Why “Live in the Present Moment” is Terrible Advice

Don’t fall into the Mindfulness Trap Photo by Simon Migaj on Unsplash Why “Live in the Present Moment” is Terrible Advice Don’t fall into the...

It’s Not That God Didn’t Answer Your Prayers, It’s That You Didn’t Get The Response You Wanted

Have you ever prayed to and felt as if you’re prayers weren’t answered? Have you ever gotten on your knees, clasped your hands together, prayed to God and...

If Only

I thought of you todaynot fleeting snapshots,but long reflections. Clear pictures in my memory,stored in baggiesto keep them safe. Your dwindling voice...

Here’s Why You Need To Bring Out The Best Version Of You

It’s Our Responsibility You must’ve heard of “personality traits.” Like INTP, or ESFJ, etc. The 4 letters determine your character traits’ category. Are you...

I’m Grateful for My Catlike Reflexes!

Narrowly Escaping a Wreck on My Drive to Work Other than the lighter traffic, this morning’s drive to work was typical. At first.  Sometimes Traffic...

It’s Not All About You

People tend to do whatever they want. Thank goodness for laws. The result of actions can play a big or small part in society. Some people may use the...

Great Ways to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

Help for those who are having trouble sleeping. At the moment I am being blessed with wonderful sleeps. That has not always been the case. I have thought...

The Best Way to Learn Anything

Never back down from a mental challenge again. So, you’ve found a nice, comfortable place to read. Peaceful and quiet, you settle down to dig into that new...

My idea of heaven

I am not sure if I really believe there is a heaven or some other form of afterlife, or not. Being raised as a Catholic and attending Catholic schools I...

This is Why It’s Not Too Late for You

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” — George Eliot During my second year of drama school my classmates and I tackled the works of...

As a Young Fawn, I

As a young fawn, I with awkward step found an opening in the wood; unfolding eyes beheld and touched what I could little understand — that...

Speak. Listen. Lead.

Question: What is the most important leadership skill? Answer: Knowing how to communicate. Why? Because leading is about relationships. Question: What is most...

Happiness, Where Will You Find It?

What is happiness anyway?  Is it a feeling?  Is it a state of mind? Is it waking up from a deep sleep and feeling revitalized?  Is it having...

So Gray, Are My Days…

When it’s gray, So long seems the day. The sun is hidden,  And the dreary cold Comes unbidden The rain spruces up our nature,  But me, it bruises...

Gold Nuggets

The Art of Gift Giving It is the middle of January and Christmas is still not only a fresh memory, but very visible. I am at the tail end of packing things in...

The “Feel-Good” Gospel

Lately, I have been hearing a lot about this so-called, dangerous, “feel-good” gospel. I have heard well-known preachers accuse other well-known preachers of...

A Dad to be Remembered

When my dad first died, I became upset because the world kept going. Everyone did their own thing without any respect to the fact that a good man passed away....

Tales Of An Unfortunate Tattoo

I didn’t stop to think it might be a bad idea. My husband, Micah, and I were getting along at the time, not to mention the amount of substance abuse we were...

I Stopped Working for the Rest of the Day to Spend It with Family

Here’s What I Discovered The emails, the books I planned on reading, the articles I wanted to write were all forgotten in that little glimpse of what should...

The Problem Solving Strategy

Life Skills… “Analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts.Life itself still remains a very effective therapist.”  — Anonymous A hospital...

Stronger Together: How Collaboration Makes You A Better Writer

You can go alone — but you shouldn’t Col·lab·o·ra·tion (noun)/kəˌlabəˈrāSH(ə)n/ 1. the action of working with someone to produce or create something. “he...

I Have Value And I Matter

You! Yes, you Everyone is important, including me.  I have important things to do and accomplish.  My ideas and opinions are important.  I...

Negative Experiences are Good For You

What a wild ride this life can be. From losing a grandmother in the middle of my first semester of graduate school to having my daughter born six weeks early...

Trying is Worth Doing

Why Yoda was wrong The fact that I didn’t want to get up today reminds me I need to try.  Try is a word that has a lot of guilt associated with it. It’s...

4 Parents-1 Daughter

My Daughter’s Modern Family During the Autumn of 2009, on a rainy, chilly day, my daughter and I sat in silence watching the rivers of water trickle down the...

Things I’ve Learned in the Year Since My Son’s Death

Grief has taught me some good lessons. It’s been about a year since my oldest son, Nick, passed away. It’s been a year of grief and healing, despair and hope....

Are You Willing To Do Anything To Change Your Life?

If so, start with this It’s no secret the life we’re living right now is the result of our thoughts and actions. Sure, there are some things that seem...

Improvement Should Be Your Next Big Thing

How to get rid of those rotten habits once and for all. Most of the time, we do things without thinking twice about them. Because of a certain routine, our...

Short Story: Power Grid

Gabby ran to the nearest safe spot she could find. The air smelled of gas, dead bodies, and trash. It has only been 3 days since the power grid went out. No...

Can People Be As Smart As Seeds?

Seeds are wondrous little packets of DNA, but they are much more than that. They contain nutrients, proteins, cells for storage, structures for dispersal, and...

Author Spotlight: Steven B. Howard

 

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He is a writer, blogger, novelist, comedian, and teacher with strong political opinions.

