A Conversation With A Best Friend

A conversation that changed my life.  “A writer? Who do you think you are?” My best friend said with a sneer.  Wow. I expected this but I didn’t know...

Fear is a Universal Emotion

Fear is a powerful beast. But we can learn to ride it. (Justine Musk) Fear is a universal emotion. It is likely that fear protected early man from...

Who Said Women Can’t kill Dragons?

St. Martha did it, and she didn’t even break a sweat Lazarus, Martha, and Mary often entertained the Lord when he came into Bethany. They would sit and talk,...

If You Love Someone, Don’t Ask For “Why?”

Love has one answer. “It’s okay.” Someone has told you that you lack something, so he or she doesn’t accept your proposal? Or currently, she has plans, so she...

Want to Be More Driven? Honor Reflection

Looking back is not easy, but using it to light your creative fire is the secret to your success. As I look back over my life, I can’t help but be...

The need to see beyond ourselves

Seeing the hearts of people ripe for God’s harvest Agrarian economies still dominate a good part of the world, so planting and harvesting are important times...

We Only Have One Side of the Story

And that’s okay.  When we sit down to write, we can only write what we know, right?  The fact that stories, especially when relationships are the...

You Don’t Need to “Have Your Life Figured Out” By 30 (Or Ever, For That Matter)

I turn 30 in three months, and I’m not freaking out at all. I’m fine. To boot, I have none of the accomplishments and milestone of the person who “has life...

3 Lies That Lead to Writer’s Block

Here’s the truth that will set you free Every writer faces her worst fear at some time.  Writer’s Block.  Even the name sounds awful. There’s a...

I Want To Help You Say; NO.

Whew! I got through that speech. The one I did not want to do. I know I said YES when they ask me to give the talk to eighty plus old-timers. (I can use...

When You’re Too Poor To Be Healthy

There has to be a better way. My bottom back tooth is currently throbbing with the white-hot intensity of a thousand suns. It’s my own fault, I know that....

The Self Care Paradox: How and When to Treat Yourself Well

We’ve spent time talking about the mindset you’ll need to have to give your new journey in life a real shot at success. A big part of that mindset will...

Your Greatest Fears Are the Greatest Wastes of Time

Quit fearing and get to doing.  As a member of a 12 step fellowship, we talk a lot about fear. We have acronyms. We have its spiritual principle opposite. We...

The Ugly Truth About Your Spouse Editing Your Masterpiece

Kill your darlings, kill your darlings, even when it breaks your egocentric little scribbler’s heart, kill your darlings. — Stephen King If you ask your...

How To Stop Drifting And Start Succeeding

What to do when you’ve recognized you’re drifting If you haven’t read the first post in this series, Stop Doing This One Thing Today, you owe it to yourself...

What You Need To Know Before Becoming A Digital Nomad

What happens after traveling starts sucking? The other day one of my favorite bloggers (and people) in the world sent a newsletter saying they were going home...

Make Money on Medium - a Review

Build your audience and grow your income with Medium (dot) com If you only read one book about writing on Medium, make it this little gem by Nicole...

Don’t Wait For Life To Happen

You’re going to run out of days I usually turn my phone off on the weekends because I like peace and quiet. I’ve always loved being in charge of my...

When No One Will Support You, Support Yourself

When you have a serious goal, it lives inside your mind. It’s a burning desire that doesn’t go away. Even when a bout of demoralization or simple uncreativity...

Your Best Creative Self Is Waiting in the Quiet Time

Avoiding the noise comes at a cost that will always be worth it. Our creative minds are often subjected to the cruelest negligence. We dismiss the thought of...

An Ordinary Fountain With a Great Story or The Bet: A Kiss or a Slap?

36th Day in Spain Madrid is full of parks, fountains and statues. They don’t all have names. I searched for the name of one small park in particular. All...

A Simple Message On the Corner of Selfish and Selfless

To what end are we traveling? How do we return trust and compassion to a world divided by self-absorption? I saw her on a Wednesday morning on my way to pick...

How to Become the Best in the World at What You Do

I’ve decided that I want to become the best writer in the world. This is a goal I’ll never reach. I mean, you have Hemingway, Plath, Bukowski, Rowling, King,...

How To Lessen Social Anxiety And Build An Exciting Social Life

Life begins where fear ends “Your mind races. Your palms sweat. The words don’t come out of your mouth right if they come at all. We’ve all been there at...

Stop Doing This One Thing Today

You may not even realize what you’ve been doing wrong.  You are meant for great things.  Let’s start there.  Do you believe it? I’ll bet you do....

You and your have-no-regrets career. How to map it. Own it.

In the seventh…or maybe ninth…grade, the assignment in English class was to write a philosophy of life. I wish I’d kept it because I have no idea what I ended...

Write Despite Your Critics

Because they’ll never be as hard on you as you are, and someone needs to hear your story. A couple of months ago, I published an article where I described how...

How to Effectively Decide What Is Urgent and What Is Important

And what to do first. “Understanding how to work within the battle between urgent and important is essential…” Every morning, walking into my office, I would...

The Haunting of a Murdered Pigeon

Every once in a while, as I sleep, a pigeon flies through the window in my dreams. Last night was no exception.  It is a the symbol of a lesson. It is a...

Shades of death: When you lose a loved one to Alzheimer’s disease

Just when you thought you’d grieved your last… The day before Mother’s Day I visited my mother on death row. She slept through my visit. She was...

