NEWS FLASH: America’s in the Toilet

Confession: I don’t usually watch/read the news or read the paper. So, today I updated the OS on my Mac to Mojave, and while I’m truly digging Night Mode...

Headstrong Book Review: Biohacking Your Mitochondria

Dave Asprey is a biohacker and computer programmer known for coining the term biohack and starting the company: Bulletproof. If you’ve ever heard of...

Lessons From the Rising Mist Off Still Waters.

“When we enter the forest of silence we meet both the beauty and the beast: both forgotten memories of beautiful moments and repressed fears.” ~Kim Nataraja,...

Parenting Perspectives from a Childfree Woman

In the parenting world it’s generally discouraged and frowned-upon for someone without children to offer parenting advice. And I totally understand that. It...

Yes, Who I Am Is Relevant

A Lesson In Self Awareness “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what...

This Is The Right Time To Fire A Client

A couple of months ago, I fired a client. Not in the ‘come into my office, I’ve got some bad news’ style of firing either. No, it was short and to the point....

You Need to Stop Lying

Lying is a defense mechanism when we feel cornered, our judgment, love or capabilities questioned or for the simple fact that we want attention. I recently...

Till Death Do Us Part…

Reflections on Losing the Love of One’s Life They are common words, so common they’ve become at times nothing short of cliched. Then again, at face value...

Learning to TRUST

I loved running trails, hated the rocks and roots and tolerated going much slower when I came to a muddy section. While others flew down the hilly sections, I...

Coffee Adventures on Two Continents

I love coffee. One of the things I love about Spain is the cafe con leche. It’s a glass of milk and little coffee, but a really strong coffee. Not espresso,...

Lions in Our Garden…Wonders of an African Childhood

Thunderstorms over the Barotse Floodplain. Thunderstorms occurred frequently in the rainy season, arriving suddenly and unannounced. I would settle myself on...

7 Ways to Catch Your Dream

t’s Time to Release that Emergency Brake Holding You Back My grandparents must have had the steepest driveway in the entire state of New Jersey. Ascending it...

What will you do when you smell something strange inside an App ride?

This is one of my App ride experience when I got app ride in D.C. area. When I sat down in the passenger seat then I inhale something strange. Is it some kind...

Why do we honour the dead more than the living?

Babies are born daily. As you are reading this article now, someone is giving birth to a baby. The truth is that someone has just died somewhere. Those two...

5 Simple and Scientifically Proven Ways To Strengthen Your Marriage

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person” — Mignon McLaughlin You can have an amazing relationship with your...

This is What Happens When You Get Conned in a Foreign Country

“The greatest fools are ofttimes more clever than the men who laugh at them.” — George R.R. Martin “After a few blocks, we had to stop to catch our breath...

Be Kind To Yourself

Be Kind to Yourself! This sounds so simple… and it should be easier to practice than it is. For instance, if we hear a friend or loved one talking badly about...

7 Insanely Useful Productivity Tactics to Use Today

And Why My List of 21 is Helpful, But Outdated “You are a leader in any office or environment you are a part of with our company. You have shown how to see...

4 Ways to Help Grieving People

As Americans, we don’t feel comfortable around other people’s grief. We don’t know how to act. We don’t have a healthy understanding of grief. Death is a...

Writing Has Kept Me Alive at Times I Didn’t Want To Be Living

I think we have all had dark moments in our lives. These moments that leave us feeling isolated and alone. Even as seas of people swarm around us moving on...

Money Don’t Matter 2 Night: In Conversation With Prince

Rethinking Our Relationship With Money I usually listen to music in the background while I write, more for the emotion than the lyrics. But this song by...

Not My Kid

As parents, we worry what the unwritten future holds for our kids. Will they find their soulmate, hold down a mortgage and shuttle a minivan full of kids to...

How To Unlock Your Best Novel

Do Something Smart With That Stack of Notes You’ve Been Collecting You’ve been scribbling down notes, collecting thoughts and crafting worthy phrases for how...

Why Writers Lose Friends

Hint: It’s not your love of writing. Writing is an inherently solo act. It’s not like gaming, where you can concurrently play with millions of other people...

How I became a Private Investigator

Becoming a Private Investigator was an accident that provided income for almost a decade. Before that, I was a special-needs-school-bus driver and perfectly...

The Kind Of Father I Would Love To Be

To my future kids, Logan and Jasmine. Having children is my greatest achievement. It was my saviour. It switched my focus from the outside to the inside. My...

Hi, My Name is Andy & I Like to Blog

I’ve created well over 20 blogs in the last 8 years, but it’s on Medium where I’m getting my biggest audience. Late in the afternoon on July 1, 2010, I was...

The Right Connection

I love fall. The morning air is crisp, the trees begin showing off their autumn wardrobe, and apple picking is once again a popular weekend activity here in...

How to Tell the Difference between 3 Types of Emotional Pain We Feel

Pain is something we don’t understand very well, especially here in the West. We avoid it, medicate, and ignore it, none of which actually fixes it. But pain...

Skinny People Have Feelings Too.

