I Care What You Think – I Can’t Help It

I have a problem that I’m not sure how to deal with. It comes up so seemingly and so often that my entire day can be thrown off by it. The problem lies in the fact that I need constant re-affirmation that I am in good standing with the people around me. The slightest...

Animal Magnetism: The Healing Power Of Pets

Blizzard-like conditions slowed our progress during the long ride home from the hospital, where I’d just had a lumpectomy to remove a malignancy in my right breast. It was February of 2016. Alternately freezing and sweating from the cranked heater, my stomach roiled...

The Fullness of Grateful

A close friend said I was wrong: one cannot be both grateful and unhappy. I thought for a minute. Then he said, “if you’re not happy, you are not experiencing the fullness of grateful.”  I appreciated his statement. We defined terms: happiness vs joy. Some see those...

Living with my ACOA issues, one day at a time.

ACOA: Adult Children of Alcoholics. Last week my Big Red Book came in the mail. It is an ACOA publication that has been around since the late 70’s early 80’s. I have heard from others that it has helped in their healing, even though it is a “rough read.”  They said it...

I’m giving myself this gift for Christmas

This time last year, I felt like I was in a pretty good place for mid-December. I had 6 months of social media content prepared and scheduled in advance. I was putting the finishing touches on my free challenge and launch scheduled for late January and early February...

How To Overcome the Stress of the Christmas Season

Is Christmas time a time of stress and frustration for you? Christmas was a time of angst. yes angst. I fretted over what to buy the relatives and my kids. I stressed over the food production. I got angry when things didn’t go as I planned. Through all the joy of the...

5 ways I “ruin” my kids, and why its ok

I love my kids!! They are my entire world. And I am slowly, but surely ruining them. I tend to lose my cool over relatively insignificant things. If you are mad at your kid, you can either raise him to be a nose tackle or send him out to play on the freeway. It’s...

Hanging Up on Abuse

Ending the call does not make you the bad guy. Working at a call center was a different sort of experience.  One fall, after moving back to my hometown I got a job at a call center close by. I had been scrambling to find some sort of employment and it was getting...

Getting older when only you realize it

I don’t always think about getting old. It is my body that constantly reminds me that I am. When I dream or fantasize about doing something it is not my present body or mind that is in my dream. No, it is a younger me with a fit body and fit mind.  Every morning when...

Drug companies will kill you, one way or the other!

When I was younger I didn’t know anything about medications and I don’t think too many other people did either. When you went to the doctor he/she gave you some medicine, which you hoped would take care of what ailed you. Most likely you didn’t even know the names of...

Salvage Yourself: Dealing With A Troubled Past

Are you letting the past hijack your soul? One December a few days before Christmas, I set out to drive 140 miles across England. The weather was chilly and dry as I set off. This was long before mobile phones and even before the internet. Weather reports came after...

Our $50,000 Hospital Bill

I can still remember the horror as I got the email notifying us.  The total that we owed was over $50,000.  This can’t be legal! How could they think it’s reasonable to expect a young couple like us to pay that? Our shock turned to anger, which turned to despair. We...

What the Fog ofPMS Reduces Me To…

Add The Fibromyalgia, and Hypothyroidism. I know when it’s coming…it feels like the clouds are descending, gloom awaits,  Havoc simmers just below the surface… My brain during PMS is quite a mess! It seems that I cannot compute the simplest of tasks… Even...

The Gift of Falling

I looked up at the little colorful rocks above my head. They were of different sizes and shapes. The question was “Which one do I reach for?” I could feel my arms muscle straining trying to hold my weight as I considered my options. I hadn’t made up my mind when my...

Entitlement on Earth

Make A Holiday Gift To Yourself, One That Saves The Planet Entitlement is the one thing we too often feel at Christmas. It’s a holiday of excess: Black Friday, too much eating, drinking, materialism and commercialization. This is ironic, because other than celebrating...

Want to Be More Productive? Eat Healthier

“Indeed, the best way to think of willpower is not as some shapeless behavioral trait but as a sort of psychic muscle, one that can atrophy or grow stronger depending on how it’s used.”  — Jeffrey Kluger I recently tried an interesting experiment on myself. My...

The Truth About Physical Abuse

It started with a cigarette burn. He enveloped me in an embrace, and the next thing I felt was the searing pain of his lit cigarette. He swore it was an accident, but when I looked the next day, there was a perfectly round hole in my back surrounded by red, swollen...

5 Ways to Beat Depression During the Holidays

And have a ton of fun doing it!! Ah, it’s holiday time. Yippee yahoo. For many, it’s fun and family and feasts. And then there’s the rest of us who have to go through the holidays alone. Some don’t mind it, some find it very difficult. My first Christmas alone, I had...

Numb In The Places I Once Felt The Most

Pinterest You know that one girl with warm sunshine eyes, leaving behind a trail of happy faces everywhere she goes, her mere presence enough to light up the deepest darkest corners of your heart — I was her. Emphasis on was. Now I’ve morphed myself into a harbinger...

Coping With the Loss of a Loved One – Generate Magic

Lessons Learned and Healing Strategies Coping with the loss of a loved one is not easy. However, these experiences can act as valuable tools for wisdom and growth. A time to reconnect with family I don’t usually travel for the holidays, but this Thanksgiving was an...

Growing up in dysfunction is hell

My Dad is an alcoholic. Not the happy-go-lucky kind of alcoholic that has a few drinks, then laughs the night away watching old home videos while his kids play on the floor. And not the fall-down-drunk alcoholic that you see on the streets, tripping over his own feet,...

What it’s like to do emergency mental health work

It takes a certain personality type work with people in crisis. You arrive at the beginning of each shift with no knowledge of who you’ll work with, where you’ll see them, what they’re dealing with, and whether or not you’ll be able to connect them with the services...

5 simple strategies to prevent decision fatigue

(without wearing the same outfit every day). What do Mark Zuckerberg, founder and CEO of Facebook; Jonathan Goodman, founder of The PTDC and Online Trainer Academy; and Matt D'Avella, Freelance Videographer and director of Minimalism have in common? They all wear the...

5 Ways to Eat Healthy on a Budget

How to eat clean when money is tight 5 tips for eating healthy on a budget It is a common perception that eating healthy means spending an exorbitant amount of cash compared to normal grocery habits. While it’s true that eating healthy can be expensive, and that many...

What Life is Like When Your Mom is Bipolar

It’s the only normal you’ve got “Michael, give me a kiss before you go to the bus.” “Because I’m going to kill myself while you’re at school today.” I was in the second grade. We had just moved into a new home and this was a day close to the beginning of the school...

Give Peas a Chance

What a tragedy it is, the modern world. While he also invented the mousetrap, hair curling irons and the steam pump, Sir Hiram Maxim's most famous invention was the machine gun, and for doing that he has a blue plaque in his honour on the wall of a house he once lived...

Mommy, Why Don’t You Hug Me?

Kids sometimes ask the deepest and most direct questions, the ones we refuse to ask ourselves. This is what my 11-year-old son asked me one day as I was preparing dinner- “Mom, why don’t you hug and kiss me like other mothers do?” I kept quiet, acting like I was a...

What is Your Mindset? A Harvard Study

More Importantly, What is Your Child’s Mindset? Over the past two days, I have been attending training courses on Mindset and children. Mindset has been a buzzword in my work world for quite some time and the courses I have taken have created many AHA! moments for me....

