Hear Your Thoughts A Superpower That Could Drive You Crazymedium.comKid People…are…crazy. That is what I think after hearing everyone’s thoughts. After I could hear my Mom, I went over to my...

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Have You Lost Hope in Humanity (Especially Teenagers)?

3 Pointers for Renewing Your Faith Ok, so that headline was a bit tongue-in-cheek. But honestly, it’s been a tough week. I was thinking I’d take a break from posting. But today I heard a talk that was packed with so many great lessons, I had to write about it. Rabbi...

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What is Your “Enough?”

The word ENOUGH, in and of itself, is so powerful in our language. It is as empowering as you wish it to be, in whatever context you apply it to. What is “Enough Happy”? What is enough “success?” Are we ever happy enough? Content enough? Do we ever really make enough...

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Everything Happens For You, Not To You

I’ve recently become a personal-growth coach, and one of the concepts that I teach is how to change your mindset. So when I stumbled upon this quote from Byron Katie on Brooke Castillo’s, The Life Coach School podcast, I was in complete awe. I absolutely LOVED this...

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Kindness is Natural to Human Beings

Last December, the New York Times published an article called “Can Kindness Be Taught.” The author, Richard Schiffman, reached out to me while doing his research for the article, having heard about my work promoting kindness in schools and beyond. The day the article...

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My Husband’s Journey From Agnosticism to Faith

We were separated by a kitchen counter no wider than two feet, but we might as well have been separated by an ocean as vast and cold as the Arctic. His words were widening the gulf between us, causing my heart to sink. “We can’t marry unless we have the same belief...

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You Loved Me More

In the Fall of 2010, I met my first husband, David. We dated briefly and quickly moved in with one another. I soon found out I was pregnant, and we married a few months later. It sounds unremarkable because it was. There was no cutesy proposal, bridal or bachelor...

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Einstein and Lao Tzu Shooting Dice in Nirvana

Mathematicians have chiseled reality down to fit square holes but reality’s round peg origins are always apparent. Bloody sweat dripped by hammering buffoons lubricates but never illuminates. When slide-rulers become swords governments can justify collateral damage...

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Self-Reliance: Necessary for the Future?

“The best lightning rod for your own protection is your own spine.” Ralph Waldo Emerson Being self-reliant these days is beginning to disappear. I mean you have many people receiving some sort of paycheck or subsidies. According to the US Census Bureau data released...

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Forgiven Many Times Over

My interpretation of the White Chocho’s visit We drove to the mountains to be one with nature and to celebrate my birthday. Both feats were equally accomplished, thank you very much. In a blog post on my website, I’ll share amazing pictures of scenery. Today I’ll tell...

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This is Where You Go to Practice Mindfulness

“And into the forest I go, to lose my mind and find my soul. — John Muir” Japan’s innovation and unique pop culture have drawn globetrotters and backpackers the world over. The “Land of the Rising Sun,” has introduced everything from leading-edge technology to...

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You Don’t Like Me?

Awww….Am So Okay With It!! This article intends to deal with the part of your mind that keeps you feeling awful for Mr/Ms. X not liking you. I know it sounds much easier than it really is, but this trick does work — though the execution might be a little difficult!...

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Letting Go Of What I Thought I Looked Like

And embracing what I ACTUALLY look like is an ongoing process, but I like to think I’m getting there. About two years ago, I came across a model search for a plus-size boutique that one of my good friends used to work at. They had lovely clothes, and I’d done a little...

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Ten Mindful Quotes For A Positive Lifestyle

I have a mind to read quotes. Why? Because quotes rattle around in my brain till the thought strikes home. Word nuggets! That’s what they are, digestible chunks of knowledge encrusted in gold and silver for our brains. Only one component needed by us, the WISDOM to...

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The Spell

Whispered secrets in cemeteries, oaths made in blood and flesh, on this all hallows eve, witches take fancy, ascend into flight, cross silver moons if you believe. Dance around the mouths of graves, envoke the spirits past, break thru the realms of death, misbehave,...