Please stop saying these things to us!!!! I’ve always been on the thin side. My dad called me “skinny” all my life but I wonder if that’s just because he...

Author Spotlight: Selma Writes

Selma WritesSee more of Selma’s work here.

“It doesn’t matter where you’re coming from. All that matters is where you’re going”. — Brian Tracy.

Selma’s beginning can be traced back to her hometown of Belize, in Central America where everyone will remember her as the shy, obedient, oldest daughter of a small town tailor and a seamstress who catered mostly to brides and grooms.

Today she lives in a small suburb, an hour and a half south-east of Tokyo, with her Japanese husband with whom she raised two little boys.

Selma has lived in Japan for twenty-eight years of which she spent twenty years as an ESL teacher to children.

As of two years ago, she is a retired teacher who volunteers her time teaching Elementary school children and older adults who long for the company of an English speaker.

Reading has always been her hobby but truth be told, she has yet to read the classics.

She also loves writing letters mostly to imaginary people since, apart from writing to her mother, she didn’t have a repertoire of like-minded friends.

In the spring of 2017, she started writing short stories at The Write Practice, an amazing writing community she is happy to belong to. In their company, she has managed to complete the first draft of a novel that she feels ‘is-not-so-bad.’ Currently, she is five chapters away from completing her first rewrite of said novel.

Selma is an enthusiast: of life, of friendship, of nature; of goodness, of kindness, of mindfulness and of the divine order of ordinary things.

Ask her where she’s going and she’ll tell you she’s going higher. Visit her at SelmaWrites.com.

Join @SelmaWrites for #PubChat on Wednesday, October 24th at 8 pm Central.

NEWS FLASH: America’s in the Toilet

Confession: I don’t usually watch/read the news or read the paper. So, today I updated the OS on my Mac to Mojave, and while I’m truly digging Night Mode (especially that the desktop background is the nighttime version of the same sand dune shown in the regular...

read more

Headstrong Book Review: Biohacking Your Mitochondria

Dave Asprey is a biohacker and computer programmer known for coining the term biohack and starting the company: Bulletproof. If you’ve ever heard of bulletproof coffee, a mix of MCT oil, grass-fed butter, and hot black coffee, well, Dave invented it. Dave’s influence...

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Lessons From the Rising Mist Off Still Waters.

“When we enter the forest of silence we meet both the beauty and the beast: both forgotten memories of beautiful moments and repressed fears.” ~Kim Nataraja, wccm.org, Weekly Teachings 10/14/2018, Letter 30: Entering the Silence. Thought after thought pelted...

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Parenting Perspectives from a Childfree Woman

In the parenting world it’s generally discouraged and frowned-upon for someone without children to offer parenting advice. And I totally understand that. It makes sense, right? How could someone without children ever understand what it takes to raise a well-rounded,...

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Yes, Who I Am Is Relevant

A Lesson In Self Awareness “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and...

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This Is The Right Time To Fire A Client

A couple of months ago, I fired a client. Not in the ‘come into my office, I’ve got some bad news’ style of firing either. No, it was short and to the point. I effectively said, ‘I’ll refund your money, don’t contact me again’. I was paid to run a marketing campaign...

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You Need to Stop Lying

Lying is a defense mechanism when we feel cornered, our judgment, love or capabilities questioned or for the simple fact that we want attention. I recently failed an exam.  I have never failed an exam. I have always been top of my class. When I did Design Analysis and...

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Till Death Do Us Part…

Reflections on Losing the Love of One’s Life They are common words, so common they’ve become at times nothing short of cliched. Then again, at face value alone they mean the world — and beyond — for countless souls past and present. This all came to mind when I read...

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Learning to TRUST

I loved running trails, hated the rocks and roots and tolerated going much slower when I came to a muddy section. While others flew down the hilly sections, I cautiously picked my way around the rocks, roots and other obstacles. Until one fateful day, I was out...

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Coffee Adventures on Two Continents

I love coffee. One of the things I love about Spain is the cafe con leche. It’s a glass of milk and little coffee, but a really strong coffee. Not espresso, just really strong coffee. Still, I've grown to enjoy and savor my coffee ritual at home. I brew dark roast,...

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Lions in Our Garden…Wonders of an African Childhood

Thunderstorms over the Barotse Floodplain. Thunderstorms occurred frequently in the rainy season, arriving suddenly and unannounced. I would settle myself on the verandah, kneeling on a chair close to the gauze. The wide overhang of the thatch roof ensured that rain...

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7 Ways to Catch Your Dream

t’s Time to Release that Emergency Brake Holding You Back My grandparents must have had the steepest driveway in the entire state of New Jersey. Ascending it as a child sitting in the back seat seemed like climbing Mt. Everest. I mean the car was practically vertical...

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Skinny People Have Feelings Too.

Please stop saying these things to us!!!! I’ve always been on the thin side. My dad called me “skinny” all my life but I wonder if that’s just because he forgot my name. I’ve never really had to stress too much about my weight, until recently. I’ve dropped a...

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10 Things About Me You Might You Might Find Bizarre

With a surprise ending The 10 things you don’t know about me challenge has been circling medium for a while and Colleen Golafshan tagged me in hers. So here I am with my contribution, but you might just find them bizarre. No matter if you find them strange, bizarre or...