Fibromyalgia Is Ruining My Life

What can I do when the pain is unbearable? It starts in the morning in my hips and legs and wakes me up from peaceful sleep. Limping out to the living room, I grab a BC powder and pour it into my mouth looking for some relief. Lately, I’ve also added a shot of vodka,...

Money, Power and Meditation

Our time and attention is being capitalised. There are more than 1000 peer-reviewed scientific studies on meditation published every year. Meditation has shown its incredible ability to help us regulate our emotions in a much healthier way. Studies have shown daily...

The Top 20 Brain Foods

It’s obvious that our bodies change as we grow older, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do everything in our power to combat them. One thing we can do to optimize our health is eat some of the top 20 brain enhancing foods regularly to help keep our brain healthy. We...

The Top 20 Brain Foods

Eat your way to smart It’s obvious that our bodies change as we grow older, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do everything in our power to combat them. One thing we can do to optimize our health is eat some of the top 20 brain enhancing foods regularly to help keep our...

Melanoma In Situ

My Experience with MIS. A Record of my Treatment, Reactions, and Outcome. A few weeks ago, I was diagnosed with a Melanoma In Situ, the abbreviation for which, in medical papers, is MIS. “It is the very earliest stage of a skin cancer called melanoma”. The word...

Why authentic connections matter in the digital age

Those who know me well, know that authenticity is part of who I am and everything I stand for. Superficial connections and small talk are just something I always avoid or simply cannot be bothered with. It’s not that I don’t want to sometimes, but I literally get...

How to cope when your old wounds are poked

Isn’t it crazy how you can push negative experiences to the dark depths of your mind and tell yourself you’ve worked through them… You’re over them… You’ve moved on. Isn’t it then frustrating when, right outta the blue, someone walks into your life and pokes at those...

He Piqued my Interest

Too many activities and people, and things. Too many worthy activities, valuable things, and interesting people. For it is not merely the trivial which clutters our lives, but the important as well. We can have a surfeit of treasures – an excess of shells, where one...

I don’t have time for fake friends

As a mom to three little kids (ages 5, 3, and 1) I spend a lot of time doing things that I don’t absolutely love to do. My hobbies consist of answering 5,000 questions. Every. Single. Day. Wiping other people’s butts. Making food, only to sit down to someone needing...

Growing Old is Not for the Fainthearted

The process of aging creeps up on you rather slowly and suddenly surprises you; you may still be working in your life career as you enter your sixties; you are coping well, you manage a full day without any problems; you admit you are needing a rest on a Saturday or...

MAN-O-PAUSE

ONSET Subject will present with a runny nose. SYMPTOMS Inability to move from a horizontal position for 3–5 days. Ability to whine and make mopey faces. Low energy, only enough to scroll a phone/tablet or watch sports channels. Hypersomnia in between meals. Bloodshot...

The Daily Life Of A Drug Addict

I always tried to get there early before the sun came up. The grocery store opened at 7:00 a.m., but I was usually there at 6:45 a.m. The fewer people who saw me the better. It was terrible when that happened, people’s looks of disgust mixed with pity burning me deep...

Why A School Wants To Give Kids Haribo

Instead of healthy home-made cake Parenting can be a pain in the ass. While your little ones totter happily, you’re scanning for danger 24/7. You spend hours shopping organic, feeding them right, making sure they sleep and trying not to fly off the handle when they...

Three Truths About Relationships

The Authentic Journey of a Professional Counselor I normally spend the first moments of most mornings on the front porch swing. It’s become a place of reflection, prayer and a hot cup of coffee. My authentic journey has led me to become a professional counselor as a...

Trust Me It’s Hard: Confessions Of A Porn Addict

A Quick Guide to Porn Addiction There are many types of addictions that exist in our society today. From drugs to alcohol, from people who are addicted to exercise to those addicted to food — there are more addictions than most people realize. One of the most...

Try This Incredible Mind Hack, If You Have Anxiety

If you scoured this whole planet you wouldn’t be able to find a single person who hasn’t been in the grips of anxiety at some point in their life. Don’t be fooled by those putting on a happy front either, they have all had their fair share of moments too. We are after...

Hurt by Just Words

A Poetic Shout-Out You know, words can hurt One word, that is the start An expression uttered for my ears to hear Did you know they were my biggest fear? The way you spoke, I just wanted it to end What you’ve said took so long for my heart to mend Endless days where I...

Absolutely Grateful For A Wonderful New Day – Photos

Spoiler Alert — I’m Not Really There Yet, But I’m Working On It “Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.” — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart Today dawned after I’d been working for several hours. No, I haven’t suddenly decided to rise at...

How to find your off switch and use it to your advantage

Almost any entrepreneur can tell you what excites them because it’s a speech they’ve given hundreds of times. It’s their motivator to get up in the morning, to keep working long hours, and to do the work even when they haven’t seen success yet. Passion keeps the...

Exercise Overviews: Understanding Your Options

A Guide to Understanding the Most Popular Forms of Exercise, What They’re For, And How To Use Them Exercise is a broad term referring generally to physical activity for the purpose of improvement. However, what you are improving varies depending on the kind of...

Driving In Lower Gear

Or with the emergency brake on. Spinning your wheels won’t get you too far, especially if you’re driving in lower gear, or heaven forbid if you forgot to take off the parking brake. You will be exerting much more energy than necessary, while not making the progress...

You Are Not a Bad Person When You Struggle

“when you meet someone, treat them as if they were in serious trouble, and you will be right more than half the time.”  — Henry B. Eyring We all struggle. We all suffer. We all have weaknesses. You, me, and everyone we have ever met or will ever meet is the same way....

Finding strength in hard times

You are more capable than you know! I am sitting with my mom at the hospital, ready to pass out, having fasted for 24 hours for a colonoscopy exam. Good times. I am thinking of my dad, who, just over two months ago passed away from cancer. It was the most atrocious...

Why Women Won’t Admit What’s Wrong

And it's killing us... Months before I got my diagnosis, I knew something was amiss. I felt strange, simultaneously wired and exhausted and the pounds were falling off despite consuming vast quantities of cake and cookies in an effort to keep going. I was twenty-four....

Things to do in November

You will want to live in bed all day, to eat more carbs, to begin, like the black bear, to fill yourself in anticipation of long sleep. Make it to work anyway. Pay rent with the money you are making and buy new boots for your sweetheart. His feet are already wet with...

Who Did You Help Today?

How did you make the world around you better? “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson Recently, I have taken some time...

Layers Upon Layers of Social Media

When you try and gain exposure as a writer, something very surreal can happen. In an attempt to reach readers, you can get caught up, and tangled up in a spiraling, deep hole of Social Media. I have learned this recently, and am trying to crawl out of it. But it’s not...

The Wheels on the Bike Go ‘Round and ‘Round

I flipped through the glossy pages of a fashion magazine and there, alongside an article on how to dress for a summer party, I spotted a glossy ad featuring a slim model posed gracefully alongside her Schwinn. I thought about the pants in my closet that no longer fit,...

What is Your “Enough?”

The word ENOUGH, in and of itself, is so powerful in our language. It is as empowering as you wish it to be, in whatever context you apply it to. What is “Enough Happy”? What is enough “success?” Are we ever happy enough? Content enough? Do we ever really make enough...