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Separation’s Tears

Jasiel cries himself asleep in darkness Lonely in his dusty tent, Tears of fear breed more panic Separated from Ritza and Andrus. Jasiel forcibly removed in Georgia, Only knows he is somewhere in Texas In crowded tents with lonely children, Never knowing where parents...

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In Praise of the Regional Airport – a Travel Gift

If you’re lucky, you live near one. Wait, are those open check-in counters for real? Where are the snaking lines? Where’s the litter? The jostling crowds? It’s Albany International Airport serving New York’s Capital Region, eastern New York State and Western...

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Prayer and Work Go Hand in Hand

A motto of St. Benedict’s was “Ora et labora.” The Latin phrase with a somewhat catchy rhythm translates as the command, “Pray and work.” (I’m glad I’ve got a handle on this notion since I go to a Benedictine college campus.) This simple little sentence carries with...

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Love or Career – How to Make the Right Choice

Love and career can go hand in hand with a little effort She was Smart. She was ambitious And she knew she will have an amazing career. But she was also a diehard romantic who also wanted love in her life. Then he got transferred to Detroit (a no-option transfer. Go...

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10 Ways to Become a More Productive Writer

81 percent of the U.S. population wants to write a book, but in the end, only two percent of that number end up accomplishing that goal. This speaks volumes concerning the fact that to be a writer there is much that is required of you. I have come to understand that...

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Walking In My Nearly-Winter Wonderland–Photos

Frost Poems and Pictures My Halloween tree has shed its last leaves, now bare and ready for the fall’s finale. The end of grey and tan, ocher and rust. The snows have come. Sifting down in the cold, pre-dawn light, the little specks glide past my window, covering roof...

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6 Qualities Everyone Should Possess

When I was growing up I heard numerous examples of people bragging about how much money they made or how many women they slept with. Everyone it seemed had a big mouth and love to brag and brag. I admit that I started to look up to these individuals and believed what...

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This is How Your Mortality Helps You Live

“You only live 26,000 days. I’m going to wear them all out.” — Quincy Jones My relationship with my mortality has gone from non-existent, to denial, to finally one of companionship. But today, I’m inspired by my impending fatality, and not in some ominous way. Knowing...

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11 of the Best Quotes from Jeff Goins’ Tribe Conference

Tribe Conference will take a writer’s life from good to great. It will change your life if you let it. I’ve been in attendance for 3 years running, and I’ve already purchased my ticket for next year too. If you want to purchase a ticket for next year you can do so...

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Fantasy vs. Reality

Or Man’s Ideas VS. Women’s Reality Fantasy: It should only take an hour to clean the house. Reality:  ( My reality anyway…) An hour to prepare for actual cleaning. Tidying up, putting stuff away in various rooms, getting sidetracked by other messes… By the time one...

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A Very Short Guide to Writing Like an Anarchist

Are you ready to break the rules? The way he carried himself showed that he had the presence of someone that has been through some rough s**t, and… …that he was just inches away from a much-needed retirement. Like always, he slowly walked into the class — expensive...

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Don’t Procrastinate to Write Your Story

Every individual has some kind of fear in starting a new task or continuing an existing task. A kid fears to go to school alone, a sportsperson feels the proverbial “butterflies in the stomach” before going to the arena, an astronaut feels anxious prior to his launch...

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Befriend Solitude And Discover That You’re Not Alone

“Solitude is where one discovers one is not alone” — Marty Rubin Put Your Life In Perspective Being in your own company gives you the chance to see where you’re heading in terms of your relationships, career, and spiritual evolution. If you spend at least a half an...

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What If I’m Not A “Real” Christian?

I have a cross to bear, and her name is Stacy. We met when we were both in tenth grade during gym class. Our group was walking back to the school after outdoor basketball, and I wasn’t paying attention and ran directly into a gate. My nose slammed against the handle...

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Religion vs. Religion

Has our belief disunited us as a species? From the beginning of civilization, religion or belief has existed. The belief in a God, a Divine Power, who is in control of everything that is created, is something that has provided aid to the development of the human mind...