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How to cope when your friend succeeds and you don’t

The worst part of success is to try finding someone who is happy for you. Bette Midler Your friend has been there with you every step of the way. You’ve plotted together, traded advice, bonded over tea or coffee or wine. And then you get the phone call that’s almost...

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Anguish and Panic

I feel anguish in their falling tears Tears of separation breeding panic, Cries in the night from strange places Places not of their hearts or souls. I feel their desperate pain and loss Not made by own deliberate choices, Forced upon them in barbaric ways Under...

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10 Biggest Pet Peeves

There are probably a lot more things/people that piss me off, but these make the top of the list… BAD DRIVERS. Since moving to Ontario, this is my main pet peeve. However, it’s not so much that there are bad drivers everywhere, it’s that it’s quite dangerous. Also,...

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All I learned about grief on the side of the mountain

“Beep” “Beep” “Beep”  It is my alarm. I slowly open my eyes, adjusting to the hallway light that is already on. I roll myself off of my grandparents brown suede couch. It is 4:30 AM and I know that if I don’t get up and get dressed now I will be left home. And the...

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For The Simple Beauties Of Life-Photos

Autumn In The North, All The More Beautiful For Its Brevity For The Simple Beauties Of Life — Photos Autumn In The North, All The More Beautiful For Its Brevity © Elle Fredine Autumn, in our neck of the woods flies by so quickly, if you blink, you may miss the whole...

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Understanding Love through Corinthians

Love bears all things (regardless of what comes), believes all things (looking for the best in each one), hopes all things (remaining steadfast during difficult times), endures all things (without weakening). 1 Cor 13:7 Loving others in this manner will only grow out...

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How To Become a Better You, Even If You’re Already Great

Examining yourself it a little more closely so you can enrich your life in ways you wouldn’t have thought possible… Lots of “better you” articles start from the assumption that you’re a pathetic wreck marooned in a sea of troubles. Now, this might be exactly the case...

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What Are You Chasing?

I was asked this question the other day, and it really made me wonder. Am I chasing anything? Dreams? Wealth? Happiness? Faith? Fitness? Success? While dreams and wishes are what makes us feel driven and goal orientated, I am unsure if we actually “chase” them....

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Why do we honour the dead more than the living?

Babies are born daily. As you are reading this article now, someone is giving birth to a baby. The truth is that someone has just died somewhere. Those two are beyond our control. We have very little power when it comes to controlling that. I have been asking myself...

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Be Kind To Yourself

Be Kind to Yourself! This sounds so simple… and it should be easier to practice than it is. For instance, if we hear a friend or loved one talking badly about themselves, we are quick to refute their off-color statements. However, if we talk shit about ourselves,...

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7 Insanely Useful Productivity Tactics to Use Today

And Why My List of 21 is Helpful, But Outdated “You are a leader in any office or environment you are a part of with our company. You have shown how to see your faults and opportunities and learn to turn them into strengths,” my supervisor said during my mid-year...

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A shred of evidence

Immediately you finish this story it will shred itself. Or if Banksy had written it, it probably would. His brilliant piss-take of the art world backfired on him last week when someone paid a million pounds for one of his paintings, the girl with red heart balloon...

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George III had blue urine, or did he?

George III is often called the “mad king who lost America” which could appear apposite to some people today, who feel that America may well be on the road to being lost yet again. For some time now historians have put his “madness” down to the physical, genetic blood...

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5 Productivity Blockers and How to Fix Them

Yes, this is “one of those lists”. But it’s short and sweet, and I’m sure you’ll find yourself falling into at least one of these traps once a day. Food Photo by Nielsen Ramon on Unsplash Don’t eat while your working, it’s as simple as that. Opting for “desk-lunch”...

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You Are Going To Click On This Article

Because this is a Clickbait! I was about to write something on perseverance and all. About how Medium was hiding away our articles only within a day or two. But we needed to battle it out and emerge and all that stuff that you’ve heard earlier! I had even thought of a...

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Luck Journal # 4:  I grew up next to a killer

One of our neighbors owned the apartment Sue lived in. Mr. K was in our neighborhood forever and everyone knew him. He was this nondescript older guy — nothing really stood out about him at all. He would stop in my family’s store and talk to my parents. My brothers...

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This Story Takes My Breath Away

It’s a conspiracy, literally! Years ago I spoke at the memorial service for my maternal grandmother, Gene Wenzel. A few days before, I was sitting on a park bench with a yellow legal pad on my lap and a ballpoint pen in my hand trying to write what I would say. At...

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Junior Bear and the Banana-nites of Nanerville

Some of the stories in the Bible seem too unbelievable. It’s these stories that cause many people, young and old, to question the truth of God’s word. The story of Jonah is one of those stories. Everything seems very plausible until he gets swallowed by a whale. That...

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3 Reasons Why Writers Need to Travel

“Without experimentation, a willingness to ask questions and try new things, we shall surely become static, repetitive, and moribund.” — Anthony Bourdain A few months back, I sat down in a coffee shop, cracked open my laptop, and Googled “Most underrated places worth...