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From Hobby to Job– How to Keep Writing Fun

You give up a few things when you start to make money from the thing you love… I began writing for fun. I didn’t really show it off to anyone because it was just for me to read. Sometimes I’d tell my stories to a relative, because Caribbean families, much like many...

7 Millennial Marketing Myths Busted

Throw everything you thought you knew about marketing to millennials out the window. Millennials have caused quite the controversy in recent years, whether it’s because we’ve killed another industry or we spend too much money on avocado toast. In 400 BC, Socrates...

The unslakeable mendicants we are

How complacency in life helps you to live a better life… Yeah, buddies, I am speaking of you and me. We are all beggars in our own ways. Opulence or indigence is purportedly not the marker for our mendicancy and the incessant banging on the doors high above. Beggars...

Want To Reach Your Goal? Do One Thing, Literally

For the past two years I have been running a style blog and just recently I discovered I’ve been wasting time. The past week has simply been a ball of confusion: I’ve changed the direction of my blog, trying my hand at flipping houses, writing articles for another...

The 3 things I did in 2018 that changed my life forever

I am 28 years old, and although I’ve had some pretty incredible years in my short life, none of them can touch 2018.  This is the year everything changed.  As a result of several “life-quakes” back in 2016, all the plates of my person were suddenly not as...

Technology Teaches Higher Ed

Gone are the days of lecturing from the podium. Traditional teaching models create a false dichotomy of the student as the passive recipient of knowledge and the instructor as the all-knowing giver of knowledge. My classroom philosophy breaks this stereotype by using...

Art & Soul Reloaded-A-Long Week 2

Know thy Enemy This is the second week of the series Art & Soul Reloaded-A-Long. For the introduction of this series, see here. It’s time for the second week of the Art & Soul Reloaded-A-Long. How did you do during the first week? Hopefully, you tracked your...

Stepping out of your comfort zone: Are you in or out?

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Success and money are not the end developments if you step out of your comfort zones, happiness and joy too will follow you if you are just willing to be out!. Permanent happiness evades the person who is addicted to his...

True Heroes

The path to everyday practical heroism We like heroes and stories about heroes Perhaps the favorite hero-type is the one who rises up out of obscurity to overcome great odds. Think of all those Rocky movies and a multitude of war films with unsung heroes. Many...

When God Waits For His Church to be Built of Love, Men Bring Stones

What people don’t understand about being virtuous A holy man was sitting beneath a tree next to the crossing of two roads. Whilst deep in prayer, he heard someone running towards him. A young man approached him. His breath came in small spurts, hot and nervous....

Why “Live in the Present Moment” is Terrible Advice

Don’t fall into the Mindfulness Trap Photo by Simon Migaj on Unsplash Why “Live in the Present Moment” is Terrible Advice Don’t fall into the Mindfulness Trap Here’s a seemingly dumb question with a counterintuitive answer — Would you rather experience a...

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If Only

I thought of you todaynot fleeting snapshots,but long reflections. Clear pictures in my memory,stored in baggiesto keep them safe. Your dwindling voice fadeslike a sunset,barely there. I thought of you todayas I wiped away tears,that come unannounced. The day you...

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Here’s Why You Need To Bring Out The Best Version Of You

It’s Our Responsibility You must’ve heard of “personality traits.” Like INTP, or ESFJ, etc. The 4 letters determine your character traits’ category. Are you an extrovert, a performer? Do you believe in your sense perceptions or facts and figures? Do you have a...

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I’m Grateful for My Catlike Reflexes!

Narrowly Escaping a Wreck on My Drive to Work Other than the lighter traffic, this morning’s drive to work was typical. At first.  Sometimes Traffic is Better Cars move slower in traffic. Unless you’re right on the bumper of the person in front of you, the...

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It’s Not All About You

People tend to do whatever they want. Thank goodness for laws. The result of actions can play a big or small part in society. Some people may use the following phrases to describe their feelings about other peoples actions. “ I don’t care what they do behind closed...

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Great Ways to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

Help for those who are having trouble sleeping. At the moment I am being blessed with wonderful sleeps. That has not always been the case. I have thought about the reasons and have a few suggestions for the nights when sleep eludes you. I read Philip Yancey’s article...

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The Best Way to Learn Anything

Never back down from a mental challenge again. So, you’ve found a nice, comfortable place to read. Peaceful and quiet, you settle down to dig into that new book everyone has been raving about all year. Seconds tick away as the worries of life fade into the shadows. ...

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My idea of heaven

I am not sure if I really believe there is a heaven or some other form of afterlife, or not. Being raised as a Catholic and attending Catholic schools I believed in heaven, basically because the priests and nuns gave me no other choice but to believe. This was my idea...

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This is Why It’s Not Too Late for You

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” — George Eliot During my second year of drama school my classmates and I tackled the works of Shakespeare, Beckett, Williams, and Ibsen. Each storyteller shared a unique vision of the world, transporting me from a...

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As a Young Fawn, I

As a young fawn, I with awkward step found an opening in the wood; unfolding eyes beheld and touched what I could little understand — that though I’d freely come to see, ’twas his hand that was drawing me.  I wished not that our eyes...

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Speak. Listen. Lead.

Question: What is the most important leadership skill? Answer: Knowing how to communicate. Why? Because leading is about relationships. Question: What is most talked about in making or breaking any relationship?” Answer: Knowing, or not knowing, how to communicate....