Can Kindness Be Taught?

I assumed that I would be the one to remind or “teach” this concept to the students. But it was just as often they who taught me, and each other, about it. Maybe more. In 1993, I proposed to a group of parents the basic philosophy and concepts of what a year later...

What Frazzled Moms Really Need

It isn’t medication… A friend of mine gets paid to talk women out of taking medication. No, that’s not her real job title. It’s not even IN her job description, but she works in social care and discovered it as a serendipitous sidebar to her services. These women are...

You Don’t Like Me?

Awww….Am So Okay With It!! This article intends to deal with the part of your mind that keeps you feeling awful for Mr/Ms. X not liking you. I know it sounds much easier than it really is, but this trick does work — though the execution might be a little difficult!...

Letting Go Of What I Thought I Looked Like

And embracing what I ACTUALLY look like is an ongoing process, but I like to think I’m getting there. About two years ago, I came across a model search for a plus-size boutique that one of my good friends used to work at. They had lovely clothes, and I’d done a little...

Befriend Solitude And Discover That You’re Not Alone

“Solitude is where one discovers one is not alone” — Marty Rubin Put Your Life In Perspective Being in your own company gives you the chance to see where you’re heading in terms of your relationships, career, and spiritual evolution. If you spend at least a half an...

Shatter your expectations to make self-care a reality

Some people talk about self-care as though we can snap our fingers and, like magic, we’re suddenly putting ourselves first. They write articles like ‘5 steps to putting yourself first’ and ‘why you should put yourself first’ like the tips are the solution to our...

Headstrong Book Review: Biohacking Your Mitochondria

Dave Asprey is a biohacker and computer programmer known for coining the term biohack and starting the company: Bulletproof. If you’ve ever heard of bulletproof coffee, a mix of MCT oil, grass-fed butter, and hot black coffee, well, Dave invented it. Dave’s influence...

Learning to TRUST

I loved running trails, hated the rocks and roots and tolerated going much slower when I came to a muddy section. While others flew down the hilly sections, I cautiously picked my way around the rocks, roots and other obstacles. Until one fateful day, I was out...

Why do we honour the dead more than the living?

Babies are born daily. As you are reading this article now, someone is giving birth to a baby. The truth is that someone has just died somewhere. Those two are beyond our control. We have very little power when it comes to controlling that. I have been asking myself...

Be Kind To Yourself

Be Kind to Yourself! This sounds so simple… and it should be easier to practice than it is. For instance, if we hear a friend or loved one talking badly about themselves, we are quick to refute their off-color statements. However, if we talk shit about ourselves,...

4 Ways to Help Grieving People

As Americans, we don’t feel comfortable around other people’s grief. We don’t know how to act. We don’t have a healthy understanding of grief. Death is a legitimate part of life. We ignore it. We pretend it’s not there. We’ve abstracted it away, and we really don’t...

Not My Kid

As parents, we worry what the unwritten future holds for our kids. Will they find their soulmate, hold down a mortgage and shuttle a minivan full of kids to soccer practice? Will they be successful and content in their careers? If only we could peek into the chapters...

Skinny People Have Feelings Too.

Please stop saying these things to us!!!! I’ve always been on the thin side. My dad called me “skinny” all my life but I wonder if that’s just because he forgot my name. I’ve never really had to stress too much about my weight, until recently. I’ve dropped a...

All I learned about grief on the side of the mountain

“Beep” “Beep” “Beep”  It is my alarm. I slowly open my eyes, adjusting to the hallway light that is already on. I roll myself off of my grandparents brown suede couch. It is 4:30 AM and I know that if I don’t get up and get dressed now I will be left home. And the...

Stop trying to “fix” ADHD people

We don’t need our ADHD fixed, but a little understanding wouldn’t hurt I can tell pretty fast whether someone “gets” ADHD or not, or even whether they have the condition. Most of the articles about helping people with ADHD talk about how to get organized and offer...

Don’t Ditch that feeling.

We feel different emotions at different times. Some are joyful, some are painful. Some of these feelings are so good that they create long-term memories in our head. Some of these emotions we feel come often while some don’t. What memories makes you come alive? Have...

How Being Positive Can Change Your Life

Because You Don’t Have to be Negative Do you think you can change? Like really change who you are. I do. I think it is very possible to change. There is this lie in the world today, which tells us this: I am the way I am and I can’t change it. What a sad reality? No...

Are You Sabotaging Your Self-Esteem?

According to Wikipedia self-esteem reflects an individual’s overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is the decision made by an individual as an attitude towards the self. In laymen’s terms it is how you feel about yourself. Are you...

The Girl Who Hated Being Different

I look at the clock. It’s almost midnight and I have to go again. I’ve visited the bathroom seven times in the last two hours. The need to pee is urgent and unrelenting. Every time I come out of my bedroom, I pass by my father who has a worried look on his face. He’s...

Childhood Is Not Like Vegas

2 years ago on a very quiet day in my neighborhood, a police chase ended right in front of my doorstep. The blazing sirens and jarring sounds brought me running to my window. The suspect had flown a silver, grey Prius through traffic lights, rammed into two cars and...

How To Bully-Proof Your Child

“Anyone who does anything to help a child in his life is a hero to me” — Mr Rogers “By the time a child reaches out to an adult, the vast majority of kids have been dealing with the bullying and trying to ignore it for a long time” — Rosalind Wiseman Most children...

Kindness is All Around Us

Since getting a dog two years ago I’ve upped one of my favorite things to do, which is to go for a walk. A walk is considerably different from running, something I also like to do, because of the relaxed pace. When I run I’m focused on getting exercise, paying...

Hey! Your Body Type is the Best

Just Take a Look Through History and You’ll See When it comes to our bodies we women are definitely our worst critics. Nothing is ever right, breasts are too small, waist is too big, legs aren’t lean enough, and our back-ends are just all wrong. Satisfied isn’t in our...

What Did You Do Today That Made You Unbelievably Happy?

What was one thing that you did today that you actually truly enjoyed? I am asking you this question because it always blows my mind how most of us spend so much of our time doing things for other people and not enough for ourselves. We try to meet the expectations of...

Your Life May be Hard Right Now but it Won’t Always Be

Depression is like a tunnel, not a cave. I had to pause from listening intently to whatever my therapist said after these words to make sure I caught that right. I then mentally noted it so I could remind myself later. Depression is like a tunnel, not a cave. This was...

Empathy is Exhausting

But that doesn’t mean we should stop fighting the good fight. “Tired” is an understatement. “Exhausted” is the only word that makes any sense to describe my feelings toward the overall state of things. My life’s irony is that my career and passions are founded in the...

My Short-Term Memory Is Failing

My family thought it was funny at first, and I could hardly blame them. I’d walk into a room and forget what I wanted. I’d go to the store and come back having forgotten at least one thing we needed. Sometimes it would take me three or four trips to remember a single...

Living a Disciplined Lifestyle

I often get asked why I run ultramarathons, and the best reply I have ever come up with is that it’s not because of the race; it’s because of the discipline it takes to get to the race. I’m not a natural born runner. I don’t roll out of bed and look in the mirror and...