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Present

I tried to understand the words that came out of Jordan “J” Gross’ mouth, but the Hungarian internet network was really persistent in its unhelpfulness. Walking through the streets of Budapest —hoards of Asian(-looking) tourist taking pictures, untraditional...

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ill-prepared

We mistakenly teach children that when they do what they are supposed to, things work out, or rather “bad things” don’t happen. I think that’s the biggest fallacy. I lost my first job after college. I did what I was supposed to do. Came to work on time, was a team...

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4 Ways to Help Grieving People

As Americans, we don’t feel comfortable around other people’s grief. We don’t know how to act. We don’t have a healthy understanding of grief. Death is a legitimate part of life. We ignore it. We pretend it’s not there. We’ve abstracted it away, and we really don’t...

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Money Don’t Matter 2 Night: In Conversation With Prince

Rethinking Our Relationship With Money I usually listen to music in the background while I write, more for the emotion than the lyrics. But this song by Prince & the New Power Generation stopped me in my tracks. The song is “Money Don’t Matter 2 Night.” Like most...

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Not My Kid

As parents, we worry what the unwritten future holds for our kids. Will they find their soulmate, hold down a mortgage and shuttle a minivan full of kids to soccer practice? Will they be successful and content in their careers? If only we could peek into the chapters...

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How To Unlock Your Best Novel

Do Something Smart With That Stack of Notes You’ve Been Collecting You’ve been scribbling down notes, collecting thoughts and crafting worthy phrases for how long? Weeks? Months? Years?  Thinking. “Some day I’ll do it... Some day I’ll write my novel.” Well, it’s not...

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Is chasing your dream at all cost worth it?

A recent US news about a TV actor who graduated from Yale University. When he was young, he gave up his high-paying job and chase his dream. In recent years, there has been no more TV show for him. Then he work as a supermarket cashier and get noticed by his peers....

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How Forgiveness Transforms Your Life

Everyone has been offended. Everyone has been insulted and hurt. Sometimes life comes at you like a brutal machine. It’s easy to get buried in feelings of anger and bitterness. I have witnessed the ruin caused by such experiences and I could easily been a victim as...

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Dear Creatives:  It’s OKAY to Make Money From Your Art

Is being ‘authentic’ keeping your pockets empty? The online landscape (especially places like Medium) places an emphasis on being “authentic.” You’re told to stay true to your art, never pander to your audience, be your truest self, and the creative career you’ve...

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Stop trying to “fix” ADHD people

We don’t need our ADHD fixed, but a little understanding wouldn’t hurt I can tell pretty fast whether someone “gets” ADHD or not, or even whether they have the condition. Most of the articles about helping people with ADHD talk about how to get organized and offer...

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Did You Leave Something in Your Cart?

This is a regular email heading in my inbox. I am a self-titled “chronic cart filler” for online purchasing. Our world, in all of its brilliant marketing and promotion, feeds on human impulses. It feeds on our need for instant gratification, last-minute spending and...

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This is What Putting on Your Socks Can Teach You About Life

“It all begins with the socks”, he said, “Success begins from the ground up”.  — John Wooden Those familiar with famed UCLA basketball coach John Wooden may already know how he traditionally ran his first practice of the season. As fresh-faced and spry 18-year old...

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What Commandments did Jesus want us to keep?

If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love. John 15:10 How many times have you heard someone quote the verse about why we need to keep the Ten Commandments? Over the years, I have heard it...

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Watching the Clouds Graze the Sky

Life passing us by, wondering where the days went. Time so frivolously spent. A dense fog clouds our day. Tears streaming, daydreaming, our lives quickly drifting away. Thinking, “The better day never comes.” Today’s opportunity sets with the sun. Wisdom revealed the...

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Purified by Fire

How can a person purify their heart? No one can purify their own heart. No one. We can try but we’ll fail. We fail because we don’t have the right material to work from to develop a pure heart. We’re flawed. Each of us is born with a selfish nature — a self-will. This...

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Why Writers Lose Friends

Hint: It’s not your love of writing. Writing is an inherently solo act. It’s not like gaming, where you can concurrently play with millions of other people in-person or online. You can’t write with someone else at the same time. It’s not like drinking, where you can...

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How I became a Private Investigator

Becoming a Private Investigator was an accident that provided income for almost a decade. Before that, I was a special-needs-school-bus driver and perfectly happy. It was the best job ever. The kids were funny and sweet. Every day was a joy to be with these amazing...

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The Kind Of Father I Would Love To Be

To my future kids, Logan and Jasmine. Having children is my greatest achievement. It was my saviour. It switched my focus from the outside to the inside. My children are gifts, they remind me of what’s important. -Elle Macpherson During the past couple of years,...

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Hi, My Name is Andy & I Like to Blog

I’ve created well over 20 blogs in the last 8 years, but it’s on Medium where I’m getting my biggest audience. Late in the afternoon on July 1, 2010, I was sitting alone in the Seattle home of some friends. They were away on vacation and Melinda, my wife, and Chloe...