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Author LaQuetta Holyfield Glaze

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LaQuetta Holyfield Glaze is the published author of The Art of the Journey: The Reboot, a book written to help others discover God in everyday life. She is a Coach. A Pioneer. A motivator. A Spiritual Guide. Her life passion is to nurture others into their greater purpose and life outside the limits of their imagination. She encourages people to go into deeper relationships with God by teaching them how to see His presence in everyday living. Her life mission is to comfort the disturbed and to disturb the comfortable. 

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Positive Thinking Will Destroy You.

Don’t be positive, or even negative. Be real. “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” — Wayne W. Dyer When you are in stress, people advice to stay positive. You may have overheard these sentences:...

How I Plan To Write My Heart Out

In the middle of feedings and diaper changes Forget the big plans I had big plans for my maternity leave. Living in Canada means I get a full year (now with an option of 18 months) off work.  Twelve glorious months to write. I was going to write my...

How Emotional Trauma Drives Nearly Everything We Do

Every one of us is in pain; every one of us wants to be loved. We act the way we act because we want the hurting to stop. “Pull over! Pull over now!”  In a rage-filled tirade, the driver in the car next to me screams in my direction as he tries to force me...

Is It Bad To Want To See A Psychologist?

Deep down, we all know the answer. All my life, I’ve been told by my family and close friends that talking to a psychologist means you’re sick. That something is wrong with your mind that it’s shameful. When we talked about someone meeting a psychologist, it was...

Stop Giving Fat People Your Free Advice!

Kindness works best, folks. We aren’t allowed to insult disabled people. We aren’t allowed to be racist. We aren’t allowed to dislike people of different faiths. We can’t hate women. Fat people are all we have left to shame! Why do fat folk get shamed? People have no...

5 Steps to Become a Paid Writer in 5 Weeks

In the past year, I’ve made tens of thousands of dollars from my writing. (I made a whopping $40 total in my first 4.5 years). Obviously, I’ve learned a thing or two!).  I discovered you can earn money from your writing very quickly, if you know what to do. ...

Why Writing Is One of the First Things I Do in the Morning

And Why You Should Try It Writing is a time for me to flesh out my thoughts — all the ideas that I’d previously thrown down on some random sheet of paper. There is a sort of relief that I feel once I put these things down on paper. And writing earlier in the morning...

Reaching Cacao

 The Day I Pushed a Taxi up a Mountain in Nicaragua Above the cloud forests in Nicaragua is a tiny village where coffee and chocolate grow wild. It is extremely remote and difficult to access.  I traveled there recently to explore the viability of a future...

How Habit Stacking Works (And How To Start Using It Today)

I’d heard of habit stacking for awhile. Do this one thing and then it leads you into another thing. But I just didn’t get it.  As someone who is in the “productivity writing niche” you’d think I’d get a brochure in the mail. Nope, I didn’t.  So it wasn’t...

Work it Right, Not Work it Hard - The first lesson I learned from my life at a very young age

I was born in the last year of three years of Great Chinese Famine, and when I was still a child, just starting to understand the meaning of a life, my family was impacted by the Great Chinese Culture Revolution, which probably the reason why I was so thin and weak...

A Conversation With A Best Friend

A conversation that changed my life.  “A writer? Who do you think you are?” My best friend said with a sneer.  Wow. I expected this but I didn’t know that it was going to be this bad.  A seed of doubt was cast.  Who the hell did I think I...

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Fear is a Universal Emotion

Fear is a powerful beast. But we can learn to ride it. (Justine Musk) Fear is a universal emotion. It is likely that fear protected early man from extinction. Fear of danger creates a fight or flight state that would have saved an early human when he or she was...

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Who Said Women Can’t kill Dragons?

St. Martha did it, and she didn’t even break a sweat Lazarus, Martha, and Mary often entertained the Lord when he came into Bethany. They would sit and talk, listening intently to what the Master had to say. Martha, however, was always full of pluck. After all, she...

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If You Love Someone, Don’t Ask For “Why?”

Love has one answer. “It’s okay.” Someone has told you that you lack something, so he or she doesn’t accept your proposal? Or currently, she has plans, so she is not ready. In other words, people reject you when you confessed your heartfelt love? Everyone encounters...

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Want to Be More Driven? Honor Reflection

Looking back is not easy, but using it to light your creative fire is the secret to your success. As I look back over my life, I can’t help but be thankful for where I am today. Every now and then, memories invade my thoughts and cause me to place a high priority...

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The need to see beyond ourselves

Seeing the hearts of people ripe for God’s harvest Agrarian economies still dominate a good part of the world, so planting and harvesting are important times of the year. They impact the livelihoods of many people. How good the harvest is or isn’t impacts everyone....

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We Only Have One Side of the Story

And that’s okay.  When we sit down to write, we can only write what we know, right?  The fact that stories, especially when relationships are the topic, we can only write OUR VERSION. But you know what? That’s okay. I have been writing a lot lately about the...

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3 Lies That Lead to Writer’s Block

Here’s the truth that will set you free Every writer faces her worst fear at some time.  Writer’s Block.  Even the name sounds awful. There’s a barrier between you and your creativity. Your imagination has to scale a wall that is three feet thick and made of...

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I Want To Help You Say; NO.

