Want to see how much time I spend on my iPhone every day?
Four hours and ten minutes on average. LIKE, WHAT?! And a whopping 60–70% of my time is spent on social media.
If you want to break it down even further, here it is…
This is a problem.
I Am Obsessed With Social Media
The first thing I do when I wake up is check Instagram, Facebook, Messenger, Twitter, Youtube, and LinkedIn.
All of them.
Then I come downstairs and I make a pot of coffee.
While I wait for the water to percolate, I check Instagram and Facebook again, because, why not?
While I drink my coffee I watch a Youtube video, and as I slide into my workday checking emails I have another Youtube video playing in the background.
Now, full disclosure, I’m writing this as a VERY sleep deprived little man.
I live a very happy life, I think, that’s relatively healthy and positive.
But this social media thing… it’s taking over my life a bit too much.
Why Am I So Obsessed?
I think as a (relatively) young person I go to social media for validation.
I seek validation for my thoughts and feelings, and when I get more likes and comments and shares, that makes me feel good.
Because it’s an easy way of measuring that validation, you see.
So I’m getting good news from these platforms, most times. I see nothing but red blasting my eyeballs whenever they load up.
And as young people, we’re particularly susceptible because all we keep hearing from everybody else is how stupid we are.
But social media tells us we’re okay. And that’s awfully addicting.
How To Stop The Addiction (This Surprised Me)
You know, one thing many people like to do is delete social media.
Delete it from phones, logout on your desktop, and maybe even download apps that restrict time on these sites.
This is a great idea. Seriously. All of them should be implemented.
But I think there’s nothing really fundamentally wrong with social media.
The problem is with us. The time-limiting apps we love to throw around won’t do shit if we can’t fix the base problem..
And I think this starts with, oddly enough, being a bit more mindful.
I think we need to catch ourselves in the moment as we feel the urge to look through social media. It begins with tiny steps.
No looking at it when you wake up.
Then no looking at it for the hour after you woke up.
Then try to stop yourself from looking at it when you walk down the street to 7/11.
Things like that.
Social Media Has Made “Art” About Expectations
Social media is a haven for expectations.
The reason it’s become toxic for me is because on any given day, something I create doesn’t do that well.
A medium post. A LinkedIn post. A Facebook video.
And what does “do well” even mean? There’s people that would kill for the statistics I get, you know? So is it actually doing bad, or am I just kidding myself?
Probably the second answer.
Humans love putting benchmarks on success for whatever reason. The other day Nate Miller shared a post about art. In it he quoted someone that said humans used to use art to create — just create— and now it’s more about how we can use art to make money.
We used to look at a butterfly and enjoy the process of drawing it without the expectations of how many likes that drawing would get on social media.
I miss that.
Mindfulness Is Going To Stop The Addiction, For Me
Content IS my business. Creating it and finding out ways to get more eyes on it are things I enjoy doing.
It is fun, for sure…
But I think the expectations are killing me.
I think I need to slow my roll and get that “4 hours and 22 minutes” per day down to at least 2 hours.