To My 18-Year-Old Self
Dear younger me,
Don’t heavily rely on people to help you. I’m not talking about asking for help when you need it. This is more like sitting on your butt, waiting on someone to come and scoop you up, as if you were incapable of getting up on your own.
Learn how to do it yourself — whatever “it” is. The best way to fail is by trying, given it your best shot to do it on your own. Constantly having a hand to assist you on your bike while you ride will ultimately result in you never actually learning how to ride it yourself.
It’s when the hands come off that you learn how to ride. You’ll fall. But get up, and you try again. That’s how you grow up.
Help will not always be around. No matter who’s currently there to help you, they will not be there forever. There will come a time when they won’t be with you anymore. It’s sad, but that’s life. It’s the reality you must understand — if we want to grow up. If you heavily depend on the help, you will fall flat on your face when it’s gone.
Become mentally tough. Complaining about situation won’t get you anywhere. Trust me. I’ve had my share of complaints over the years. And they’ve taken me one step into the wrong direction each time.
Despite how cliche-ish it sounds, look at the bigger picture. This life is tough. It’s hostile at times and pleasant in others. Your mind must be prepared for the worst at any given moment. Without a prepared mind, you’ll get hit with what feels like a ton of bricks.
Who knows? Maybe that’s what you need. Maybe then you’ll come to realize that you shouldn’t float through life assuming, because all is going well, that everything will remain the same.
Learn from the best, and learn from their errors. Seek guidance from those who’ve been through some things. They can show you their scars and where they came from.
In those scars, there are stories — stories of things they probably wish they could do over again. But they can’t. They can only tell you how to avoid them. Their words and advice could be what you need to take your first steps into adulthood, whatever that involves.
Throw your laziness in the trash. It’s time to get up and do something productive with yourself. Your life will begin to change when you rid yourself of the laziness— but for the better.
Forget about what use to be. Dwelling in the past will only cause you to stay in the past. You will grow up when you forget about the other days. Be in the now.
It’s okay to reminisce, but don’t stay there.
Don’t ever start to think that you know everything. The way I see it, you have two options in this life: You can become a sponge or you can stay the brick you know you’ve morphed into.
You either choose to listen to productive advice, or you can go your own path, letting the wise words of the experienced go in one ear and out the other.
Listening doesn’t mean you have to agree. But listen anyway. Hear them out. Don’t come to the conclusion that they’re wrong before hearing what they have to say.
Then you’ll be able to handle your own. You’ll be mentally tough enough to withstand everything this cold world has to offer. You’ll blossom because you’ve listened and learned. You’ll have the drive to continue moving forward — no looking back. You’ll be smart enough to know that you don’t know as much as you think. Turns out, you still have plenty of room up there in the old cranium. Then you’ll become the grown man I know you can be.
Thanks for reading, guys! I hope you enjoyed it. I’ll be sharing ideas like this each week. I’m always looking for new ways to learn, so if you have some other ideas, don’t hesitate to let me know. I’d love to hear it.