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The Right Connection

I love fall. The morning air is crisp, the trees begin showing off their autumn wardrobe, and apple picking is once again a popular weekend activity here in north Georgia. But there’s another kind of fruit that’s in season all year round — the fruit of the Spirit:...

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Understanding Love through Corinthians #3

It does not rejoice at injustice but rejoices with the truth (when right and truth prevail) 1 Cor 13:6 Have you ever been caught in a position in which your friend was wrong, but you still defended them and feigned blindness to their wrongdoing? You chose your friend...

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The Ultimate Guide To Prayer

“Prayer is and remains always a native and deepest impulse of the soul of man.” — Thomas Carlyle Given the increasing chaos that surrounds us in today’s world, the importance of prayer can’t be underestimated. We‘re’ spiritual beings in material bodies. We need to...

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Don’t Ditch that feeling.

We feel different emotions at different times. Some are joyful, some are painful. Some of these feelings are so good that they create long-term memories in our head. Some of these emotions we feel come often while some don’t. What memories makes you come alive? Have...

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The Magic of “The End”

It’s the gift that keeps on giving Yesterday while working on a novel, I typed “The End.” Those words are magic, aren’t they? They mean you’ve completed a marathon. A project you’ve been slaving over for months, maybe even years, is finally done! You have a whole...

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A Canvas

Heavy moisture in morning darkness Like a shroud waiting for first light, Quiet stillness tranquilly present now But it will change as morning breaks. I feel soothing calm within myself Peaceful presence in own contentment, No anxious furies scurrying about me...

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How Being Positive Can Change Your Life

Because You Don’t Have to be Negative Do you think you can change? Like really change who you are. I do. I think it is very possible to change. There is this lie in the world today, which tells us this: I am the way I am and I can’t change it. What a sad reality? No...

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An Open Letter From a Labeled Child

Dear Mommy and Daddy, This is me, your 4 year old son. I just wanted to tell you I love you, and I know that you love me too. What I want to show you, is what my day looks like, and I hope you understand why I threw my supper on the floor, and had a tantrum. Let me...

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Are You Sabotaging Your Self-Esteem?

According to Wikipedia self-esteem reflects an individual’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is the decision made by an individual as an attitude towards the self. In laymen’s terms it is how you feel about yourself. Are you...

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The Blood,Sweat,and Glory of Parenting…

Quite often these past few days/weeks/months/years,. I’ve often wondered if I’m really mother material?! I mean, I get so frustrated I hardly know where to start! There’s so many factors and aspects at work, that truly my head wants to cave in upon itself!! If only to...

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My Best Birthday Ever

For 13 months, from July 2010 through July 2011, my family lived in France. Our daughter Chloe turned 18 while we were in Paris. February 28, 2011 was quite a day, one that ended with this lovely sentiment from Melinda’s and my daughter, Chloe: “I think this was my...

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I Once Was A King

You don’t need tons of money to feel like a King. Coming from where I came from, I wasn’t supposed to have nice things. No fancy clothes, no expensive cars, not even a remote sign of success. That wasn’t supposed to be in the cards for someone like me. Things Changed...

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Stop Burdening Yourself with Unnecessary Ideals

It’s Okay If You're Not Feeling Well-Mannered There’s a development related process in psychology. It takes place during our childhood. When we’re kids, we’re egocentric. Till the age of at least four to six. After that, we turn into social animals. Allocentric...

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Regret Ruins Your Happily Ever After

Say the tough stuff sooner rather than later “Leave safety behind. Put your body on the line. Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind — even if your voice shakes. When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say. Well-aimed...

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The Girl Who Hated Being Different

I look at the clock. It’s almost midnight and I have to go again. I’ve visited the bathroom seven times in the last two hours. The need to pee is urgent and unrelenting. Every time I come out of my bedroom, I pass by my father who has a worried look on his face. He’s...

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Speak Life Into The Midst of Chaos

His face was red with rage. Flinging his arms around, stomping his feet, yelling right past me deep into what had happened to him. I stood firm, knowing his anger was not at me. What would bring order out of this CHAOS that clutched him in a vortex of defeat? How...

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9 Beliefs That Make Life Easier and Success More Likely

“Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around.” — Henry David Thoreau Do you manage your beliefs? It’s our beliefs that determine our actions. And our actions determine our results. If you’re not getting the results you desire, your beliefs deserve some...

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Madrileñas, Tejas and How to Treat a Customer

9th Day in Spain My wife wanted to go to a cafe called El Riojano on our 9th day in Madrid. I asked her if it is the place she wants to visit where the queen used to have tea. She said something along the lines of it was the place where a different queen had a pastry...

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The Future Has Started Troubling Me

That’s Why I’m Switching Back To The NOW… This has no context with the post I’m writing. But since I liked the car’s pose… 😁 The future has become a monster for me. Every time I try to peek into it I come back burdened immensely than before. Thinking about anything...

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Is entrepreneurship like firing a rifle?

My first crack at entrepreneurship was like learning to fire a weapon while someone’s shooting at you. I learnt my lessons on the battlefield, the most significant being this: Climbing over the top of the trench and charging as hard as you can is NOT a recipe...

