There are two ways of living this life — in our comfort zones or out of them.
In the words of Steve Harvey,
If you stay in your comfort zone, that is where you will fail.
It may be new to some of us, but the concept of getting out of your comfort zone is an oldie.
The problem is that we are becoming so used to being comfortable that being uncomfortable is unpopular.
And out here, not being able to know what it’s like to do something you don’t want to do is unacceptable.
If we’re not already, we need to become very familiar with this idea — that is, if we want to do something with our lives.
There’s so much more outside of those boundaries we set for ourselves than we realize.
It’s easy to sit and watch everything going on around us from our caves.
Are we aware of how many people are living in this world? A lot.
There aren’t many legitimate reasons for why we shouldn’t be interacting with other people on a regular basis.
Yea, yea, yea. I get it. I’m an introvert, too.
But those “reasons” we do come up with are not valid ones.
Believe me. I have a history of creating reasons why I can’t go some place where there is a possibility of meeting someone I don’t know — caring too much about what they’d think about me.
Will they like me?
They’ll probably think I talk too much or maybe not enough.
I am sort of weird if I think about it.
I shouldn’t go.
I started overthinking situations, which caused me to avoid them. Instead of calming myself down and walking forward — no matter how afraid I was — and facing my fear, I’d turn around and run the other way.
We’ll never get anywhere in life avoiding difficulty.
Trying to find the back route to whatever we’re seeking, all while trying to avoid our fears, won’t make them go away. They’re still going to be there.
As a matter of fact, they’ll most likely follow us wherever we go.
You’ll be running for a long time with that notion.
And that’s no way to live.
I have to accept the fact that I am afraid of this particular situation. It’s no shame in that. We can all think of one thing we’re most afraid of.
We should go face up with that fear, though, because that is the breaking point.
Acting as if the fear isn’t there also doesn’t make it go anywhere. I’d put on a face to pretend as if I wasn’t afraid, even though I was seconds from fainting.
In the end, the fear remained — popping its ugly head up every time I walked into a similar situation.
Accept the fear and deal with it. What we do with the situations that make us most uncomfortable is what determines how we live our lives.
We can live it running. Or, we can live our lives like it was meant to be lived, doing things we know we should be doing but aren’t.
Being confined to a small space in this gigantic world is not how we were made to exist.
There are so many things to see in this wonderful world we live in.
We should spread our wings and go places we haven’t been.
We’d be surprised with what we discover.
One of the things on my list is to travel more.
But I’m going to start small, first.
I’m not going to Spain tomorrow. Although that may sound wonderful to some, that isn’t ideal for me, at least not yet.
I want to run over to California to see my mom’s side of the family. I’ve been there before, just not alone. And keep in mind, I live in North Carolina. So this would be a good start for me.
The point is to get out your comfort zone — not how fast or drastic you get out. You don’t have to do something odd and dangerous to get out of your comfort zone.
Small steps are steps nevertheless. Forget what other people’s ideas of what’s best for you.
You know who you are and how you are; you will always have you to deal with.
When you get over you, you conquered a giant mountain.
The advancement of technology shouldn’t be an excuse not to step outside our literal doorsteps and talk to people.
There are too many things we can do to interact with other humans to say that we can’t.
We can join a countless number of clubs, for example — whatever our interests may be.
Book club. Sock club. It doesn’t really matter.
What matters is we do something we wouldn’t do on an ordinary day. You know, those boring days when time goes right by our faces because we sat there, doing absolutely nothing that makes us the slightest bit uncomfortable.
Somebody’s putting in the effort to step outside their norm and into a world they’d heard about but never experienced.
What’s our excuse?
I’m sure you have stories to tell people. We all do.
People out there would love to hear it, too.
But they can’t hear you from where you’re sitting. Not everyone has an account on here. Some people have never even heard of this platform.
It’s good enough to be locked in a room with the windows open, saying you’re done for the day just because you shared a story on here.
Face to face conversations will never get old, no matter the times, new device, or platform that comes out.
Human interaction will never be replaced. And neither will the necessary task of going outside what we’re used to.
If getting up and getting out is what makes us most uncomfortable, that’s the very thing not allowing us to reach our full potential.
Those uncomfortable things are the very things we should do.
Outside our bubble is where success starts; inside, it will never begin.
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