Whew! I got through that speech. The one I did not want to do. I know I said YES when they ask me to give the talk to eighty plus old-timers. (I can use ‘old-timers’ since I am one). The most extended hour known to man was mine when I talked about something I knew...

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When You’re Too Poor To Be Healthy

There has to be a better way. My bottom back tooth is currently throbbing with the white-hot intensity of a thousand suns. It’s my own fault, I know that. After I had a root canal on this particular tooth a year ago, the dentist told me I needed to have a crown put on...

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Your Greatest Fears Are the Greatest Wastes of Time

Quit fearing and get to doing.  As a member of a 12 step fellowship, we talk a lot about fear. We have acronyms. We have its spiritual principle opposite. We talk about how to walk with courage. All of us, including my teensy-weensy wimpy self, can let fear run our...

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The Key to Good Relationships: Active Listening

Active listening is an often-overlooked but incredibly important social skill, both at work and at home. My very first job interview after graduation did not go as I had expected. It was with some type of startup in the Chicago loop. I had been staying with my...

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Happiness Comes By Sharing Your Part With The World.

Contribute your share. “For 30 years, the society provided you everything, shelter, food, money, friends. Now it’s your time to give it back to people — not for them, but to make yourself happy.” This line is by Mr. Anoop Khanna, who started his retirement with a...

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Here’s the Fastest Way to Get Wiser

Thousands of years ago, King Solomon, one of the great kings of Israel, had a dream. He dreamt God came to him and said, “Ask for whatever you want me to give you.”  In his dream, Solomon considered all the things he could’ve asked for. Israel was constantly at...

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To My Ex-Husband…

….is this why I was so angry all the time? **********************Trigger Warning — Gang Rape******************* I want to tell you this, but it’s a long story and we never have much time. I come to you to see Autumn, she should have my time and love when I am...

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A Time to Plant: A Nod to the Planter

There is a belief that I hold for all of humanity. We all have a purpose and a calling. We are here for a reason. To put this in the context of farming- each of us is called to plant or water. We may do one or the other depending on the season of our lives- perhaps...

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How I Grew Younger And How You Can Too

How was your childhood? If you can say that your childhood and younger adult years were largely stress-free, and happy and healthy, congratulations!  You started young and as long as you appreciate and honor your biological growth processes, and you have used...

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The Power and Strength of Self-Esteem

Isn’t it funny how we are so driven by the way others treat or perceive us?  Think about this for a minute. Someone says something offensive to you, and you feel anger or resentment toward them. Or, a friend comes along and tells you that “you need to update...

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Depending On The Kindness Of Strangers

The world can be a pretty good place Ten years ago, my world began to unravel. I had followed the mantra of my generation. Go to college, get a good job, work at that until you retire. I did this in an unusual way. I joined the Navy, utilized their tuition assistance...

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The Ugly Truth About Your Spouse Editing Your Masterpiece

Kill your darlings, kill your darlings, even when it breaks your egocentric little scribbler’s heart, kill your darlings. — Stephen King If you ask your spouse to edit your book manuscript, this is what you are asking of your partner.  You are asking your...

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How To Stop Drifting And Start Succeeding

What to do when you’ve recognized you’re drifting If you haven’t read the first post in this series, Stop Doing This One Thing Today, you owe it to yourself to start there. Then, come back and keep reading.Stop Doing This One Thing TodayYou may not even realize what...

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What You Need To Know Before Becoming A Digital Nomad

What happens after traveling starts sucking? The other day one of my favorite bloggers (and people) in the world sent a newsletter saying they were going home after 2 straight years on the road. Two years! Think about that for a second and marvel at their bravery. I...

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Make Money on Medium - a Review

Build your audience and grow your income with Medium (dot) com If you only read one book about writing on Medium, make it this little gem by Nicole Akers.  She has packed more information into these pages than you could find in a month of reading “How To Succeed...

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Don’t Wait For Life To Happen

You’re going to run out of days I usually turn my phone off on the weekends because I like peace and quiet. I’ve always loved being in charge of my technology, and if people need me, they can leave a message. On Monday morning I listened to a cryptic voicemail message...

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Madcap Delinquent Prophet on a Scooter

On taking back your power My new electric scooter arrived last week, and I am already hopelessly in love with it. It’s the stand-up kind — I just step on with one foot, kick off with the other foot, and toggle a power switch that glides me forward. Wind in my hair…...

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Want To Be A Better Writer? Start Podcasting

Creativity is a funny thing.  It’s not A+B=C.  It’s more like A+C= D-E =B.  We all want to write more.  But we often don’t, right?  Here’s the thing you already know… accountability REALLY REALLY works.  And accountability comes in many...

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Strategies for Handling Difficult Things

Embracing the Ordeals of Life “I do strongly feel that among the greatest pieces of luck for high achievement is ordeal. Beethoven’s deafness, Goya’s deafness, Milton’s blindness, that kind of thing.” — John Berryman When I was young, I thought adults were liars, or...

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This is What Happens When You Return to Africa

The flight from Doho to Kilimanjaro is the smoothest I can remember. For six straight hours, the plane glides through forgiving skies as though bargained before takeoff. I sit quietly in an aisle listening to faint Italian prose spoken by the women around me. My mind...

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The Day You Realize How Much Your Freelance Work Is Worth

You’ll stop giving discounts I worked a 9 to 5 for most of my life. It was predictable, relatively safe, and I knew how much my time was worth because they told me how much it was worth. I never realized how difficult that last idea was to change until I entered the...