Why Self-Help Advice Isn’t Working For You

“A self that goes on changing is a self that goes on living” — Virginia Woolf What is self-help? Let’s define it as anything you’re doing for yourself with the intention of bringing you closer to becoming the person you want to be. This can be related to your body...

You Need To Find Yourself? Why? Are You Lost?

Or Did You Just Lose Interest? “It’s not you, babe, it’s me. I need some time. I need to figure out where this is really going. Sort some things out. Clear my head — you know, get some clarity on this. On us… I just, I don’t know — I need some time to find myself…” If...

I’m Healed, Not Cured

“I’m praying for healing for you.” I can’t even count the number of times I’ve been offered prayers when I’ve been in a medical struggle. I love it. I love knowing that people care enough about me to lift me up in prayer and keep me in their thoughts. Knowing that I...

Growing Tired of Dealing With Depression in Silence

You are not responsible for your fatigue, memory struggles, or lack of concentration. You are not a bad employee or a bad person. This is not your fault. These are the words I tell myself as I struggle to find any ounce of hope this Monday morning. An exhausting...

Feel like a failure? Read this.

Earlier this week I was riding home from the gym after a particularly heavy leg session. It’s a short 1.7-mile ride, but unfortunately, it’s uphill the entire way. It’s just a hill, but considering how heavy my legs were feeling after pushing my squats to the brink of...

Ghosts In My Nursery

They say a spirit with unfinished business lingers on till it’s mission is complete. Regret and remorse hold it back from making that final crossing over to the other side. But, something sadder than the remorseful dead is the living not being able to live. Invisible...

Exercises for Introverts

You have a hard time talking to new people.  Starting a conversation can be painfully difficult at times.  Small talk with new people feels like walking through knee-deep muddy ground. You’d rather do laundry and polish your floor on your knees than be in a crowd. You...

Water, The Life Giver

The hotter it gets during the summer, the more difficult long-distance runs become. It doesn’t matter how early you start running, at some point in the run it is going to get blistering hot. Relief from the heat comes many ways, but my all-time favorite involves...

Laughter Really Is The Best Medicine

The Latest Research Reveals Some Amazing Facts “Life is too important to be taken seriously” — Oscar Wilde (actually a misquote, but it sounds better than the original) People often comment on my sunny disposition despite the many tragedies in my life. My stock answer...

Tantrums, And Fits, And Conundrums, Oh My!!

It seems that whatever kind of relationship /friendship you have, all kinds have the capacity to either to drive either/both/all parties to the brink of insanity ( kinda? maybe? sorta?) Or in spite of the insanity, it can bring you closer together. More often than...

7 Lessons a 106-year old cyclist can teach writers

On February 11, 2018, 106-year-old Robert Marchand, cycled his official four-kilometre “farewell ride” in the Saint Quentin velodrome in Paris. Remarkable, isn’t it? What made it even more memorable was that he declined to sit down after the ride and preferred to...

Why Meal Plans Don’t Work…

... and how eating out is a cop out “Where do you guys want to eat tonight?” said the mom . . . and then she took orders from her kids and her husband, she made a few phone calls and planned her pick up route. I couldn’t help but ask “do you eat takeout every night?”...

The Dichotomy of Wealth

Are The Best Things in Life Free? Philosophies of wealth differ from one culture to another and span the spectrum from rejection to avarice. Materialism is the great straw man, a bugaboo or existential goal, depending on one’s viewpoint. It is also the subject of one...

Living, Learning and Loving With Autism

I was thrilled the other day when my grandson, who loves to swim, said “pool.” Since then he’s added four more words to his vocabulary; Mom, Dad, shower, and pizza.  But I’m not writing to brag about a toddler’s burgeoning vocabulary. My grandson isn’t a toddler. He’s...

I fear losing my mind over anything else

The scariest thing to me is that I’ll lose my mind. I’ll someday forget about everything I’ve done, the people I’ve met, and the places I’ve been. It’s something I fear over anything else. I remember visiting a large nursing home where I was attending a small seminar...

What Makes a Person So Happy His Heart Sings?

What makes a person happy? 350 million people live with depression according to the World Health Organization. Sixteen million adults in the United States have an episode with depression each year. That’s 6.9% of the population living in an unhappy state of being....

Welcome To The Smoke-Free, Healthy Life

Are you having a hard time to quit smoking cigarettes? Trust me I have been there and know how miserable it feels. I have been a frequent smoker for 9 years of my life. But fortunately enough, I was able to quit. These are the 6 steps that I followed to quit smoking...

Politics held me back from being myself

If you want to succeed in politics, you have to say and act in a way that offends the least amount of people. That’s how you get the votes! You have to be disingenuous. Forget the big anomaly occupying the White House, almost every politician acts as if they never...

How to make your father a hero in your story

Edit the narrative. Change your life. This is what no one ever told me growing up both loving and hating my alcoholic father. The story you believe about the man you came from shapes the person you see in the mirror. That story has a hidden power. It can drive your...

I still believe in marriage after my failed marriage

‘One way to learn to do something right is to do something wrong. Failure must teach us, or surely success will not reward us.’· Jim Rohn I saw this quote and immediately felt hopeful. My first marriage ended. I was married for nine years. I probably should not have...

Why Are We Afraid?

What Is Fear? Remember, however, before all else, to strip things of all that disturbs and confuses, and to see what each is at the bottom; you will then comprehend that they contain nothing fearful except the actual fear. — Seneca, Roman Stoic Philosopher The only...

Living Life to the FULL

The decision had really been made for me by the constant ear infections but it was still something I needed to decide to do. I had to have another surgery to clean out my inner ear and close the hole in my eardrum. Hopefully this would take care of the constant...

The Most Powerful Way to Save People… From Themselves

It’s been said, You cannot save people, you can only love them. Obviously, this quote is not referring to firemen, life guards, and rescue personnel who regularly save people from imminent death. But there are some things that are extremely difficult to save people...

The Most Important Values Of Any Healthy Relationship

The way you go about your dating life determines the kind of relationships that you end up with Whether you’re married or dating and looking to improve your relationship, or looking for the tools needed to create the intimacy you want in your life, we’re about to...

How I deal with depression

Depression is a feeling of hopelessness. That’s how I see it. I’ve felt hopeless most of my life. This is especially true after I had my Masters’ degree. Halfway through I realized I would never use this degree. I didn’t expect or was looking for a job. My family had...

Why I Adopted a New Definition of Self Care

What to do when your Most Important Job feels Unfulfilling We know parenting is the most important job. We’re shaping young hearts and minds. That matters. And yet, it so rarely feels important. Meaningful. Fulfilling. The field of neurology sheds some light on why...

Be Prepared-The Life You Save May Be Your Own

Over the last couple of days, writing has taken a back seat because Hurricane Florence is breathing fire out in the Atlantic and making a beeline for the North Carolina coast. While none of the forecasters can tell us whether the storm will make landfall at...

Funny Things Europeans Say About Food

“They put fruit next to the cash register because they want people to eat it” Last night I was breaking out my wallet to pay for groceries at my neighbourhood supermarket when the clerk said something that made me question my Spanish — “You know if you spend 35 euros...

How to Break Free From Shame

Three Paths to Growth Dr. Brene Brown, a famous professor and social scientist sheds light on what most people avoid. Not only has her studies of courage, vulnerability, and shame gained global attention, she’s a woman after my own heart. I’ve experienced the truths...