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This is What I Learned from Writing Bad Screen Plays

“You got to stand being bad if you want to be a writer, cause if you don’t, you’re never going to write anything good.” — David Mamet Some of my first screenplays were so bad my friends didn’t even know where to begin with their feedback. My first attempt at getting a...

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What Did You Do Today That Made You Unbelievably Happy?

What was one thing that you did today that you actually truly enjoyed? I am asking you this question because it always blows my mind how most of us spend so much of our time doing things for other people and not enough for ourselves. We try to meet the expectations of...

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Your Life May be Hard Right Now but it Won’t Always Be

Depression is like a tunnel, not a cave. I had to pause from listening intently to whatever my therapist said after these words to make sure I caught that right. I then mentally noted it so I could remind myself later. Depression is like a tunnel, not a cave. This was...

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5 Lies Writers Love to Tell Themselves

Are you getting drunk on your ideas? We all our lie to ourselves sometimes. We make excuses. We come up with rationalizations for why we aren’t doing what we’re supposed to be doing. We have a skewed view of our own personality. It seems as though creatives suffer...

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Unlock Your Creativity, Avoid The Dementors

“Stay away from negative people, they have a problem for every solution.” — Albert Einstein I have a simple rule in life. Avoid people that bring you down. Using this rule has helped me a lot in life, so far. For instance, right after graduation I decided to ignore...

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10 Things You Didn’t Know About Me

Part of me thought it would be easy to sit down and crank this out. But as I tried to come up with a list of 10 things I found it took a little more brain power. Thank you, Jack Heimbigner, for the challenge! Hopefully, this will give you a glimpse into who I am, why...

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This is What You Learn from Taming a 500-Pound Lion

“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” - Alexander Graham Bell As a kid, I wondered why lion tamers only used a chair to keep an angry lion at bay. At nearly 500 pounds, the animal clearly has the...

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Lessons

Sensing history from ages past Lessons taught us by its follies, Wisdom learned in its successes Values from different times and places. Sweep of history always present Past creations living with us still, Egos often ignore this sweep Focused more on present desires....

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10 Ways to Make an Extra $1,000 Each Month In Your Free Time

“There are no downsides to a side hustle. There are only benefits to building more than one source of income.” — Forbes Most of us only dream about making a 6 or 7 figure income a year, but the reality is that most of us would be equally chuffed to make just another...

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Choosing Not To Suffer

“Grief is a matter of the heart and soul. Grieve your loss, allow it in and spend time with it. Suffering is the optional part.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer My father passed away almost seventeen years ago. I was a different person. Even though I’d always believed our soul goes...

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3 Ways to Dominate Any Newsfeed

As writers and creators, and even as individuals, we live and work in an attention economy. The easiest place to see this is on social media. But lest you think that’s where it all started, it isn’t. We want people to notice us at work, at church, and at our social...

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Are you struggling?

Are you struggling with a mound of unpaid bills, do you feel threatened by all those unopened emails on your computer, do you have no idea what you’re going to eat this evening or how you’re going to clothe the kids and is your to-do list longer than Shakespeare’s...

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On the run in to Christmas…

As we move to the run in to Christmas, it’s very important to get things in perspective. As you get out of bed and leave your loved ones and go home to your families, the warmth and glow of Christmas spirit begin to flow through your body. Or is that the rum punch...

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For when I see your face

There was a time I wouldn’t speak The things I kept so secret To all the world I’d hide But you found the key to my heart You opened up my eyes To everything inside me To everything around me The first time I saw your face … That moment my world stood still When first...

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Make a Donation & it is not only about money

OK, anti-poverty is an option — for those who are so enthusiastic about caring for the poor. These people are right in saying we do not have all the money to eliminate the problem of food crisis or provide clean water/education/medical facilitates etc. at the global...

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Empathy is Exhausting

But that doesn’t mean we should stop fighting the good fight. “Tired” is an understatement. “Exhausted” is the only word that makes any sense to describe my feelings toward the overall state of things. My life’s irony is that my career and passions are founded in the...

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The Gift of Failure: Simple Steps to Win at Losing.

I’ve been thinking about failure a lot lately. Specifically, rejection. It’s probably got something to do with the fair share of it popping up in my inbox. The last few weeks, its wince and brace every time my email refreshes. I know it’s probably to be expected....

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My Short-Term Memory Is Failing

My family thought it was funny at first, and I could hardly blame them. I’d walk into a room and forget what I wanted. I’d go to the store and come back having forgotten at least one thing we needed. Sometimes it would take me three or four trips to remember a single...

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Rise and Shine!

How to Get Up Early, Have a Miracle Morning and Improve Yourself Sounds great, and it is. Getting up early is difficult — and good Nowadays I’m getting up early. Okay, don’t think too much of it. It’s not that I’m waiting at five o’clock next to my bed in a yoga pose...

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Why You Might Want to Give Up Social Media

yourself what, if anything, social media is adding to your life? Maybe it’s a great way to connect with others, but just maybe it’s a poor substitute for interacting with others in a more meaningful way. How do you use social websites? Consider these ideas when...