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Dang, Leon Redbone Died

“Please Don’t Talk About Me When I’m Gone.” Sorry, Leon, I really want to share this tribute of you. I was 17 years-old in 1980 and somewhat of a loner. I worked as a clerk in a bookstore that summer and briefly dated a freshman in college on a gymnastics scholarship....

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My Next-Door Neighbor Stalked Me

I didn’t even know her name. She moved into the house diagonally across the street from me. She seemed harmless, an older lady who lived with her husband and adult son. Sometimes they yelled at each other, the noise bouncing off the side of my house and sneaking...

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The Damage We Cause by Giving Too Much

Life Lessons in My First 50 Years Well, then. I am onto the next big chapter of my life, and only have a few scars, an assortment of horror stories, a couple moments of, “what in the hell was I thinking?” and a whole host of learned lessons.  Through the past 3...

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Barefoot

Love, fairytales, and fear It’s supposed to be my favorite, this meal. The creamy sauce lays over noodles that were delicately made by professional hands. It’s technically perfect but, honestly, I think dad made it better. Either way, I simply can’t take one more...

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Aren’t You Getting Tired of Change?

35th Day in Spain How well do you handle change? You know that thing that everyone says constantly happens. I’ve tricked myself into thinking I’m comfortable with change, but I’ve grown to realize the opposite. In spite of all the changes I want to make, I’m...

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When No One Will Support You, Support Yourself

When you have a serious goal, it lives inside your mind. It’s a burning desire that doesn’t go away. Even when a bout of demoralization or simple uncreativity strikes, you still have that goal burning. It’s smoldering, perhaps not burning strong, but it’s still there....

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Your Best Creative Self Is Waiting in the Quiet Time

Avoiding the noise comes at a cost that will always be worth it. Our creative minds are often subjected to the cruelest negligence. We dismiss the thought of being alone with our ideas because we assume they’ll either be awful or won’t be useful in any way. Yet, in...

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A Simple Message On the Corner of Selfish and Selfless

To what end are we traveling? How do we return trust and compassion to a world divided by self-absorption? I saw her on a Wednesday morning on my way to pick up some medicine for my cat. She was standing at the corner of Central and Hillside outside of the Spangles...

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How to Become the Best in the World at What You Do

I’ve decided that I want to become the best writer in the world. This is a goal I’ll never reach. I mean, you have Hemingway, Plath, Bukowski, Rowling, King, R.R. Martin, Gladwell, Kafka, Gilbert, and a slew of other writers from ancient to contemporary that are much...

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Learning to Love What’s Good For Me

A conversation about positive mental hygiene Clearly, I write an awful lot about mental health and parenting — that’s how I got a ‘top writer’ status in both categories here on Medium in less than two weeks of writing. I write constantly. But I don’t write about these...

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The #1 Reason Why I Hate Teaching

Our children deserve to experience failure, and we as parents need to get over our discomfort in letting them. I have been an educator for nine full years now. When I resume school in the fall, I will be starting my tenth year in the profession. I started teaching...

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The New Way They Run the Grift

Grifting Hasn’t Gone Away. Goalposts Have Moved Responding to Social Media, Society… Little Work Is Now Required to Bring in Record Scores It used to be somewhat of a joke, grifting. There was even a wildly popular Scorsese classic, starring that 80’s guy we all...

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The Morning I Lost My Father

How do you say goodbye to a legend? My dad’s last heart attack differed from the others. At first, I thought he was having a panic attack, which would have been reasonable under the circumstances. The day before the attack, he was looking around on the Internet and...

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How to Derail Your Future (Without Noticing Your Are)

“Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present.” — Marcus Aurelius. The future never happens the way you want it to or picture it. It can be close, but the subtle nuance of...

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Missing Time

The doctor looked at the man across the desk from him. Edward Carstairs, according to his patient profile, was in his middle 40s. No known history of illness, he had come to Doctor Gordon’s office seeking help for what seemed to be a very strange affliction of the...

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Stop Doing This One Thing Today

You may not even realize what you’ve been doing wrong.  You are meant for great things.  Let’s start there.  Do you believe it? I’ll bet you do. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this.  Take a few seconds to center yourself. After you’ve read the...

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You and your have-no-regrets career. How to map it. Own it.

In the seventh…or maybe ninth…grade, the assignment in English class was to write a philosophy of life. I wish I’d kept it because I have no idea what I ended up with but I remember how difficult it was to write. The problem wasn’t properly putting words together, it...

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Write Despite Your Critics

Because they’ll never be as hard on you as you are, and someone needs to hear your story. A couple of months ago, I published an article where I described how I’d abused my own dogs. It was a terrible, painful, shameful truth that I would have liked to have put in a...

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Managed Medicine and Chauvinism

Patients are dismissed, women, in particular, are viewed as exaggerators, neurotic… sometimes waiting years for real answers At age 24, I begin to gain weight. So what? The thing is, I don’t understand why. I’m not doing anything different. Working out, eating the...

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If You Want to Be a Good Reader, Interact With the Author

The crucial task of engaging with the stories you love (or hate). “Reading is a conversation. All books talk. But a good book listens as well.” —Mark Haddon There’s nothing like reading a good book. It could be discussing something controversial or universally...