The Shrinking Circle And Salad Friends

What exactly is a friend? I’m sure if I asked you that question, you’d immediately be able to throw out some attributes for what a friend is. Possibly you’d put together a composite image of what you’d want a friend to be. However making friends is never an analytical...

Why is Dental Care in the US So Very Expensive?

When we lived in Malaysia our home was right across the street from a dental clinic, which was one of many on the island of Penang. This clinic was as modern or probably more modern than most I have seen in the US. The equipment was state of the art and the dentists...

Running the Race

During my first 100-mile race around mile 41, my body started rejecting everything I put in it. Take a sip of water, bend over and let it out. Try a little bit of a nutrition gel, same result. As I pulled into the 50 mile turn around my wife was waiting and I told her...

On Your “Health Concerns” For Internet Strangers

On Your “Health Concerns” For Internet Strangers You aren’t actually concerned about the health of strangers. You just don’t like seeing fat bodies — and it’s not your fault. Diet Culture (n): A system of knowledge, values, and meanings that supports interpretations...

No one really tells you how to feel

There is no rule book, is there? “We think that it is cancer”, the nurse said, hesitantly and gently. The C word. There it was. That word that we all dread. Numb, I didn’t know how to react. I didn’t feel anything. All the film clichès came back to me; I felt like I...

More Beautiful For Having Been Broken

I was recently reading about Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing pottery. Other than being aesthetically pleasing and delicately minimal, what caught my eye about it is the underlying motivation behind it. Gold or silver lacquer is used in the repair process on...

Becoming Empathetic

How we can become better empaths in a thoughtless age — for the betterment of ourselves and everyone around us.  Empathy is three-dimensional, it can be extended through time and space. Through the power of human imagination, it is possible to connect, empathetically,...

God Help Me, I just had an epiphany

So….once again, I’m ashamed to say I had a bit of a mommy tantrum. Though, I will say, as mad as I was, I didn’t fully unleash my usual verbal wrath. I was able to reign in my emotions, though I wish I could navigate my frustrations more succinctly… I quite dislike...

I Just Dissolved My Funky Distracted Mood

thanks to the best question I’ve seen in a long time Some days I’m in the zone. The words flow, I cross things off my list, I stretch myself to do something I’ve been avoiding, and I meditate and exercise…Those days feel amazing. And once in a while I feel like...

One Large Cup of Sanity, Please.

How Tea Became Part of My Personal Mental Health Plan Ok, I know that sounds ridiculous, but let me explain… My life began spiraling downward, and in 2013 it plummeted. My mind was a mess, my emotions were all over the place, my husband and I were separated, and I...

Water is water right? Meh, not so fast …

Water can occur in three phases: liquid, solid, or gas. But what if I told you there was a 4th phase to water that’s rarely talked about. In terms of benefits to you and your health, this 4th water is capable of tackling a wide range of health problems with astounding...

How I Crochet My Way Out of Sadness

When the last thing you’d imagine becomes your best ally against depression Four years ago I suffered the most significant loss of my life. A high-risk surgery took away my partner. I lost everything. That fateful day, when I faced my reality, I almost lost control....

Rainy Days and Mondays Always Get Me Down…

Remember the Carpenters? Today’s is a perfect day for their music. Her voice resonates deeply within me. Especially “Solitaire” When I was 18 and I went through a particularly rough time, her music soothed my soul. Along with Don McClean and some bluesy types of...

I saw your smile

I witnessed an un-seemingly beautiful moment yesterday, rerouted on a 6 mile diversion due to road closure. We came around a blind corner ( I was driving), and blocking the other side of the road was a huge lorry craning a static home into someone’s back-garden. The...

Some Relationships Need To End

Reflecting on my previous relationships. I have thought a lot about why many of my intimate relationships during my younger years ended as quickly as they did. I have also reflected on why a lot of my old friends and I have drifted apart as well. What were the...

Confounded, Conflicted, Confused…

Whatever am I to do? The past few years have been fraught with many an emotion, that I’d be hard pressed to tell you whether I’m coming or going these days. Most days, I wake up from a restless sleep. Sometimes I have nightmares that really get the day off to a great...

How I Beat The Mental Health System-And Lost

Get me the hell out of here! “Take this,” a nurse instructed as she thrust a small cup of liquid towards me. “If you don’t, we’ll have to use the tube. Drink it all!” I drank it all. It tasted like a chalkboard, but the thought of any sort of tube near my mouth...

It All Starts With Respecting Yourself

When I was younger I used to wonder why it was so hard for me to fit in. And that was the problem right there… I was trying to “fit in”. I was trying to walk alongside the other sheep. I should have been trying to blaze my own path instead and not trying to be what I...

Send Discouragement Packing

Feelings can get me in trouble. On those days when I wake up more tired than when I went to bed, I really don’t feel like starting the day. And my mood is in need of a serious boost. The fight begins when I glance at the alarm clock. I’m convinced a few more minutes...

Your Days Are Numbered

“Your days are numbered. Will you pass them half awake and halfhearted or will you live with a sense of urgency?” ― Robert Greene, The 33 Strategies of War One day you are 18 years old, with a hard body, full head of hair, sitting by the pool, kickin it with friends,...

Meet My Frenemies | Perpetual anxiety and Melancholy.

I’ll be the first to admit I have a warped sense of humor. Either you get it, or you don’t. Either you like me…or you don’t. I’m one of those complex types, or so I’ve heard. It’s this humor that has carried me through many a dark period throughout my oft angst-filled...

Don’t Get Sad Before You Have To

A Mantra To Keep The Anxiety Monster At Bay Yup, another grey sky low humidity day here, and so the Anxiety Monster is just bubbling beneath the surface, and I’m daring it to rear its ugly head. Anxious In The Summertime? You’re Not Alone. Science Says So.medium.com...

Bipolar Confessions from a wife, mother, and friend

I struggle with type 2 bipolar disorder. Bipolar has transformed my life into a monumental challenge, and I feel guilty when it affects my family and friends. Fatigue Smiling, interacting, being part of the family unit or social circle… all can be exhausting. Between...

How to Exchange Insecurity for Creativity

I admire people who have been writers all their lives! I have written privately in my prayer journals over the years. And, I’ve not entrusted my writing to the public until the last few years. But we all need to learn how to exchange insecurity for creativity....

The Oxy’s and Negative Press

I’m tired of the Oxy’s getting negative press. You know, the medication that gets abused by people that don’t need to be taking it. Some of us wouldn’t get through the day without them. Some of us go to responsible doctors who monitor our medications closely and who...

Why are you so happy?

I can vividly remember the first time I was asked this question. As I was trekking to Everest Base camp in Nepal at the time. Basking by the glow of a blazing fire in a cozy tea house while a blizzard raged outside. Surrounded by great company which consisted of...

No Time for Critics

Temperature down around 10, blowing winds, snow on the ground … not precisely when most people think to go out for a run. But there I was all bundled up against the elements out there doing my thing, getting some time away from the noise and the constant calls and...

Anxious in the Summertime?

You’re Not Alone. Science Says So. It’s pouring rain right now. Normally I love a good rainy day because it feels cozy and inspires tea and books and binge-watching innocuous TV. But in the summertime, rain is often accompanied by long stretches of humidity and a low,...