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How To Blog Your Way To A Second Income

Who wouldn’t like to blog for a living? Imagine sitting at your desk in the morning, typing away and making a great living while everyone else is fighting traffic or their boss. Can you really make money typing about your favorite topic and putting it out there for...

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When Are We Ever Ready To Do Anything?

Why do we believe that perfection works for us when it doesn’t? Listening to a radio programme recently, a caller was talking about how they had been preparing to have children for a few years and that now they were ‘ready’. It was all part of their plan. Another...

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I’m A Happy North Korean

I signed into Medium to check on my story statistics recently. I’m sure this is an activity the average Medium writer does frequently. When I did I saw something that stunned me. There is a column on your statistics that says lifetime earnings. I usually never pay...

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Childhood Is Not Like Vegas

2 years ago on a very quiet day in my neighborhood, a police chase ended right in front of my doorstep. The blazing sirens and jarring sounds brought me running to my window. The suspect had flown a silver, grey Prius through traffic lights, rammed into two cars and...

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Wishing for Peace-Poem and Song

My Wish For Peace — In Words and Audio If there where magicians Could they then swing their wand For every living being To live in peace in their land Let us all unit In a world full of respect No fear for each other No war and no regrets Imagine there is harmony...

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The Jesus Scandal

The Bible tells the story of a scandal in the making that gets little to no attention today. It is a story often told to children in Sunday school classes with little understanding of what actually happened. This is unfortunate because the impact of the event at that...

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A Week At Home With The Flu and What It Has Taught Me

So often, I wish I could just take a stay-cation. I long for a week of freedom to do whatever I want, write when I feel like it, and take on small projects that seem to build up over time. I just want to be at home, with no pressure and no guilt, and no NEED to take...

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Is your love visible?

a lesson from The Prophet “Work is love made visible. And if you can’t work with love, but only with distaste, it is better that you should leave your work and sit at the gate of the temple and take alms of the people who work with joy”. Kahlil Gibran’s The Prophet...

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Why You’ve got to endure a little bit more!

Our lives are a giant puzzle. Each piece on it own makes no sense but when all the pieces are put together, it makes a very beautiful picture. some of the pieces that make up the puzzle are big while others are very small. If you have ever tried to solve a puzzle, you...

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How to recover when you lose momentum with your goals

We’ve all been there. We set a goal, start crushing it, then lose momentum. Sometimes it’s because we weren’t clear on the goal, to begin with. Other times, life happens and you need to deal with it. For instance, I had a clear goal for the month of September. Then a...

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Lost

Anything left to loose seems I’ve fallen so fast clinging on to only threads remnants of the past everything is gone washed away it seems all my hopes for tomorrow all my wants and my dreams I’ll never rebuild the home though the structure remains how do you repair...

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Wits End

Fed up, broke down sick and tired that your never around. here for a minute, get what you need disappear into the night after you spill your seed. only caring when wanting considerate when you have an itch to scratch quickly learning that we are miss matched regret I...

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What To Do When You’ve Got A Million Reasons Not To Write

The house is dirty. The kids are sick. You’ve got bills to pay, so you’re working overtime. You’re not sure what to write. You’re afraid. You’re tired. If you feel like you’ve got a million reasons not to write, you’re not alone.  The truth is, all writers feel this...

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Why Parents Are Always Tired…

Technically, it starts before your little bundle is even born. It is impossible to sleep in that last couple months of your pregnancy. There is no true position that feels comfortable. No part of you that isn’t propped up with a pillow to support your belly, your...

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Eternal Presence

Orange streaks painted in blue sky Morning light rising from the east, Gray clouds slowly drift away In coolness of early morning air. Birds in flight are headed south Colorful flower blooms still smile, Summer slowly fades to Autumn Nature follows its endless course....

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Why Monday is Not Just Another Day

Monday is a hard day only for those, who perceive it negatively. Well starting from the good wishes and loads of positive vibes to you and if you are reading this from your office desk on Monday Morning in search of some super motivational piece of content, you came...

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Understanding Love Through Corinthians #2

Love is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked (nor overly sensitive and easily angered); it does not take into account a wrong endured. 1 Corr 13:5, AMP. To be rude is to lack manners, to disrespect, to be discourteous. When you disrespect someone, you...

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Be the Best Leader: Demonstrate Respect

A cornerstone of effective leadership is the demonstration of respect. It sounds so easy. Lead well. Got it. Be respectful. Got it. But day in and day out the personalities and priorities of your team members mingle and sometimes collide. Varying degrees of expertise,...

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What is the true cost of travel?

I woke up to the text message that no one wants to wake up to. Short messages always indicate bad news. The words are pared down to the absolute minimum to pierce even more deeply. My good friend’s mother had passed away. I was shocked. I did not even know she was ill...

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How to Become a Prolific Writer

What would your writing career look like if you’d published 500 posts by now? Do you dream about having your writing read widely? Are you anxious to build an audience of people who love your work? Are you still stuck in the starting gate without getting the traction...