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Shatter your expectations to make self-care a reality

Some people talk about self-care as though we can snap our fingers and, like magic, we’re suddenly putting ourselves first. They write articles like ‘5 steps to putting yourself first’ and ‘why you should put yourself first’ like the tips are the solution to our...

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Assumptions: Making an Ass Out of U and Me

Drawing Conclusions Without Enough Evidence We make assumptions every day. We assume the world will keep on turning and that the sun will rise every day. Assumptions like these are based upon a lifetime of experience, but sometimes we make assumptions which we accept...

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Freedom from Others’ Concept of Freedom

17th Day in Spain Life isn’t linear, is it? It meanders about, like water. When water flows down a hill, it doesn’t flow down a straight line. It takes the best path along the Earth’s surface. Water is good at finding the best path. The best path may not be as obvious...

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The Factual Job of the Independent Writer

It’s a Tough Gig to Put Yourself All in With no Idea Whether You’ll Sink or Swim Monday, 3:00 AM, Iowa time. The aroma of freshly brewed coffee fills the air as flames dance in the fireplace. The glowing glare of my laptop monitor stabs into my sleepy eyes. I feel...

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Are You Controlled By Your Emotions? 7 Signs That Say You Are

“Where we have strong emotions, we’re liable to fool ourselves” — Carl Sagan Do you control your emotions or do your emotions control you? Everyone likes to think they have control over their emotions, but there are plenty of common signs that show that it’s quite...

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Beautiful Lessons From My Ugly Painting

A few weekends ago, I had a yearning to paint something. Trust me when I tell you, I AM NO PAINTER, but my dear mom in law gifted me with some canvasses and paint brushes with encouragement to create something. She is a very talented artist and I feel like an awkward...

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I Saw a Ghost on Halloween

The first time I met Mary was at my daughter Vanessa’s twelfth birthday party. She arrived with her son Hunter, one of Vanessa’s best friends, about an hour after the party started. Vanessa saw their car pull up from our window and squealed with delight as she and her...

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Ignorance

We are born free yet we are in chains like Cain who striked his own Able not in vain, but in so much pain yet we are able to strike our own brothers and it doesn't even bother for an item, which even a father can turn his back on his son and then makes himself run...

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How to Remove Toxic People From Your Life

“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out” — Robert Tew There’s an old saying,  “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are.” The meaning behind those words are powerful. The truth is, the people you select...

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How Bad is Regret?

“It’s not what your are, it’s what you don’t become that hurts.” — Oscar Levant There is always something which we want to do from deep within without any peer pressure or listening to external minds around us, which comes straight from the heart, soul and every...

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Package Delicate, Handle with Empathy

My son’s pediatrician -Dr Crook was not a crook, but a gentle soul. He looked like a grown-up version of Harry Potter. Best of all, he did wave an invisible wizard stick. You would magically feel at ease in his presence. He would listen, I mean really listen to your...

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Creek Torrents

Walking in early morning fog and rain Crossing stone bridge with kindred spirit, We stop midway seeing creek below Torrential water skims its banks. Brown leaves swirl aimlessly in torrents Having left trees where they once thrived, Trees tower high above raging...

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Laws of Physics Complicate My Life

Albert Einstein(A German Physicist known to me for the theory of relativity and Brownian movement), Newton( known to me for laws of motion), Nicolas Copernicus (Mathematician and Astronomer)are known to the world for there unmatchable and significant contribution to...

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Conflict Resolution: The Truth is in the Middle

Fair judgment in conflict resolution is one hallmark of solid leadership. Conclusions about right and wrong should be determined thoughtfully and without haste. I have short-circuited balanced and fair responses because I didn’t know what I needed to know. When a snap...

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The Power of My Ponytail

Finding My Mojo After Sickness and Anxiety I have to admit, with full disclosure, that I have given up workouts over the past few weeks. I know what all the fitness people are going to say; “But it’s so good for you” “You will have more energy” “Your body will thank...