The League of Young ‘Old Men’

Some summers ago, my parents and I were visiting my brother who lives in a semi-rural part of UK (I call it semi-rural because of his internet speed, which is a paltry 20mbps as his internet line is not yet fully fibre optic). His home is actually one of those...

Meditation

Meditation. Yoga. Zen. Centering. It’s in magazines and fitness classes and elementary school phys. ed. We know we need slow down. But. When the same magazine suggests we need to redecorate, dress better, shop more, and be a super parent, we feel less contemplative by...

Are You After Numbers or Results?

Are you doing what you do for numbers or for results? Being an endurance runner sometimes it is easy to confuse pace with results. For instance, last year when I attempted my first 100-mile race I had my watch set where the predominant number was pace. In so doing I...

Your Life Is Teaching You To Be Content If You Let It

I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  — Apostle Paul My wife and I had a plan when we were first...

This is What Made Me Like Exercising

A true story from a girl who used to hate working out After many many conversations and persuasions from my friend to get me to join a gym and get fit, I decided to prove him wrong. I’m someone who loathed exercising and seeing so many complications using gym...

The Rise and Fall of Chair Yoga

Chair yoga is a form of yoga that is long overdue in a world where most people spend countless hours of their life stuck in chairs in their offices, in front of TVs/laptops, or even while commuting to work or travelling long distance. I must accept the blame for...

You Can’t Heal a Broken Heart With Broccoli

Chocolate. ‘nuff said. I could probably just end this whole article right there with that word. Really. Chocolate heals broken hearts. Chocolate does lots of amazing things for us. I want to kiss the person who invented it. For real. I used to eat it every single damn...

Stop ‘Should’ing on Me

— and I’ll stop ‘Should’ing on You “Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.” — Yehuda Berg The world is full of people giving advice. Some solicited and some not. Sometimes the advice is...

Killing Me Softly

Living with the effects of Fibromyalgia. I have recently been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I had read about it online, wondering what exactly the symptoms are. My mother was diagnosed a couple years ago as well. When an acquaintance saw that I was always rubbing my...

If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say

“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say nothin’ at all.” That’s a quote by Thumper in the movie, Bambi. However, we have all at one time or another heard some variation of this quote many times in our lifetimes. One of the first times I remember hearing it...

Art, Yoga, and how I became a “Yoguy”

As I write this, I’m holding a copy of the new book I just released (ok, so it’s next to me because I can’t type while holding it…). The book is called “The Art of Yoga” and is the second book I’ve self-published this year! It features my yoga art portraits alongside...

So Sick of Being Sick

Here comes another Mom rant… Today, I told my husband over the phone that I wished I could curl up in a hole and die. I am on day 4 of this sucker. It might be the flu. I’m sure as hell not wasting a doctor’s trip, dragging 4 kids and myself out of our quarantine. Why...

How Can We Help Beyond Our Capacity

Helping Others in Their Darkest Moments Photo by Noah Buscher on Unsplash How can I help you? We might ask that question and receive any number of responses. Most times the answer is either “No thanks, I’m good” or “Yes please, how much time do you have? Even when the...

The Agoraphobic Survival Guide

How to Excel in a Life of Solitude I’m not a full time or an expert agoraphobic. It mainly depends on my mood for the day. During my most heightened stretches of anxiety and depression, I may not leave the house for a couple of weeks. When I say house, I mean my...

Sunsets Are Just Sunrises Waiting to Happen

“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” 2 Timothy 4:7 NIV I was running on some country road in the middle of nowhere Wyoming and the sun began to set. As I was held spellbound by the incredible, dazzling colors of the sunset...

Say hello to the toxic fungi already living inside you

Fungi are persistent and adaptable; effective in all that they do. They can even mimic parts of your body and send out confusing signals to evade detection. Fungi is the plural of fungus and they take on many forms. Whether you realize it or not, dangerous fungi are...

Dealing With Bad News When You Have Anxiety

How You Can Help Yourself, And How You Can Help Others You know how life is just going along with good things and annoying things but overall things are fine but still, you wish you could have some time where nothing bad happens and you kind of whine and complain...

Why I’m Allergic to my Husband

My husband is toxic to me! Well maybe not him per se, but his habit of regular beer drinking is!  The distinction really doesn’t matter because in the end I have to keep my distance if I want to survive. That sounds like exaggeration…it’s not. Here’s why. I have...

Aloe Vera, the Superfood with a Multitude of Super Uses

Can we be done calling everything a superfood? I’m sick of hearing about superfoods. Aren’t you? It’s a buzzword that overplayed, constantly. Introducing, the new superfood … Blah, blah, blah de blah de blah. Puke. 😝 Okay, but it’s Summer and I’ve been spending some...

Out With the Old, In With the …

I remember looking at the scale in January 2010 and thinking, “that number can’t be correct. Is there a brick on the back of the scale?” However, I discovered maybe that number was true. As I tried to squeeze into my size 38 pants, the button promptly let loose and...

How are You Feeling During That Time of the Month?

On some days, life is beautiful.  On others, not so much. I’m fine, really. I’m just PMS-ing like crazy. Or PMDD-ing — but who can say for sure? Getting the right diagnosis is often impossible. For the rest of the world, I’m just moody. For me, it’s a living nightmare...

How Couples Counseling Can Make You More Discouraged

Things you need to know for your well-being Many of us well-trained professional counselors specialize in relationship therapy. But the general public may not know how couples therapy can make you more discouraged. I’ve learned several things from my marital...

How To Cope With Spiraling Anxiety and Stress

Recently, I’ve gone through many changes — new place, new job, new social circles, and approaching mid-twenties — which means many adjustments to my lifestyle and many shake-ups to my identity. The first month on the new job was tough. I was excited but at the same...

How to get off the sugar train

Earlier this week I attempting to move at speed through my local supermarket. My flow was soon interrupted by a six-foot wall of soda stacked on pallets. One sugar spike side-stepped, and I’m immediately presented with another. Brightly colored cakes, cookies, and...

Frugal Family Fun: Your Summer Guide

I can remember sitting on the back porch with my brothers. A static radio playing, while we listened to our parents tell stories of how they met. I also recall the impromptu volleyball games we played in our yard, using a makeshift “net” and my dad playing along like...

This is how you know you’ve healed

Sometimes, things happen in life which hit us hard in the core of our heart.  We feel so broken. We feel like we’re never gonna get over it. We think to ourselves — will we ever get over it, truly and completely? More importantly, how will we know that we’re over it? ...

How to hit the reset button on your health

Your body is smart. Ever notice the first thing it does when we become ill? The body shuts itself down, forcing us to rest. Next, we lose our appetite. Why? Digesting food is a labor-intensive process taking valuable energy away from a body thats trying to heal. Think...

Positive Energy & The law of conservation of Energy

Energy can neither be created nor destroyed — that is the Law of Conservation of ENERGY! We have been hearing since ages that everything in the universe exudes and consumes energy. Phrases like ‘Positive/negative environment’ or ‘he is a person with positive/negative...

Lessons From a Night Run

The sun sets and presents me with spectacular sky colors that no camera created could ever capture. In the clouds to my west I can occasionally see flashes of heat lightning. The fields all around me are gently waving their green stalks as the wind gently blows. Every...