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I am My Mother’s Child

Above all, I remember the worried looks on the face of my parents, especially my mother. I grew up in a middle-class family the youngest child of three boys. My father worked as a machinist and my mother was what we would call today a stay -at -home mom. I seemed to...

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How To Bully-Proof Your Child

“Anyone who does anything to help a child in his life is a hero to me” — Mr Rogers “By the time a child reaches out to an adult, the vast majority of kids have been dealing with the bullying and trying to ignore it for a long time” — Rosalind Wiseman Most children...

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COURAGE TO WRITE

All things REALLY do work together. I’ve been a writer all of my life, but I wrote secretly. No one read any of my work with the exception of an ex-boyfriend or two. I was terrified at the thought of others reading my work. I could totally relate to the opening line...

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Kindness is All Around Us

Since getting a dog two years ago I’ve upped one of my favorite things to do, which is to go for a walk. A walk is considerably different from running, something I also like to do, because of the relaxed pace. When I run I’m focused on getting exercise, paying...

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7 Things You Should Care Less About

“It never ceases to amaze me: the things people care about” — Marty Rubin Some things are worthy of your attention and concern. Others are not. Spending too much mental energy on the wrong things can move you further away from happiness and contentment. Making these...

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A Mother’s Love

From crib to tomb, we are not alone. Wherever our mother’s love remains, there is a home. Fight for your child, teach them right, kissing boo-boos, tuck them in at night. A home is not roof, not walls, or floor, it’s a mother’s love and so much more. It’s the fountain...

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Hey! Your Body Type is the Best

Just Take a Look Through History and You’ll See When it comes to our bodies we women are definitely our worst critics. Nothing is ever right, breasts are too small, waist is too big, legs aren’t lean enough, and our back-ends are just all wrong. Satisfied isn’t in our...

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Wisdom’s Call

What does wisdom really mean? Is it knowledge or is it truth? Perhaps a combination of both Deeply understanding what exists. Knowing what our values should be And how we should conduct ourselves, Ethical ways in which to live Beacons in vast seas of life. Wisdom from...

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You Don’t Have To Wake Up Early To Be Successful

You have to do right thing at the right time. While bidding goodbye to 2017, I made a commitment to make 2018 the best year so far. I wrote down huge goals, backed with super-detailed plans including all the actionable steps, routines and mindsets I needed to develop...

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How to stay Motivated in a Job?

I have already chosen to do Job!!! So now my only Job is to at least Stay Motivated!!! It’s not at all a bad thing to do any job, but really bad if I do it whole my lifespan. But for the sometime of my lifespan in which I am doing the job, I should do it very honestly...

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Finding Your True Calling (and Your Kids’)

Start by Paying Attention to Playtime We want to work and live out of our truest self. But calling can feel elusive. Like a hunt for buried treasure. I’m unsure it’s really a thing. Do I have a calling or is that just for special people? Why is it so hard to unearth?...

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What Do You Have to be Thankful For?

“Slanted rays and colored days, stark blue horizons” — Gordon Lightfoot, from “Pussywillows, Cattails” Thanksgiving in Canada is just around the corner. It’s a joyful time of year when we gather with our families and celebrate the fall harvest. It’s our last big...

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The Five Fifteen

Poem Defying logic, disobeying physics’ laws, a chance encounter on the five-fifteen — hissing doors at Knightsbridge station made him snap his head, while commuters crammed and thronged, huddled sheep, amidst a hundred harried faces, (eyes glued to hand-held...

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For when I see your face

There was a time I wouldn’t speak The things I kept so secret To all the world I’d hide But you found the key to my heart You opened up my eyes To everything inside me To everything around me The first time I saw your face … That moment my world stood still When first...

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Wishing for Peace-Poem and Song

My Wish For Peace — In Words and Audio If there where magicians Could they then swing their wand For every living being To live in peace in their land Let us all unit In a world full of respect No fear for each other No war and no regrets Imagine there is harmony...

read more

Why You Might Want to Give Up Social Media

yourself what, if anything, social media is adding to your life? Maybe it’s a great way to connect with others, but just maybe it’s a poor substitute for interacting with others in a more meaningful way. How do you use social websites? Consider these ideas when...

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Do Just One Thing to Find Purpose and Fulfillment!

Do you believe that if you have just one single priority you could find fulfillment and purpose in your life? What one thing could make such a huge impact? The follower of Jesus has a very simplified priority system! In fact, it can’t be any simpler. There is one...

Feel like a failure? Read this.

Earlier this week I was riding home from the gym after a particularly heavy leg session. It’s a short 1.7-mile ride, but unfortunately, it’s uphill the entire way. It’s just a hill, but considering how heavy my legs were feeling after pushing my squats to the brink of...

Clay is Nicole’s flunkie here at Publishous (maybe “devoted husband” sounds better).  Clay is a Dave Ramsey-trained financial coach and small business expert. Get his advice on finances at MakeDollarsMakeSense.com and leadership at ClayAkers.com
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Clay is Nicole’s flunkie here at Publishous (maybe “devoted husband” sounds better).  Clay is a Dave Ramsey-trained financial coach and small business expert. Get his advice on finances at MakeDollarsMakeSense.com and leadership at ClayAkers.com

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