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Happiness, Where Will You Find It?

What is happiness anyway?  Is it a feeling?  Is it a state of mind? Is it waking up from a deep sleep and feeling revitalized?  Is it having the freedom to sit and write for half an hour?  Is happiness spending time with your loved one or...

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Can People Be As Smart As Seeds?

Seeds are wondrous little packets of DNA, but they are much more than that. They contain nutrients, proteins, cells for storage, structures for dispersal, and attractive features that help other living beings spread them far and wide. But seeds are also notable for...

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5 Lessons on Writing and Creativity by Ray Bradbury

What I Learned from Reading ‘Zen in the Art of Writing’ “There is only one type of story in the world. Your story.” — Ray Bradbury The man who wrote a book about a future society in which books were banished and burned (this would be my ultimate nightmare), wrote...

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Forget Your New Year’s Diet

Ditch the deprivation and Do This Instead So you fell off the wagon this festive period. Like…BUMP! Yes, you needed to anaesthetise yourself through those family functions, but still, you cruised from canapé to canapé, loosening your waistband as you went. It’s not...

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How Finally Listening to my Girlfriend Changed My Life

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” Ernest Hemingway Women always say “Men don’t listen” and they are correct. We do not listen especially when people are trying to help us. We think we know best and are...

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When Buffed Met Saggy…

How The Hell Does That Happen? So I bet you’re wondering how in the world did “Buffed Meet Saggy”? I might as well state the obvious, (or for some of you who aren’t that familiar with me), the not so obvious. I am like a walking conundrum. A polarizing dilemma, if you...

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How To Create Empowering Habits To Supercharge Your Life

Stop wishing, start doing, and take command of your life “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.” — John Dryden How you go about your daily routines ultimately determines the life you live. How can you fill your life with abundance and...

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Why You Should Stop Trying to Do Everything

Breaking free from distractions to focus on what moves you. “If you are trying to do everything, you will fail at everything.” —Matt D’Avella With all of the fancy new gadgets coming out every other day, there exists a pull to do multiple things at once. New features...

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So Gray, Are My Days…

When it’s gray, So long seems the day. The sun is hidden,  And the dreary cold Comes unbidden The rain spruces up our nature,  But me, it bruises up. Not my skin,  But my feelings which are akin. Many a time,  I wonder if indeed I am naive? The...

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Gold Nuggets

The Art of Gift Giving It is the middle of January and Christmas is still not only a fresh memory, but very visible. I am at the tail end of packing things in boxes to be taken to the attic and my tree continues to lie in its tree stand outside on my porch. It’s...

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The “Feel-Good” Gospel

Lately, I have been hearing a lot about this so-called, dangerous, “feel-good” gospel. I have heard well-known preachers accuse other well-known preachers of preaching a “feel-good gospel.” They make the claim that those preaching such messages never mention God’s...

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A Dad to be Remembered

When my dad first died, I became upset because the world kept going. Everyone did their own thing without any respect to the fact that a good man passed away. Never again would anyone hear his voice. My niece and I wrote up pieces dealing with how we felt about his...

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Tales Of An Unfortunate Tattoo

I didn’t stop to think it might be a bad idea. My husband, Micah, and I were getting along at the time, not to mention the amount of substance abuse we were engaging in. I hadn’t yet been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, so I didn’t realize I was in the middle of a...

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Why Am I Here?

Bonsai thriving amidst cold winter airBright sun illuminates lively new scenes,Commuters all moving at hurried pacesHomeless huddled in tattered blankets. Contrasts in our current urban dramaAlways seen as it is presently lived,Musicians play at subway...

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Why You Should Read Your Favorite Books Again

And the Huge Impact it Has on Your Life “Why do you keep all these books on the shelves?” someone asked as I was showing them around our house. We stopped in the den where I have a few full bookshelves. They vary in size, shape, color, and topic, but each one is...

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It’s a Big Enough Pizza For Us All

You will get your perfect slice! I believe the Universe is big enough to hold us all. It can support all of our dreams. We all have different dreams, motivations and goals. We all have different styles of writing too. That’s the way it’s supposed to be.I mean who...

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How to End Your Worries, Anxieties, and Fears

A cure to your internal pain You worry about your relationships, your financial situation, your life and you worry about your loved ones. You feel anxious about taking a decision: “Maybe I’m not the best fit for this”. You fear the outcome of an event. You fear...

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How to Master the Fine Art of After-Work Emailing.

Hint: It is Your Key to Promotion. How to Master the Fine Art of After-Work Emailing. Hint: It is Your Key to Promotion. Image Credits: Pixabay.com We had assembled again for Jack’s party, his third in three years. This time, however, it was bigger and better. The...

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Eastern Philosophy in A Nutshell

For decades, I have studied Eastern philosophies, and everywhere I went I found teachings that created considerable confusion. This is not because Eastern philosophies are inherently subtle, nuanced, and infinitely complicated but because recognized teachers of...

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From Hobby to Job– How to Keep Writing Fun

You give up a few things when you start to make money from the thing you love… I began writing for fun. I didn’t really show it off to anyone because it was just for me to read. Sometimes I’d tell my stories to a relative, because Caribbean families, much like many...

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Without Robbing Your Dignity, May I Help You?