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Can a Lack of Oxygen Be the Cause of Constant Overeating?

It was a long way for me. But finally, I’m here and want to share my short story about one of the main reasons for overeating as far as I’m concerned. I realized long ago that I had chronic disturbance of cerebral circulation. But it was so insignificant that no...

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How To Look Confident Even When You’re Nervous

Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. How can anyone see how great you are if you can’t see it yourself? Confidence gives you an advantage in any situation. “With confidence, you have won before you have started” — Marcus Garvey You’re more...

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What does it mean to “be present”?

How this phrase has changed over time and what we can do about it I’m lucky that, as an English teacher, I’m exposed to books that cover a full spectrum of genres, styles, and subject matter. In one class, we just finished Thornton Wilder’s play Our Town. In another,...

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What Good Will My Prayer Do?

A Challenge Reconsidered In November the writers and artists group I am engaged in is raising awareness of abuse and slavery. The team is called chain breakers and they will be challenging people to pray and focus on scriptures that enhance the dignity of people. I...

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Be VERY SELECTIVE when choosing a Seller on Fiverr!!

Yesterday I was beyond frustrated…. With a seller I had been “working” with. After several attempts to get what I had ordered, a few simple designs for my shirts, I was thinking I may well need a lobotomy. I will say, however, that customer support is great and very...

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This is What Happens When You Take Dumb Interviews

You’ve gotta understand — when you interview a candidate, it’s not an interrogation. Sometimes you learn the harshest life lessons from the unlikeliest of sources And you never ever forget those lessons throughout your life. Some time back I was in the process of...

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Walking In My Nearly-Winter Wonderland–Photos

Frost Poems and Pictures My Halloween tree has shed its last leaves, now bare and ready for the fall’s finale. The end of grey and tan, ocher and rust. The snows have come. Sifting down in the cold, pre-dawn light, the little specks glide past my window, covering roof...

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This is How Your Mortality Helps You Live

“You only live 26,000 days. I’m going to wear them all out.” — Quincy Jones My relationship with my mortality has gone from non-existent, to denial, to finally one of companionship. But today, I’m inspired by my impending fatality, and not in some ominous way. Knowing...

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How To Make Money With Your Passion

You might have heard of others enjoying a fun and fulfilling career related to their passion. They get to spend their time at work doing things they like! What about you? Do you feel as if you’re chained to a job you loathe? Do you dream of making money with your...

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Why Not Leave Things to Chance?

I can’t call myself too responsible but a person eagerly aspiring to happiness — well, yes. And sometimes it happens that you lose yourself in daily routine, obsessing about whether this or that task is completed. Why do you do this? In this case I don’t believe that...

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Junior Bear and the Banana-nites of Nanerville

Some of the stories in the Bible seem too unbelievable. It’s these stories that cause many people, young and old, to question the truth of God’s word. The story of Jonah is one of those stories. Everything seems very plausible until he gets swallowed by a whale. That...

Why do we honour the dead more than the living?

Babies are born daily. As you are reading this article now, someone is giving birth to a baby. The truth is that someone has just died somewhere. Those two are beyond our control. We have very little power when it comes to controlling that. I have been asking myself...

Hi, My Name is Andy & I Like to Blog

I’ve created well over 20 blogs in the last 8 years, but it’s on Medium where I’m getting my biggest audience. Late in the afternoon on July 1, 2010, I was sitting alone in the Seattle home of some friends. They were away on vacation and Melinda, my wife, and Chloe...

Clay is Nicole’s flunkie here at Publishous (maybe “devoted husband” sounds better).  Clay is a Dave Ramsey-trained financial coach and small business expert. Get his advice on finances at MakeDollarsMakeSense.com and leadership at ClayAkers.com
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Clay is Nicole’s flunkie here at Publishous (maybe “devoted husband” sounds better).  Clay is a Dave Ramsey-trained financial coach and small business expert. Get his advice on finances at MakeDollarsMakeSense.com and leadership at ClayAkers.com

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