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A Humble Love

What the world needs now! “What the world needs now — is love, sweet love…” was the recurring line in a popular song in the mid-sixties sung by Jackie DeShannon. It was and still is one of my favorite songs from the ‘60s. This YouTube video link of the song captures...

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My Strained Relationship with Being a Morning Person

I have an interesting relationship with being a morning person. Some people will tell you that echoing the habits of a CEO and being a morning person will instantly make your life more satisfying.  While I agree with such articles on at least half of their...

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Personal Branding Strategy (The Emotions Strategy)

This article is about how evoking the right emotions is a personal branding strategy.  For those of you that don’t care what other people think, all you want is to do your job and get out of work. You may want to rethink this approach. Think about what that...

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Positive Thinking Will Destroy You.

Don’t be positive, or even negative. Be real. “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” — Wayne W. Dyer When you are in stress, people advice to stay positive. You may have overheard these sentences:...

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Is there Hope in Desperate Times?

I’m in need of it right now! “They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.” -Tom Bodett A few years ago, I read an account of a Lithuanian family who was arrested and...

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To Have The Best Friendships, Give Up 1 Day Every Week

“I do not think there is any thrill that can go through the human heart like that felt by the inventor as he sees some creation of the brain unfolding to success… Such emotions make a man forget food, sleep, friends, love, everything.” -Nikola Tesla Nikola Tesla was...

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Why Is it So Hard for Me to Make Friends?

Somebody told me, “You’ll have to go find activities and friends because they won’t find you.” When my children were young, I had as many friends as I could handle. I was constantly seeking out play groups and activities for the kids, which threw me into contact with...

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How to “Become a Better Person”

How do you become a better person? What does that even mean? Who gets to decide? What are the standards? How do you know for certain you’re moving in the right direction? The definition of better changes depending on the context. You can improve in certain areas while...

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How to Follow Your Own Advice

Many of my followers are aware that I write often about relationships, mental health, and abuse.  Through my experiences in the past, I have learned some methods and practices to help get through struggling times, and how to heal from the damages caused by...

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Do this one thing for more powerful conversations

What if we are missing out on meaningful connection because we keep jumping into reporter mode? What Photographers Do I was a yearbook editor the year our school first used computer software to submit our layouts. It was 1993 and we were embracing the future. ...

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Little Kids Driving You Crazy? Think About These 2 Things.

You cannot afford to miss this if you are in the trenches of parenting young kids right now! Sitting on the other side of my parenting journey, with a 24, 22 and 18-year-old, I pinch myself. Weren’t those days of constant diaper changes, breastfeeding hurdles (many!),...

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The Productivity Guide to Getting WAY More Done

“Why can’t you get that work done?” “What’s wrong with you?” “Just apply yourself.” I used to hear that all the time, and then I’d look around at my messy house, my endless list of to-dos and wonder how people manage to get it all accomplished. I’m good at Angry...

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The Words We Choose Make A Difference

Clarity counts I’ve been reminded of the idea of clarity many times over the past few days. I learned to pick my words carefully when I was teaching. Before that time, I was not so careful to only write or say what I meant. I spent most of my teaching career working...

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Kurt Vonnegut’s Lessons on Writing And Life

5 Lessons on Writing and 5 Lessons on Life From a Creative Genius “I believe that reading and writing are the most nourishing forms of meditation anyone has so far found. By reading the writings of the most interesting minds in history, we meditate with our own minds...

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Mornings At The Methadone Clinic

Fighting my addiction versus fighting myself. The doors opened at 5:00 a.m. Most of us addicts were ready and waiting an hour earlier, forming a haphazard line outside while sharing stories of their drug addictions. Each person had a worse story than the last with...

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The Hole In My Heart

Let’s get back to finding value in others. There’s a hole in my heart. It’s not a medical condition though, it’s completely spiritual. I discovered it one day out on a mountain trail running. It had been yet another frustrating week in my full-time job. Trying to...

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Breaking Up With a Friend

Yesterday I broke up with a friend.  This friend — I’ll call her Debbie— and I had met shortly after I’d discovered drugs in my house and that my husband of six years, significant other for nine, had been secretly abusing drugs for nearly our entire...

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Who Are You? What Makes You “You”?

Start acting like the person you know you should be “You’re unique.”  It’s a line you’ve probably heard a million times, but have you ever let it sink in?  Nobody on Earth will know what it’s like to walk in your shoes. Every thought, experience and feeling...

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Death, Resurrection and Discipleship

Jesus tied much of his teaching to the cross, especially when it came to being a disciple. We are journeying through everything Jesus did and said. The passage we read today in Matthew presents some challenging ideas. What do they mean and what are we to do in...

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You’ll Win With Your Words When You Lose Your Self-Doubt

Tips for writers who want their words to stick. So you grab your laptop, open a fresh browser tab, and make your way to a fresh canvas on which to type away with your thoughts. You’re used to this routine by now. After days of practice, you’ve come to terms with your...

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The Hidden Costs of Success No One Ever Talks About

Nothing’s free. Is success worth the price? You’ve been drudging through your existence for some time now. You’re older, have fewer aspirations, and are more resigned to your fate. You think back to the times where you seemingly had it all — freedom, hope, dreams you...

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Vulnerability Scares Me to Death

Facing this enemy takes courage “Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy — the experiences that make us the most vulnerable.” Brené Brown I have a confession to make; I abhor the movie, The...