While waiting for my doppio espresso, I watched as a young woman struggled to put her drink into a coffee sleeve. Something you and I might take for granted. For many disabled people, the struggle for independence is strong. The desire to be seen as normal and...

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What I Have Is Enough

If you know enough is enough, you’ll always have enough I am content with my life as it is now.  I think about the riches I already possess instead of striving to acquire more. I focus on gratitude.  I find creative ways to express my thanks, so I...

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Bleu de France.

A short story about second chances The business of attending the funeral of a parent was no trivial matter. He was not going. In spite of having dressed the part: suit, tie, sapphire shirt, dress shoes, and cufflinks. He stood waiting for the taxi outside the hotel...

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The Problem Solving Strategy

Life Skills… “Analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts.Life itself still remains a very effective therapist.”  — Anonymous A hospital receptionist smelled smoke.  Searching for the source, she eventually discovered a soldering iron mistakenly left...

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Stronger Together: How Collaboration Makes You A Better Writer

You can go alone — but you shouldn’t Col·lab·o·ra·tion (noun)/kəˌlabəˈrāSH(ə)n/ 1. the action of working with someone to produce or create something. “he wrote on art and architecture in collaboration with John Betjeman” 2. traitorous cooperation with an enemy. “he...

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I Have Value And I Matter

You! Yes, you Everyone is important, including me.  I have important things to do and accomplish.  My ideas and opinions are important.  I bring value to those around me with my thoughts, words, and actions. I feel more important and valuable...

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Negative Experiences are Good For You

What a wild ride this life can be. From losing a grandmother in the middle of my first semester of graduate school to having my daughter born six weeks early later in the same year, I’ve been through some rough patches recently. And yet, 2017 was my best year ever....

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Choosing to Acknowledge an Anonymous God

I was reading a news article the other day about Jayme Closs and the woman she met on the road, who by coincidence just happened to be a retired Child Protective Services worker. The other coincidence was that this woman had just arrived in Gordon, WI where her...

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Chronic Pain: Defy the Darkness

I fight an unwinnable battle every day, against myself. My immune system, determined to be a good boy is hell-bent on the destruction of everything it deems “foreign matter”. Unfortunately for me, that includes, well, me. But I’ve also beenfortunate in many ways. I’ve...

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What is your greatest fear as a writer?

This tweet was posted a few mornings ago by Kate Motaung from “Fiveminutefriday.com. I used to write and post from her weekly prompts. I still look at them, but haven’t offered anything lately. I realized I wasn’t being honest with the site and staying within the time...

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Waiting for her.

and Writing Poetry……. Golden chrysanthemums littered the frozen ground, Fading grasslands stretched towards the horizon. Rain sifted through the apple trees. A mournful cuckoo lamented the dying spring. I leaned over the ornate balustrade, A thousand memories filled...

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Productivity Hacks For Working Moms

Are you a working mom and struggling to get things done or meeting set deadlines? Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed and wish for some extra help? Well, as a working mom, I can totally relate. More so, because my children are still little, which even makes the demands...

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Poised at the Crossroads of Parenting & Culture

Parenting is hard. But take heart. Here are 5 principles to help you bring your best self to the job and show how you can impact the world as you do. Here you are, with little people who see you as Mommy. Or Daddy. And you’re suddenly that person who’s supposed to be...

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7 Millennial Marketing Myths Busted

Throw everything you thought you knew about marketing to millennials out the window. Millennials have caused quite the controversy in recent years, whether it’s because we’ve killed another industry or we spend too much money on avocado toast. In 400 BC, Socrates...

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The unslakeable mendicants we are

How complacency in life helps you to live a better life… Yeah, buddies, I am speaking of you and me. We are all beggars in our own ways. Opulence or indigence is purportedly not the marker for our mendicancy and the incessant banging on the doors high above. Beggars...

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How to Rebel Against Reality

What we call reality is not real. Science agrees with Democritus’s wildly accurate conjecture that reality is atoms floating in empty space. And it goes even further in establishing the insubstantiality of things. For instance, atoms are not small blocks of...

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Trying is Worth Doing

Why Yoda was wrong The fact that I didn’t want to get up today reminds me I need to try.  Try is a word that has a lot of guilt associated with it. It’s what your supervisor says when your performance isn’t up to par. “You need to try harder.” Or when you’re late...

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4 Parents-1 Daughter

My Daughter’s Modern Family During the Autumn of 2009, on a rainy, chilly day, my daughter and I sat in silence watching the rivers of water trickle down the window panes. We lived in the country, just outside of a small town, at the time. She was just 17-years-old...

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Things I’ve Learned in the Year Since My Son’s Death

Grief has taught me some good lessons. It’s been about a year since my oldest son, Nick, passed away. It’s been a year of grief and healing, despair and hope. Sometimes all of them at once. I’ve changed. The loss of one of my children literally changed me into a...

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Are You Willing To Do Anything To Change Your Life?

If so, start with this It’s no secret the life we’re living right now is the result of our thoughts and actions. Sure, there are some things that seem like they fall out of the sky directly on top of our heads. But if we’re honest about it, we can see how past...

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Improvement Should Be Your Next Big Thing

How to get rid of those rotten habits once and for all. Most of the time, we do things without thinking twice about them. Because of a certain routine, our actions are left without much explanation. We do it because it’s what we’re used to. Scroll through Twitter....