The Cardboard Box Diet, WTF?

In case you missed it, food has changed more in the last 30 years than it has in the last 3000. Cows no longer eat grass; vegetables are grown in water by means of hydroponics; chickens are no longer free to roam to eat bugs; fruits are being restructured by genetic...

Understanding your pH is a game changer!

While we are all uniquely different, we all share one thing in common — our blood needs to be slightly alkaline to stay healthy. But what does that mean and how do we do it? For anyone looking to enjoy better health, the following information is critical to know. The...

Do you feel loved?

How taking two minutes increases your love quota As we live our lives . . . we slowly get caught up in doing. We forget about just being the person our creator had in mind. When we understand that we are given all that we need, we were made for a purpose AND it will...

What Are Generous Spirits?

Recognized Or Hidden Generous spirits embody a generosity helping and allowing others to do what they desire in the pursuit of their dreams and goals, or sometimes just to help them survive with dignity. Gifts given with conditions attached are not generosity but...

What Areas of Life Do I Need to Live Intentionally?

Are you living intentionally by knowing your purpose, creating direction, and taking action? Or are you not living intentionally at all. I believe everyone can live intentionally. But it isn’t enough to have purpose, direction and take action in our life as a whole....

3 Ways to Help Someone with Depression

This could quite possibly be the most important post I’ve ever written. It could save a life. It’s based on Sarah Robinson’s excellent post here (not an affiliate link). Sarah is a personal friend in our writer’s mentoring group and a very strong believer. Please read...

If You Want To Be Happy Tomorrow Start Today

Some people spend their whole lives trying to be happy but they never achieve true happiness. While others try to find happiness by creating wealth, but never find it because money can never buy true happiness. Happiness is emotional and not physical. Happiness is...

The Demon of Depression

Sometimes…I wish I was in a full body cast, with every bone in my body broken. That’s how I feel anyway. Then, maybe, people would stop minimizing my illness because they can actually see what’s wrong with me. They seem to need physical evidence. Sally Brampton, Shoot...

Make the Finish Line Just a Line in the Dirt

In case you haven’t noticed already I’m not built, mentally or physically, quite like anybody else. So this next admission shouldn’t really surprise anybody too much. I like training for a race much more than I actually like racing. The reason is that finishing a race...

28 Ways to Slay Summer Boredom

Summer is upon us. Schools are out and the weather’s heating up. Busyness or boredom will soon strike many households, creating a different mindset for parents. Summer is a perfect time to discover new things and create memories. Here are a few ideas to help slay...

Live Like You’re an Aid Station

I decided the other day when I was out running and planning for my next big race, the 52 mile Bighorn Wild and Scenic Trail Run, that aid stations shouldn’t just be for runners. We need aid stations throughout our lives and need to learn how to maneuver aid stations...

Salad 101

  The easiest way to eat your greens! Creating a vegan style salad is super easy! Here are my go-to ingredients to a new and exciting salad each night. (Please feel free to add your rave fave salads in the comments! If you are a food blogger please, please, please add...

Just Say No

The content of this piece is to share such a common challenge that many in the professional lifestyle face quite often. Ask yourself how many corporate style meetings you attend on a regular basis. The motivation behind this article is to share the reality of our...

How to Safely Use Your Family Doctor

I have nothing against doctors. Most of them are good people who have dedicated their lives to helping us, and quite a few are good friends. But doctors do have two issues. The first is science is still evolving, and the second is the medical field has evolved into a...

Running in the Mist

The higher up in the misty clouds we ran, the more my glasses kept getting covered with water making sighting out obstacles in front of me on the single track path much more difficult to see. I tried complaining about the mist and the subsequent mud it created but...

Friends and Chronic Illness

“A true friend is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else believes the smile on your face.” ~Unknown   My community group friends through our church have made a commitment to support me through my battle with Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy/Complex...

You got What it Takes IF you can Read This ​

Be still for a moment and read the title once again… How long did it take you to read? Two, three seconds, perhaps? If you can read that and derive something from it, then you’ve accomplished a great feat. You’ve managed to tap into the stillness that lies within you....

Wing It or Plan It…Choose Wisely

One day after about two months of running semi-regularly and having completed a 5K race I decided to run a marathon. I told a couple of friends and they all pretty much said something in the line of “what training plan are you following?” Training plan? I’m going to...

I Could Be Happy if You Would Cooperate

Do you sometimes feel like you could be happy if everybody else would just cooperate? I could be happy if only my husband would…. I could be happy if only the children were… I could be happy if only my friends didn’t… I could be happy if only my co-workers would stop…...

Well Monday + Awareness = Mindfulness

the 1st precept I did it! I created a youtube video about the 1st precept in a mindfulness practice. I’ve been filming Facebook Lives and have created over 100 videos about mindfulness as a practice, in food/eating, in educating our kids . . . but I always stopped at...

I Am Not a Stigma

Sticking to a Lifestyle Regime has Empowered Me to be the Best Version of Myself There have been countless days when I have invested the entire day focused on how I can help myself feel emotionally and physically better. At times, experiencing depression sucks the...

Our Brains are not Accurate

OUR BRAINS ARE DESIGNED TO BE EFFICIENT, NOT ACCURATE Our beliefs and expectations play the biggest parts in what our eyes see. With all the information we are exposed to daily, our efficient brain screens for us those bits of information we need for the moment. Think...

A Meditation on the Life of One Brother Lawrence

‘The time of business,’ said he, ‘does not with me differ from the time of prayer; and in the noise and clutter…. , while several persons are at the same time calling for different things, I possess GOD in as great tranquility as if I were upon my knees.’ As with...

Never Ask Yourself What If…

As I pushed my body up the steep ascent, every muscle screaming with the strain, I realized that this is why I run. This is the reason that I push my body to perform in ways that my mind doesn’t think is possible. Something happens in your mind when you make the...

Listening to my Gut Got me a Three-Legged Dog

That small voice inside us. It’s usually drowned out and so easy to ignore. Each time I have listened to it, it has always turned into something pretty remarkable (like a husband, but I’ll write about that another day). This time that small voice led me to a...

Adversity is Like a Blizzard

Running in a blizzard is not the most pleasant way to spend your Saturday. When you’re ten weeks out from your first fifty-mile race of the year though there really isn’t an option. You have to get the miles, work on your nutrition and figure out how to make...

Top 10 Meditation Myths BUSTED!

We have all seen the research that proves practicing meditation is good for improving both our mental well-being and our physical health. People of all ages, from school children to seniors, can benefit from daily mindfulness. So why don’t more people meditate?...

Face Your Fears

It was one of those days you dream about as a trail runner. Big, blue skies and trails unwinding under your feet as you breathe the cool, fresh mountain air. My legs felt great and cardio was right on track as I was maintaining a steady clip up some of the trails. The...

Jealousy or Contentment

I have a confession to make. I’m jealous. Nearly eaten up by jealousy. I wasn’t always jealous. In fact, I have spent the majority of my adult life quite content with what God has handed me. However, somewhere in the last 15 years or so jealousy has crept into my...

Time Change Gratitude

One hour of sleep gone, 5 lives changed for the better. No matter how young or old you are, time change Sunday, in the United States, can be miserable. Everyone dutifully goes around the house on Saturday night putting the time one hour ahead. The clocks may say 10...