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My Nine-Year-Old Self Still Cries Sometimes

But now it’s easier to feel better Life was hard when I was a kid. It’s not so hard now, and for that I am grateful. These days I have the time to look back and think about the troubles I went through as a kid. Nobody bothers me about them, and in writing about those...

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Leaving My Worry Chair Behind

Learning how to trust God As a young believer, I had to learn how to trust God.  It wasn’t natural for me. It isn’t natural for any of us.  Just as toddlers exert their free will before they can say it clearly, we like to “do it by our self!” American...

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Why It’s Good to Cry

A baby cries when it is in need of nourishment, care, or a simple nappy change. However, adults are taught from a young age that crying is weak. There are other ways to bind our frustration. Our hearts have been closed to feel our emotions through crying. I have...

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Embracing Failure As An Integral Part Of Life

No one wants to fail. In particular, no one wants to fail multiple times. But everyone does. I, for once, have failed so many times, I could not believe how unlucky I must be. There must be a higher being up there who enjoy looking down at me stumbling around. So what...

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When Life Becomes Facebook Official

Social media, for some people, is now where life comes from. It is the actual newsreel of their lives, and as they scroll, they note their friends’ “Most Recent” posts, in order to stay in touch with their little world.  In many ways, it is sad that we all have...

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Freedom of speech: has the blessing become a curse?

Why it matters what we do with our freedoms and liberties Freedom of speech: has the blessing become a curse? Why it matters what we do with our freedoms and liberties Photo by Clem Onojeghuo on Unsplash Freedom of speech is our unalienable right. Or is it?...

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I’ve Been Living A Lie For The Past Decade

It’s like waking up to realize someone else had lived your life and did a crappy job, but at least now you’re free. It’s not easy to accept an idea which shatters your entire worldview. Some people choose to deny. Others decide to confront and retaliate against the...

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How to be Humorous in Everyday Life.

Life is short, smile while you still have teeth. How to be Humorous in Everyday Life. Life is short, smile while you still have teeth. Image Credits: Pixabay.com Humor is one of the most important things in everyday life, chiefly because it is through humor...

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The Paradox of Weakness

“I am struck by how sharing our weakness and difficulties is more nourishing to others than sharing our qualities and successes.” — Jean Vanier I grew up watching the Charlie Brown specials. When I hear the first line of, Christmas Time Is Here, even as an adult, I am...

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Do Yourself a Favor: Focus on What Matters

Cleaning up your time will ultimately clean up your life. We all can relate to times that seem to be in complete chaos. Mornings are dreadful. Nights aren’t any better. Days are longer and more stressful than ever, as you pace around thinking about what you’ll have to...

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The Biggest Lie About Abortion

The hashtag #youknowme is currently trending on Twitter. Busy Phillips started it. She asked women to tell their personal stories about abortion. This is an issue I believe will end up in the Supreme Court as a challenge to Roe v. Wade, and the outcome is unsure for...

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How to Overcome Leadership Failure.

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently. Bill Gates’s first company was a failure.James Dyson tried and failed 5,127 times. Steve Jobs was kicked out of his own company. The list of leaders who suffered ignominiously is...

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Shining Through

I’ve lived with her for over forty years and, still, she gets me into trouble. I’m sure I would never fall for these traps if it weren’t for her. Well — almost never. It all started innocently enough. “I need to pick up a few books at the used-book store, dear. Would...

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The Surprising Upside Of Being A Perfectionist

Perfectionism can actually be quite wonderful. “What’s your biggest weakness?” You’ve probably heard that it’s no longer considered a wise move to respond to this common interview question by saying, “Well, I’m a bit of a perfectionist”. Being organized and...

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Day 2: Threat of School School Shooting in Progress

Honey, text as often as possible. Love, Mom No student should stare down the barrel of an assault rifle at school.  Did you miss the threat of school shooting yesterday?  While the planned threat did not happen at our school, it did happen in...

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What Every Introvert Should Do To Live A Great Life

For some people, solitude is the air they breathe Isaac Newton formulated the law of gravity alone, without brainstorming or group discussions. Famous composer Frederic Chopin gave only about thirty public performances in his lifetime, preferring instead to play for...

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What is the Definition of You?

If you were to look yourself up in a dictionary, on a page where you are clearly defined, what would that look like, and why?  How are we all defined?  Is it our career? Our family? Our culture? Our skin color? Our partners? Our values? Our religion? Or...

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Love Is Just a Four-Letter Word

Like Lust, Hate, and Fear Today, my heart breaks. So many stories from strong, stubborn women, fighting for their place in the sun. Fighting to be heard. Fighting through the hurt and pain of past abuse or failed relationships to make their own way in this often...

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The One Failure That Really Scares Me

I’m afraid of having lived in blues and greys when I could’ve lived in reds and orange.  When I think of failure, three ways of defining it make sense to me. The first one is failing to live up to what society expects of me. The second one is failing on what I set...

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I Never Meant to Hurt Her

A story about my mom If you ever saw the movie, Big Fat Greek Wedding, that was my life in the making. We even owned a family Restaurant, actually a Snack Shop. At twelve, I was already behind the counter learning to be a waitress.  In our home, there was no...

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Pick a Side, Any Side - Just Not Both Sides

Word of the day: Commitment This idea really struck me while I was in the shower. I sincerely don’t know why, but this seems to be the place where most of my ideas flow. …But back to the point. Commitment is a thing that I now (thankfully) understand. It’s no longer...