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Your Worth is Not Defined By the Money You Earn

I have felt it often and I know of many mothers who feel it a lot of times. Especially if you are not an “earning member”. Feeling that you are not worthy because you do not have a steady income.  You see others around you bringing in money and wonder if you are...

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Paint

Paint me a deeper shade of blue, I am not enough of the night sky I wish to twinkle. Paint me the globe burning of sun orange and yellowexcitement and Spring, for I need the birth of new thingswithin. Paint me a delicate pink one that adores and smells of...

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Too Much for a Funeral?

Whether it is a small family-owned and run funeral home or it is a large corporation that owns hundreds or thousands of funeral homes and cemeteries, businesses operate in order to make a profit. However, there is a huge difference between a locally owned and operated...

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Searching for Childhood as an Adult

As a child, I had a hard time because I wanted to be older, and now I have a hard time because I don’t want to grow up. I took pride in being the “mature one.” The child with the highest aptitude for sitting at the adult table. Silent and observing. I was pretending...

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Want To Reach Your Goal? Do One Thing, Literally

For the past two years I have been running a style blog and just recently I discovered I’ve been wasting time. The past week has simply been a ball of confusion: I’ve changed the direction of my blog, trying my hand at flipping houses, writing articles for another...

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The Tantalizing Truth About Really Amazing Writers

We all can be amazing, right? Or can we? Like the young man in the mouth of the cave — it’s all about what we see. And what we choose to look at as writers will set us apart from the crowd.  Imagine the mouth of the cave is moveable, like a camera’s...

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How to Agree in 3 Questions

The Key We know agreement is a key to any kind of successful partnership, whether it’s in business, a marriage, or a creative partnership. Unity is a powerful thing that can weather any storm. When troubles destroy a relationship, be it a marriage or a business or...

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7 Lessons From One Year Of Freelancing

Next month I’m celebrating one year of freelancing. This has been an amazing year, I’ve never enjoyed working more than now, and I’m so grateful for the experiences.  I’ve learned some things along the way, which I’m sharing not only as a written reminder to...

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Don’t Get Used To It

Learning the art of appreciation. Where do I begin? It’s always a bit tricky when it comes to relationships. It’s not always easy. We all know that. One of the strangest things that happened when I was in high school is that no matter how inexperienced I was in...

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I’m a Writer, And I Hate SEO

So should I ignore it and just write? Every time I write a blog post, I play the SEO game.  I’m fortunate enough to have a plug-in that tells me when I’ve checked enough items off my list to please the Google gods.  It can take anywhere from 10–30 minutes to...

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Unmanaging Emails: Talk is not cheap

This is a personal story about my “Love-Hate” relationship with email. When the first email programmes became commercial round 1976, I was 13 years old. This teenager lived by a river in Australia and spent most of her time on High School, homework, reading, and...

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The 3 things I did in 2018 that changed my life forever

I am 28 years old, and although I’ve had some pretty incredible years in my short life, none of them can touch 2018.  This is the year everything changed.  As a result of several “life-quakes” back in 2016, all the plates of my person were suddenly not as...

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Technology Teaches Higher Ed

Gone are the days of lecturing from the podium. Traditional teaching models create a false dichotomy of the student as the passive recipient of knowledge and the instructor as the all-knowing giver of knowledge. My classroom philosophy breaks this stereotype by using...

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Saying Goodbye!

In my previous article to this, I told a fun memory I had of my dad when I was a teenager. Remembering Life  Before my dad died in June of 2017, I went to visit my parents. I struggled with what I saw because he didn’t look the same. He had gone downhill while I...

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What Will Happen If You Pray: “Lord, surprise me.”?

Astonishing tales. I had been looking at ways to interact with God. I’ve been circling and circling. Not turning around and getting dizzy but circling my prayers. Letting them go round and round in my head and in my journal.  As I continued the study Draw...

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Sticker Shock at Funeral Homes

On the worst day of your life, the last thing you or your family should have to deal with is sticker shock. A quick perusal of this link will show a wide variety of prices that have to be considered. The average price of a funeral in the USA is currently between...

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Writing Versus Dreaming

As a teen, fun was to be found in telling my younger brother and sister stories. Everything dealing with creativity straight from the mind was so easy for me. They gave me a sentence or a title, and I would weave a web of fun and enchantment around them. The two of...

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Wisdom Power

Wisdom derived from what we see Absorbing it daily as we live, Experiences rapidly accumulate Teachable moments every one. What power comes from all of this? Knowledge for our minds to hold, Interpreting what it really means Discerning values that we feel. Power when...

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Money is the root of evil

Money is the root of evil This piece of paper rules our lives Do we have enough to live? Do we have enough to give? Some have money to burn Spending cash on frivolities Money for new gold watches Money for pet haircuts and homes People who work all week To go to the...

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Either You Make The Choice Or It Is Made For You

It was 1978, Freddie Roach a promising lightweight pugilist traveled to Las Vegas with his father in search of a personal coach who could help him in elevating his game and prepare him for next level of fierce competition in professional boxing. Eddie Futch, one of...

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Here’s How To 10X Your Personal Growth

Get More Aware Of Yourself… Most of us don’t even know the depth of our problems. 60–70% times I’m mistaken in doing so. It’s my father or my journal that uncovers the whole situation for me most of the times. I never knew that I was so reactive. I never knew that...

