It’s okay to be alone.
Sometimes, you don’t want to talk to anyone. Not because they don’t understand you, but you’re okay with yourself.
Your pillow is the eye witness of your tears. At late night, you’re just okay with you. Yes, you want someone who loves, care, and hug you tightly.
Sometimes, we expect from the 7 billion people that please be with me. Just sit here and talk to me, let’s hangout.
Unfortunately, it’s just expectations. They will never get fulfilled.
And that’s why you’re binge-watching videos, reading one post after another and overwhelmingly finding some nuggets to beat loneliness.
And being alone is really hard to accept. Because from 7 billion people, no one is for you to listen to your shits.
People care about you, but they care about themselves first.
Honestly, loneliness is not something that you can’t beat with one blog post or some nerd ideas.
Personal stories help you to conquer at some level. Plus if you apply some ideas and adopt a varied perspective, you will have different time.
I feel really alone in the busy world. People have their own aspirations. They want millions, create an amazing business, and want to be famous. But, no one cares about their feelings much. They’re okay with mediocre relationships.
So, it’s way tough to beat because we are losing human connections day by day. But still, loneliness is a personal thing.
Come Out From The Loneliness Trap.
”I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” — Robin William
You’re alone because you feel deeply attached to someone you lost. Maybe he or she left you or cheated on you. One tragedy creates the trap, and no matter how you try to come out, you end up being deeply alone.
With time, it becomes a trap. It expands and forms differently. Loneliness is the result of affection with situations or people.
Those who care for others feel intense loneliness than self-centered people.
Still, one emotional trauma can cause this trap.
So, your goal is to come out. Once you understand that it’s because of fondness with another person, then you can easily beat loneliness. Your subconscious mind discovers ways to create a deeper and long-lasting relationship.
Sometimes, one person seems special to us. We think he is the one who is our life. He can love us like no one else, and he can understand us better than anyone.
It may be real for you. I agree with you because some people really make a difference in our lives and you may or may not find the one.
But, sometimes, you must disengage with the situation. If someone left or cheated on you, then how can you believe that he will make you happy?
I believe in one thing, those who left has no right to come back in your life. If he devised you — it’s because of strong reason.
Yes, I can understand your solitude, but that doesn’t mean it’s because of someone else. Your emotions are yours and no matter how he attached with you, but one day you have to choose yourself.
People Can’t Be Chased, They Can Be Pursued.
This perspective helps even deeper.
Whatever your relationship with someone, but still human beings are pursued, not chased.
Someone is not ready for you, and you’re trying to chase or realize your value. But it builds attachment even deeper. It hurts even more.
”Loneliness is not lack of company, loneliness is lack of purpose.” — Guillermo Maldonado
Yes, you can chase. But a bigger purpose. Chase your goals. Your wishes.
People can change their decision, so you need to choose yourself. Pursuing a deeper purpose helps you to develop higher values. You can learn patience, love, care, respect, work ethics, perseverance, and commitment.
You will form a distinct personality, but if you chase people, they may walk.
Success attracts successful people. You find a loyal one who is ready to choose you.
Extraordinary people have extraordinary relationships.
It’s a sure-fire way to beat loneliness.
When your success depends on people, then wait for the right one.
You’re at your worst stage. Still, you create great relationships if you strengthen your foundation.
Every adversity has a short life span.
Avoid Time Wasters.
Most people use technology to get relief. They watch Netflix show one after one, scroll Instagram memes one after one.
You can’t see extraordinary things if you trapped into ordinary life.
Instagram feeds, Facebook walls, cat videos, social media trends sneak your dreams.
It’s substantial time wasters. And it can’t beat loneliness for long. This attitude creates mediocre relationships, and you trap into similar people. It may be instant gratification, but it wastes your time. One video may not change your day, but thousands of videos will consume hundreds of hours.
So, find the better solution. Beat your loneliness permanently. Develop long term relationships. Don’t settle for mediocre people.
Falling in multiple relationships is the biggest trap. You’re attaching one people after another, and investing heartfelt emotions in a short period of the relationship. It hurts.
Of course, people don’t have a trust label but still use your emotions like treasurer.
Emotions are your strengths, not weaknesses.
It’s Okay To Be Alone.
It’s not always possible to come out from solitude and find the desired partner on fingertips. Life is not Tinder! Sometimes, you must face it.
Everything has benefits, and so loneliness has. It’s okay to be alone. People are way isolated that you can’t think. They don’t have a single person for years to talk to.
Still, they bear it. Of course, tolerating is not the ultimate option, but being alone gives strength. If you feel okay with yourself, you love even more, even harder.
It nurtures self-love. You need fewer people to share your life. You have the courage to fight for standards, and you meet new people to relate to.
It’s okay to pass through it. You choose to stay in this situation, and sometimes we feel that this is batter life.
”Loneliness adds beauty to life. It puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better.” — Henry Rollins
We don’t always risk the emotions to sacrifice. Sometimes we don’t get the right fit. Whatever it is, but if you feel like that then pass through it. It’s your time. I am not saying that settle for a lonely life. But just live your present time.
Sometimes we have acceptance issue. We don’t want to accept emptiness. But it’s life. You must live with it. Mediocrity is into the settlement.
”People think being alone makes you lonely, but I don’t think that’s true. Being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world.” ― Kim Culbertson
Reduce Unconscious Risk.
The second thing you must do is reduce hostility for people. Suppose, if you’re lonely for years, you will develop detachment for people. You lose trust. You think that people are cheaters and they meant to betray.
You lose hope from humanity, that’s why you only love yourself.
Somewhat it’s challenging to come out from the trap. It has an intense energy that you feel bewildered. You think it’s real, but it’s not as you think.
Chance people to be part of life, allow yourself to be open. Because only love heals the scars that love left.
All humans are not the same. It’s true. Everyone tells you this line, It’s a valuable perspective. Yes, people can change, but not all.
Don’t Tell Everyone What You’re Feeling.
Not all your loved ones are same. They may or may not agree with your point. So, don’t tell everyone. Don’t ask for solutions. People hate negativity. Your problems are yours, and no one will save you. People criticize you for having such a distressed life. People reject you for your problems.
Sit alone, be with you. Definitely, it will pass.
Let’s Pass Through It.
Loneliness is not easy to beat. It takes time.
It depends on how you take it. From my experience, I can tell you that acceptance is better than clarity.
Sometimes, it’s okay to live with it. Negative emotions are hard to beat. But yes, you can definitely pass through it.
In this time, you have to maintain optimistic perspectives. If you curse the people and situations, it’s not the best way to deal with it.
Loneliness is the part of life, people may be with you and may not. But it’s up to you how to live with it.