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The Stages of Breaking Up

I know I have been writing a lot lately about my recent breakup from a 9-year relationship, and I would like to say I am sorry for inundating you all with my journey. But, I am not sorry I am writing about it.  I am not only writing ABOUT it all, but I am also...

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Why Life is like a Journey on a Train

and the mystery of not knowing at which station we get off  …with its stations …with changes of routes …with accidents. Life is like a journey on a train. Meeting halfway  The other day, not so long ago, I boarded a clean, polished train from...

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Be Mascara-on-a-Bad-Day Brave

My eyes meet their match in the mirror, and I’m struggling to keep my hand from trembling as I swipe on a coat of mascara that I know all too well isn’t waterproof. I wish for waterproof mascara while I give myself the talk that I will not cry today. Not yet. Not...

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10 Principles to Strengthen your Prayer Life

Is your prayer life everything it needs to be? When you are in crisis, do your prayers make a difference? What have you accomplished lately in prayer? Jesus is our example in prayer. His life was a life of prayer that teaches us. We can see from Jesus example the...

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Watching Yourself Return, One Piece at a Time

Have you ever lost yourself?  That may be an odd question, but I am sure many people know what I am talking about. You hear from friends, “I miss the old you”, or “Where did that person go, who used to be __________” (insert quality here).  Well, over the...

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6 Things Every Writer Should Do Before 6 AM

The early morning has gold in its mouth — German proverb I am about to reveal to you the secret of massive productivity and inevitable success. It involves maximizing your time and accomplishing more in a few hours than most people accomplish in a week. It is a...

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Getting Over My First Book Rejection

After I cried a little, this is what I did. When the email popped up on my phone from an agent I queried last week, I didn’t open it at first. Instead, I stared at the subject line in the mental space between hope and disappointment. I’d just sent the query a few days...

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Show Me How To Make The Best Choices ~ Twelve Quotes

We all need help in making better choices. Isn’t that true? Quotes act as guiding post down the road of life. Sometimes we need a word to course-correct our steps in making good choices. I can’t get over how my life has taking weaves, twist and turns on even...

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Success Starts Outside Our Comfort Zones

There are two ways of living this life — in our comfort zones or out of them. In the words of Steve Harvey, If you stay in your comfort zone, that is where you will fail. It may be new to some of us, but the concept of getting out of your comfort zone is an oldie. The...

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On Refusing to Be Ill

And what do to when this no longer works Okay, fine. I’m ill.  It surprises me that I am even considering writing this post because I am not allowed to be ill, I have never been allowed to be ill, and part of me is sure that if I just refuse to be ill, I...

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Today there will be a Shooting at Your School

#SeeSomethingSaySomething They saw it on the newsChildren sent out to schoolTo get a brighter futureSent backDead― bellatuscana, Pavo This morning I dropped my daughters off, each at her respective school. We all notice an increased police presence. There were...

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The Inspiring Life of Fearless Inayat Khan

The spy princess who crushed the Nazis. She was a princess. A guerrilla fighter, trained in bomb-making, sabotage and secret communications. But above all, she was a war hero. Indian princess-turned-spy Noor Inayat Khan is one of the most underrated figures in...

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Reading Saved My Life

Not only because I can understand the medication instructions I’ve loved to read for as long as I can remember. From the time when my bookcase was filled with Little Golden books to today when I can find the best writing in the world here on Medium. I grew up in a...

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Dealing with a Partner with Anger Issues

We all get angry. It’s a normal emotion.  Sometimes we’re angry for very real reasons: our rights or boundaries are violated, we get cheated out of something, our purse gets stolen.  But what is important is how we deal with that anger.   Some of us...

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Rejection Is For Writers

There are certain disappointments every writer must face. So you think you want to be a writer? Quit your terrible day job to write whatever you really want to write? It doesn't have to be an impossible pipe dream. Sure, it’s tough. You have to be willing to put in...

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Don’t Let Your Past and Future Steal Your Present

Dwelling on the past can lead to regret and guilt that drive away our ability to enjoy the moment. This morning while I was walking, I ran into a woman I hadn’t seen in three years. We’d met when she and her husband were house-hunting in our neighborhood. Now,...

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She’s Got What I Want…

Or has she? She. Is. Gorgeous. Trendy cut-out bikini, tanned body, laughing with friends in the pool. Every man’s gaze is on her. Beautiful face, thick glossy hair, pert breasts and pretty much everything I want right now. She’s twenty-ish and totally carefree. I’m...

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Is it Selfish to Find Your Own Happiness?

Life can be tricky. There are twists and turns, challenges and triumphs, accomplishments and failures, and everything in between.  But, are you HAPPY?  Even with the changes and pressures that life can throw at us, it is imperative that we continue to check...

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Why are you letting a little rain stop you?

Let it do its thing. You do yours. We have a saying where I’m from. The only thing rain stops is cricket I guess the American equivalent will be baseball. When we use this saying, it really applies to our party culture. If it starts to rain during an outdoor event, no...

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The Value of a Good Reputation

“Just because you didn’t put a name to something does not mean it’s not there.” — Jodi Picoult When I meet people, it is often revealed early in the conversation that I am a middle school teacher. This revelation often carries with it a stunned look from those I...

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How we read today makes me treasure it even more.