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4 Ideas To Make Prayer Meaningful and Fun

I will admit it. Praying isn’t that fun — I’m just being honest. Perhaps you don’t agree with me, but I would guess you don’t look forward to praying, at least not in the same way you look forward to things like movies, sporting events, or hanging out with close...

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Santorini, Greece. I Love You.

I had the most amazing opportunity to take a seven-night Greek Isles cruise after dreaming about going to Greece for almost ten years. It was hopefully the first of many times I’ll be able to travel to one of the few places on Earth that I felt at home. Truly, at...

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Coffee, Cake and Lifeisms!

In the corner of a popular coffee shop sat a lady with short brown hair and a laptop. Nursing a milky cup of tea and a thoughtful frown, she sat quietly while life went on around her. A young lady with long, sleek black hair and effortless but yet perfect makeup...

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Why You Should Stop Doubting Yourself Already

The secret to building confidence in your work. “Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” — Theodore Roosevelt You see them everywhere on every platform known to man. They are revered among the creative community, and...

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One of My Best Dates: But He Killed It with One Word

It was an immensely hot, languid May for Moscow. My birthday was coming up, I had no wish to work in this heat, but I planned to take a vacation no sooner than in August. It was necessary to do something so as not to wither in imminent procrastination. It was my...

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Get Some Sun on Your Bum

How Exposing Yourself Can Raise Testosterone A bio hack is really just something healthy that not many people do. I’ve tried getting away from that term somewhat, because of the connotation it has that you’re cheating, but in reality, it just means something healthy...

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Your Writing Matters. But This Matters Even More.

There are so many fantastic writers out there, it can be flat-out overwhelming. It is easy to get lost in the mix and wonder if the words you write have an impact. While your words do matter — your story matters more. You can tell your story in more than one...

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A Phoenix of Hope

To be reborn in your fireThat arises from your heartFrom the golden or the silver skiesYou came descending here With your colors that are fadingWithout regrets, without questionsBeyond shadow, beyond doubtTime for a new resurrection You can leave it all thereafterAs...

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7 awkward scenes confessing sins to Catholic priests

It’s good for the soul! I waited for my turn to kneel in the dark box, divided by an opaque screen, sinner on one side, priest on the other. The goal: Confess to the silhouette of a man who had the authority to forgive me and grant me absolution.  I detected a...

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How Will You Step Into Being Bold and Brave This Year?

Look, Mom, no hands! Remember when you were young and free? You were the star of your own show?  The feeling comes from being bold and brave. It’s like a child who goes to the circus to play because it’s fun. Standing in front of the funhouse mirror and...

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Tracks in the Sand

A poem from 40 years past. I turn to see my footprints in the sand  as wave after wave rolls in.  Now, here I stand, observing.  And though my footsteps be almost gone,  they remain, and perchance someone will follow.  But if someone sees my...

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A Heart of Compassion

Imagine God as a kindly grandfather Grandparents I can spot grandparents right away. It’s not the age differential but their interaction with children. Grandparents, especially boomers, tend to look younger than earlier generations and some become grandparents in...

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What Can Satisfy Your Hunger?

And are you hungry for the right things? How does your hunger influence how you live? Do you build your life around it? How do you make sure your hunger is healthy and good and not destructive? We need food for our physical health. But, more importantly, what do...

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If you are a boss you need to learn how to lead

Simply bossing people around is not good enough Let’s get things straight. A lot of bosses are terrible leaders. And it’s not because they are stupid or bad people in general. It’s because they don’t know how to lead. Take look at a typical boss. He’s most likely a...

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What are Your Song Lyrics?

Music is powerful. I am sure everyone agrees that music can change your mind frame, your mood, your energy and in many cases, your life.  Whether music affects you by its beat, its rhythm, its melody, or its lyrics, it moves you. There is even certain music that...

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Lord Have MERCY! Five Assurances He Does

You are in need of mercy. Yes, you are! We all need God’s mercy. Where is His mercy when we need it? In my pastoral ministry, I uncovered two disturbing thoughts. These beliefs hold Christians back from enjoying peace with God. One is the thought God had not quite...

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Grammarly Saved Me

As most of you know I have horrible spelling and my sentence structure is pathetic. You are probably tired of hearing about my crappy writing skills if you read my blogs.  In one of my past jobs, I used Grammarly. My boss at the time suggested that I use it and...

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You Need More Introverts In Your Life

Here’s why. There are some common assumptions about introverts that have been driving me crazy lately. It’s not that I have anything against the people making them. But out of all the bullet points they conjure, many are untrue and more are left out. You see, I...

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Ode to January

A Sonnet January, you inspire me to write How I love the way you anticipate Invading my mind through the dark days and long nights Always dreaming about new beginnings… Let me compare your steadfast dark times With a frosty fiery sleepy head Your...

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Where Is Winter?

This year is passing without winter here No snow falling or prolonged cold days, Temperatures change from cold to warm Never real feeling of a cold winter season. Christmas came without any winter feel Autumn just extended itself into December, Trees expected the...

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It’s 2019 — May Your Writing Disturb the Universe

Today’s the day. Time to get back into the world after almost two weeks off for Christmas. It’s painful though. We adapt with ease to our lives of idleness. Small chores, like unloading the dishwasher, soon become the melodrama du jour. Genuine effort becomes...

