We always want to strive for what’s best for us.
There is nothing wrong with having the desire to have what’s the best, for you and for your family.
Whatever the circumstances might be, to improve in your life, change has to be persistent.
People will often point fingers at your job or even family as causes of your failure to change for the better.
True, these factors are part of the equation, but they aren’t the most vital ones.
And so, what truly matters in this equation is you.
But it’s easy to lose sight of yourself when you’re surrounded by constant events that distract you from the solution which more often than not is you.
When you’re thinking of change, it might seem complex but we do tend to exaggerate situations more than it’s needed.
Change is simple but it’s a process of daily mind re-wiring.
In this article, we’ll tackle the issue of change and you’ll see how simple it is and how easy is to take action that leads to change.
Thoughts do and don’t matter
In the face of change, your mind is bombarding you with an endless stream of thoughts.
When such an important matter as bringing change in your life arises, your mind decides to work against you.
You feel a tremendous amount of discomfort at the idea of changing.
Countless scenarios start playing in your head, which mostly is pro-anti-change.
But why is that happening?
In a modern era, our brains are still working as if we are living in the Stone Age.
Let’s take fear for example. It is so common to experience fear on a daily basis.
Social anxiety is a fear of social interaction. This fear makes your brain go into a FIGHT or RUN state.
This goes way back into our past as species.
Because when we were hunting animals, we had to differentiate prey from a predator, we had to be ready for a dangerous situation.
No matter the historical timeline, we were always somewhat hard-wired to perceive the unknown as highly dangerous for our own safety.
In our context, fear appears where lack of understanding resides.
And so, thinking might help you get some insight into your hesitation to change but it has a high possibility of pushing you down deeper into the fear spiral.
For change to prosper, ideas alone won’t cut it.
Let’s say you go to therapy on a weekly basis.
It’s a place where you go and exteriorize your thoughts and feelings. You seek the feeling of being at ease when doing so.
But is that true help?
Does that achieve anything meaningful in the long-term or is it merely a momentarily escape from reality?
Understanding your thoughts and fears is 50% of the process to change as an individual.
But where does the other 50% sit?
The other 50% is, in fact, the actions you take towards change.
As I stated above, our brains work as if we’re still living in the Stone Age and because of that, we hesitate to take action at the idea of feeling discomfort when going through the motions of that action.
If you hoped for a shortcut, there isn’t one.
Change is the opposite of stagnant. It is dynamism, it’s motion.
The fuel for change is action, action and more action.
Throughout history, change has always been at the base of our advancement as a species.
Let’s go back at our social anxiety example.
Do you think only talking with a therapist will solve the root issue?
Even in that scenario, you are still somewhat comfortable because you know the therapist has a set of questions and you’ve pretty much figured out how everything will play out.
To solve the root issue, in that case, it takes more than talking to a therapist.
You have to go and talk with people. It might be family, friends or people you barely know.
The less you have a certitude about a situation, the more you are inclined towards the possibility of an infinite variety of scenarios those social situations might hold.
This will lead to your exposure in front of the irrational fear you are faced with.
Basically, you will have to take action under unknown variables and parameters and you’ll be more prone to vulnerability.
The action is what drives your character as an individual.
In the end, no matter how much you try to avoid it, change requires action.
But before you start taking action, an understanding of the situation is also required.
It won’t be a smooth and linear path, but you can ease it up by understanding that change requires you to balance out thoughts and action.
Don’t overthink and don’t take action without thinking it through first.
In spite of all, change is what will always last and we have history to thank for.
Your first step towards change will be understanding yourself from the present and then thinking and acting like the new version you so desperately strive to become.