How reading evolved has never occupied much space in my mind. During my schooling, I was made vaguely familiar with the history of the text and moveable type. Yet, how we read never garnered much focus. This has radically changed in recent years. Silent reading is...

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This is Why AI Will Create Better Politicians.

What if your future president or prime minister is a robot? This is Why AI Will Create Better Politicians. What if your future president or prime minister is a robot? Image Credits: Pixabay.com If you had the opportunity to vote for a politician you totally...

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From Monster to Mother

Mother’s Day can be an emotional day for many.  Some mothers have lost children, some children have lost their mothers, and some of us, like myself, have had strained or broken relationships with their moms over the years.  Lately, as I have made some life...

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How the world is different for ADHD people

Here are some thoughts about having ADHD and how I have related to it over the years. A look into the private world of ADHD.  It is a real condition, but I am not convinced it is an illness. It may just be different than the norm. There are some positive...

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The Deacon’s Bench

This is a true story…word for word (names changed to protect the innocent) I was at a loss for words.  Could it be true? I turned to look at my friend but he was looking up at the windows and appeared as bewildered as I felt. The windows were covered in...

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Mom, What’s Wrong With You?

Talking to my daughter about mental illness. My 12-year-old daughter and I have about a 20-minute ride to her middle school every morning. We usually fill the time with music as she plays me songs from her playlist on her phone. She laughs when I say I don’t know some...

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Asking for Help is Not a Weakness

Knowing your weaknesses is a strength “Sometimes it takes more courage to ask for help than to act alone.” — Ken Petti “Help!” I have grown up hearing this word in multiple places. The Beatles sang about it, Gilligan yelled it while sinking in quicksand, and...

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This is How You Find Your Voice

During my sophomore year in college I took a political science class taught by the former Ambassador to the Ivory Coast. Twice a week he’d amble into a windowless room with a lesson plan clutched against his wiry frame. I’d watch carefully as he tossed his notes to...

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What Is The Best Advice To Improve My Hearing?

I’m going deaf and I do not like it one bit. “I shall hear in Heaven.” — Ludwig Von Beethoven I was speaking before seventy religious leaders in Poland. I heard the beeping in my ear when my hearing aid battery died. Standing before them I said, “I run on batteries...

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7 Things I Wish I knew Going Into College

When I first got to college I had gotten one piece of good advice from my cousin; don’t buy textbooks unless you absolutely need them. But they didn’t tell me everything I needed to know about school; Some things I had to learn on my own. I don’t know about you but...

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How to Stay Productive and Get Results Under Pressure.

Pressure comes from within and so must be mastered from within. Let us admit it. Nobody performs well under pressure. A lot of us think we do, but we don’t — or at least, we don’t perform as well as we could perform. And in their book, in their book, “Performing Under...

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How I Plan To Write My Heart Out

In the middle of feedings and diaper changes Forget the big plans I had big plans for my maternity leave. Living in Canada means I get a full year (now with an option of 18 months) off work.  Twelve glorious months to write. I was going to write my...

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Want Kids Who Will Like You as Adults? Read This Now!

The struggle – but necessity – of thinking into the future No question. It’s hard to think that far in the future for most parents. I know it was hard for me. But fortunately, my husband and I landed in a lecture that deeply affected our thinking on this when we...

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How Vulnerability Deepens Relationships

Hint: Vulnerability doesn’t make you weaker Graphics by ConsciousEd After having conversations like this, I was able to build deeper and healthier relationships between my friends and I. We broke down barriers, made it ok to be vulnerable, and cared deeply for each...

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The Unusual Creative Benefits of Insecurity & Self-Doubt

Are you having doubts about the quality of your work? Do you feel like your creations are never quite good enough? All creatives struggle with insecurity. How do you find a way to move past it and do the work you’re meant to do? Maybe you shouldn’t think of your...

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If You Want to Be a Good Reader, Interact With the Author

The crucial task of engaging with the stories you love (or hate). “Reading is a conversation. All books talk. But a good book listens as well.” —Mark Haddon There’s nothing like reading a good book. It could be discussing something controversial or universally...

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Positive Thinking Will Destroy You.

Don’t be positive, or even negative. Be real. “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” — Wayne W. Dyer When you are in stress, people advice to stay positive. You may have overheard these sentences:...

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Forget ‘Doing,’ Sometimes It’s Best To Wait

Yesterday I ordered a traditional breakfast here in Singapore. It’s made with Kaya toast, coffee, and two half-boiled eggs. When the kindest Chinese man you could think of served it to me, I thought the half-boiled eggs were hard boiled eggs.  Fifteen seconds...

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Relentless Forward Movement

Deciding to Pick Up and Move On There is something about moving forward that can’t be explained any other way than we are getting somewhere. For some reason though, so many people are paralyzed with waiting expectantly for something that there is hardly any chance of...

When Your Boss Is An Abusive Jerk

“Please God,” I prayed out loud in my car. “Don’t let David yell at me today. Don’t let him fire me.” This was how I started every workday, arriving half an hour early to pray for a few minutes and walking into the office 15 minutes before my shift. David warned me...

Learning to Write Without My Stone Tablet

Technology for Dinosaurs I always thought I would be a person who stayed on top of trends and technology. It turns out I am not. My family was one of the first to own a microwave oven and an Atari game console. My tech husband would mesmerize people with the magic of...

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