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God’s TED Talk Transcript

eing God, I always try to create things–new and wonderful things that fit together in ways you can’t imagine. But first, I’d like to talk to you about something we all understand very well, failure. Failure and the power of mistakes. I’m going to start off by telling...

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We Are Worms With Wings

Seeing ourselves in the beauty around us Have you ever seen a Monarch butterfly and a caterpillar side by side? I wonder what the conversation would be. I wonder if the butterfly would be telling the caterpillar about when she, herself, was just a caterpillar. I...

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Confessions of a Recovering Perfectionist

How to quit polishing and start publishing Do you have impossibly high standards?  Do you hold back on hitting publish because you just want to polish your draft a little bit more?  Do you resist sharing because your writing isn’t quite ready for prime...

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Choices We Make

Feeling cool breezes in early morn Light breaking across far horizon, Beings all around beginning to stir Peaceful moments in quite stillness. Contemplating nature’s gifts Gifts to embrace and enjoy, Always present for us to see If we let awareness behold them. So...

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5 Critical Lessons I Learned When I Stopped Writing

It’s ok to take a break sometimes If you haven’t noticed, I’ve been away from Medium and from writing in general — for 116 days to be exact, or a third of a year. That is a long time to be away from any endeavor, much less from something that a person has committed to...

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Running Meditation

Clear your mind with a run! When you hear the word meditation you probably think of someone sat legs crossed. Eyes closed. Hands rested on knees with index and thumb touching. With chanting music in the background.  A bunch of ‘hippies' that are probably signed...

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Who Do You Want Teaching Your Child?

This is a story I saw on Instagram, quoted verbatim: I made the mistake of downloading 1… ONE ABC learning game on my phone for my 2 year old daughter. smh Three weeks later I finally had enough (not that I had much of a choice, she broke my phone out of frustration...

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Dear Freelance, I Didn’t Know I Would Love You 100%

So, 2019 has begun, and in the first days of January, I suddenly felt a strange, immensely pleasant sensation inside: I work as a freelancer and I like it. Entirely. 100%. It shocks me. I’ve been familiar with freelance since I was 20, though I started to work in...

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A Lesson In Gratitude

Dodging the curveball I was given an unexpected and totally jacked up lesson in gratitude. I know I should be grateful for all that I’ve been given. I have a great husband and a beautiful grandbaby, I have a fantastic job and I get to write out all the stories in my...

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Ten Things About Funerals

While every state is different, I wish these were some things that EVERY adult knew about funerals. Having previously been in the cemetery/funeral industry for almost 8 years, I can speak to the practices of private firms as well as cemeteries and funeral homes that...

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I Accidentally Fell For This Gender Stereotype

And it was the best thing this dad of two daughters could foresee. I did not see it coming. “If I had to choose between beauty and brains, I will choose brains any day.” — casual words of a young executive to my friend. They were talking about finding life partners....

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I Wrote Daily for 30 Days and Learned One Powerful Lesson

TLDR: It’s not every day that you will enjoy doing what you love. My story is typical: I have been writing and reading since I was young and always wanted to be a writer. Where it stops being typical is that I was born in a country where my interest in a creative...

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Just Click Publish

As makers — writers, artists, entrepreneurs, creatives — we have grand visions for the things we make. When I imagined this article in the shower, it was legendary, epic, a piece that would transform how you thought about your work and your life. Or at least a piece...

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Bread. Today.

The sun shone today. After a week of rain, wind, and gloom, the sun shone and warmed the earth. I sat in my easy chair most of the day. Finally, about half an hour before the sun dropped from the western sky, I moved. “I’m going to take a walk.” I expected her to say,...

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Anxiety is The Devil-Medication Makes Me an Angel

Anxiety is The Devil-Medication Makes Me an Angel New Year, New You?  Pfffft Not this girl!  I got cocky this past week, thinking that my Anxiety/Depression was in check-so I did what I thought was right. I stopped taking my meds.  I am still off...

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Don’t Use ‘Just Words’ – Use Encouraging Words

I always write with music playing in the background and this morning was no different, except when it hit cowboy poet Baxter Black with his spoken word poem “Just Words.” Like a bolt of lightning, I knew what I would write about today. I would write about how we all...

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Naked And Alone

Hermann Schultz, the young guard, peered through the bars and saw the shadows of the evening gather around the skinny, naked man huddled in the corner of the cell. The shadows accentuated his sad gray eyes and rivulets of sorrow glistened in his gray beard. The...

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I’m A Little Teapot

I’m a little teapot short and stout Here is my handle, here is my spout When I get all steamed up, then I shout, “Just tip me over, pour me out!” That was a song I sang to all of my children while they grew up. There were others, as well, but this is the one I want to...

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Here are 3 Barriers to Forgiveness

What to do when you don’t want to forgive Who do you need to forgive?  You probably don’t have to think long when this subject comes up. You can already visualize the person. And just in case you come up empty, let me ask you this question. If you were walking...

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Sometimes I think he only wants me for the money

That’s a result of abuse I’ve been abused. not just a little bit, but a lot. In many ways. A major part of my life. So I’m thinking. Always. I’m thinking that I’m being abused because I have been abused. It’s hard to separate that thought from other things. Because I...

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How Waiting For My Big Mission Led Me Back To God

It was early 2014 when God put a seed of desire in my heart. Back then, I was running a wholesaling business from a warehouse in Welshpool, Western Australia. The desire was to get out of the warehouse and help one person at a time. This blurry desire grew and became...

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The Low Tech Writing Flow Trick

I’ve never felt blocked when it comes to writing in the sense of not having ideas, but there are plenty of times when I just don’t feel enough passion or motivation to type them out even though they are bouncing around the inside of my skull trying to break free....

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How To Inspire, Impress And Energize Everyone You Meet

Stand Out, Be Noticed, Captivate People “Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects.” — Marianne Williamson Have you ever longed to be the life of the party?  Wouldn’t it be nice to navigate business and...

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Next Moments

Heavy fog enveloping my views Is it metaphor for what comes next? Future usually does seem quite hazy Without completely being obscured. Never exactly sure what is coming Discerning hints in present moments, Thinking it will be of keen interest As most of our journeys...

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How I (Mostly) Resisted Editing My Latest 500+Word Article

Feeling all warm and GUI I had 74 ideas written on the Sticky Notes app on my computer since last July. I’m happy to say a half dozen of these ideas became Medium posts. And yet the other 70 ideas sit there still on those same Sticky Notes, just winking at me daily....

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How to Stretch Yourself and Not Fear

Learning to try new things I love to paint — colours are important to my life.  But lines and shapes and details have eluded me. I needed a change — something new. A long time ago I took a pen and ink course. (My first drawings are in Canada and we are...

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Terrifying + Exciting

Creativity is both. “The triumphs, anxiety, joy, pain, wrapped together. They don’t live without one another. It was hard. And it was good. Focus on the PROCESS of becoming great at what you do and everything else will fall into place.” @Ayodeji Awosika Creating...

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Setting Ambitious but Achievable Writing Goals for 2019

How my writing goals for the coming year might help you too I know, I’m late to the “setting your goals for 2019” party, but I’ve been under the weather since New Year’s… Anyway: Happy New Year Y'all! 2018 has been a great year for me and my writing. Both creatively...

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The Feast of The Three Wise Men

Welcome, come sit with me in my living room. Most likely, you’re aware that The Three Wise Men, whose travel coincides with the birth of Baby Jesus, didn’t arrive at that manger until the twelfth night. Well to be exact, that day is today, January 06th. In some...

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Mundaneness

Pleasure experiencing mundaneness Thriving plants with flower blooms, Rising suns lighting new days skies Coolness felt in early morning air. Children’s laughter when at play Smiling faces with people passing, Mountains climbing to highest peaks Ocean waves lapping...

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How I Gained a New Perspective

The busyness of the holidays are past and the decorations are packed away for another year. Recalling the joy and chaos of having all five young grandchildren in the house bring a smile, but also a twinge of sadness as I wonder when they will all be together again....

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The Imagery in Christ’s Manger Points to Who He Is

Baby Jesus asleep on the hay in a manger on a cold winter’s night: it’s a rather familiar scene. But if we analyze it in a deeper sense, then we can see the hidden imagery within the circumstances and surroundings of Jesus in the earliest days of his earthly life....

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My Beautiful Lover.

Sedoka poetry. Sedoka is a Japanese poetic form which is written in a question and answer form. What is that golden hazeSifting through the twilight zephyrsFading through the silvery mist? That is not golden haze,But the refulgent tressesOf My beautiful lover. What...

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The World is Looking for Leaders

Leadership is the sun coming up on the horizon sprinkling the world with beauty and energy. Management is the rainy, grey day that gives you the feeling of hopelessness. Working in corporate America can be very frustrating. The frustration doesn’t come from the work...

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Bleu de France.

A short story about second chances The business of attending the funeral of a parent was no trivial matter. He was not going. In spite of having dressed the part: suit, tie, sapphire shirt, dress shoes, and cufflinks. He stood waiting for the taxi outside the hotel...

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Waiting for her.

and Writing Poetry……. Golden chrysanthemums littered the frozen ground, Fading grasslands stretched towards the horizon. Rain sifted through the apple trees. A mournful cuckoo lamented the dying spring. I leaned over the ornate balustrade, A thousand memories filled...

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Success Can Make You Weak

“Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” — Proverbs 16:18 Last month I wrote my best performing article thus far on Medium. With over 12,000 views, 5,900 reads, and 400 fans, it stands far above everything else I’ve ever written. But...

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Mastering time management

Or how to get more done by doing less Most people do time management completely wrong way. I started my business career by developing websites and doing online marketing for local clients in Finland. I remember meeting some of the other web developers and digital...

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Has the Devil Really Dehydrated Your Dream?

Not If You Drink the Living Water… It is the end of 2018. What happened to your dream this year? Have you moved closer? Can you see the finish line? Or has your dream dried up? Has your vision become desiccated, shriveled, barren dust? My dream died in March...

I Care What You Think – I Can’t Help It

I have a problem that I’m not sure how to deal with. It comes up so seemingly and so often that my entire day can be thrown off by it. The problem lies in the fact that I need constant re-affirmation that I am in good standing with the people around me. The slightest...

The Bittersweet Reason I Began Writing

Meet my muse. I only recently began writing on a regular basis. One morning last summer, I opened up my laptop, opened a Word document and poured my heart out. I did the same thing the following day. And the next. And the next one after that. I wouldn’t have done so...

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