Permission To Do One Thing At a Time!

What would your day to day living look like if you gave yourself permission to do one thing at a time? Ahhh! Take a deep breathe and imagine going through your day, simply focused on one thing at a time. How does that image strike you? Impossible you say? How could I...

3 Ways to Nourish Your Life Now

What do you long for in your current life? How nourished are you? What would it look like, feel like, sound like if you were living a nourished life? The dictionary defines nourished in three ways: · supplied with what is necessary for life, health, and growth. ·...

Secret to my weight-loss success

I ate a cookie Yesterday, I ate a cookie. In fact, I ate the last homemade chocolate chip cookie in the gallon-sized plastic bag in the break room at work. I almost didn’t get that one, except that as a colleague loaded cookies into a napkin, I appeared at the table...

Journey to Peace with Aging

Part Five: The changing face of retirement and defining legacy I’m less than 6 years away from traditional retirement or about 8 years away from what is becoming a more common retirement age. I’ve been thinking about these upcoming years and asking myself questions....

Eat Your Veggies

Limerick Storytelling He would not eat his peas nor his corn, Nor his sprouts nor his kale…all ignored. Mother hoped and she prayed He would eat them one day, But till then just his plate they’d adorn. Once his eye caught a glimpse of a yam, Vibrant orange the boy...

How Do You Handle Life Interruptions?

You have your plans for the week. You know what you hope to accomplish. You even have in mind that little project at home. Then something or someone interrupts those plans. How do you handle those little life interruptions? My husband and I recently had the...

Parenting Your Teen Through Chaos & Crisis

A Book Review I’ve written about what parenting is sometimes like while I live with my cohort, bipolar. Between that…and having to always work full time…I have felt like motherhood, what I wanted more than nearly anything in this world, has been both gypped and...

Reboot your Health

What is a REBOOT? One might ask simply, what is a REBOOT?  That’s a great question since this article will be sitting on a health and wellness page amongst intrigued readers.  By definition, REBOOT is defined as:  to refresh something by making a new start or creating...

I Should Be Able to Handle This

It’s time to take off our super-hero capes It was a tough day. That morning, I was asked to step in and help a woman, Bertha, in crisis. I didn’t know all the details and frankly, I didn’t need to. Handling a crisis isn’t about solving the situation; it’s about...

How To Be Your Partner’s Hero

One necessary skill throughout seasons of your marriage It’s a challenge to be married, period. And I know it’s not easy for my husband to be married to a relationship therapist. Throughout seasons of my marital history and years of hearing inside stories of couples,...

The Secret to Repairing Relationships You’ve Damaged

We’ve all done it. We’ve damaged relationships we cared about. We know we’re at fault, although we don’t like to admit it. How can we repair that relationship? Some would say it’s like feathers shaken out of a pillow on a mountaintop — you can never put them back in —...

The Truth About Our Fear of Failing

We’re Doing Better Than We Think If the fear of failure consumes your thoughts, convincing you you’re pulling off the facade of the century and your empire will surely crumble at your feet at any given moment — right in front of everyone — don’t feel alone. What We...

How To Get Positive Results In Your Relationship

We all have different stories in our heads about how secure or satisfying our relationships are. It’s common for one person to be satisfied while the other isn’t. That’s why it’s important to know how to get positive results in your relationship. Some of us take pride...

Do You Need a 2nd Chance?

You've Got One. I believe in second chances. People screw up, mistakes are made. Whether through divine intervention or the kindness of another human being…sometimes, we get that second chance. If mistakes are made, I believe each day — or even each moment — one can...

The Breakup: Good-Bye, Sugar

I thought we were good together and then you do this to me. You seemed to be there every time I needed you. I thought you made my life better and that we were the perfect team. You listened when I cried and just your tangible presence comforted me in a way I thought...

Why Birds are Smarter than Humans

Another lesson from nature Birds understand abundance. It’s a snowy Sunday morning. I shovel before the world around me wakes up. Just me and Dexter the Dog, my faithful, energetic, always ready for a good time companion. The sidewalks and driveway are cleared and now...

In My ADD Life

Everyone has ADD moments, trouble focusing from a lack of sleep or too many martinis, but true ADD symptoms start in the early years and continue into adulthood. During elementary school, my thoughts spent more time on the beach building castles in the sand than in...

Becoming Your True Original

Man of Many Masks When I was growing up and even well into my twenties I remember always wishing I was somebody else, somebody with more athletic skill, somebody who was more intelligent, definitely somebody who wasn’t a geek who had to wear glasses and couldn’t hear...

Finding Your Rhythm

Plodding Along The first two years I began running I did pretty much all of my running by myself and it seemed as if I was just plodding along. My times weren’t getting any better and I was frustrated. I blamed it on my continuous weight loss as I was making the...

When You Wish Life Was A Dream Instead Of A Nightmare

How bad is it? Bad decisions have a lasting effect, even when they're not your bad decisions. She showed no emotion, “How bad is it?” My one-word answer hung in the air, “Bad.” It was dusk. The streetlights were coming on. Gray skies, heavy humidity, and heat defined...

Can I Reduce Stress and Live In the Now?

The alarm goes off and I roll out of bed. Already I am thinking about the day ahead. Did I get the copies I needed for the workshop made? Will everyone be there? Oh, did the name tags get made? I don’t want to forget to grab those books out of the bookroom. Did I...

Three Revealing Requirements to Save Your Relationship

Avoid divorce throughout the seasons of marriage After years of counseling couples and hearing multitudes of stories, I’ve come to believe three revealing requirements to save your relationship. These requirements not only save your relationship, they nurture it...

Why Life is Sacred and What that Even Means

Sacred. What does that word even mean? We hardly use it anymore today. It sounds like a vegetable. “Yeah, we just planted some sacred between the beets and the squash.” But it’s a very important word. Because life is sacred. When our hearts lose the truth of that last...

How to Love People Well in the Midst Tragedy

They stood at the foot of the bed, looking at their 19-year-old son. They clung to each other in utter disbelief unable to comprehend what they were seeing. Their only son was unidentifiable. The look of horror on their faces was unforgettable. John Mark was an EMT in...

Do you know Swiss Chard?

a raw informative video from the early years In the video, I show you how I prep Swiss Chard including several ways that I prepare it into meals. to die for, braised radishes, asparagus, Swiss Chard, fennel and hemp seeds What I love about this video is it is real. My...

Bullied Bob and Other Victims

…and programs that can save lives Bob Hurley was only 36 years old when he passed away. I don’t know how he passed away; I haven’t seen him since 1987. However, when I learned of his passing, I cried. We weren’t friends, yet we weren’t enemies. We were both doing our...

5 Ingredient Vegan Pancakes

No animals were harmed in the making of this breakfast My Only Pancake recipe The kitchen is like the bedroom, sometimes you want to try new things and sometimes you just want what you know will work. These Pancakes are like . . . you know . . . leave you feeling...

The Attack of the Red Army

Day 6 of the Touch with Good challenge One of the best parts of working as a designer is I get the privilege to be involved with amazing inspiring people and bring their ideas into vision. Such an example was my lovely friend Katya Georgieva and her project Touch with...

Journey to Peace with Aging

Part Four: Older is wiser. It’s true. With age comes wisdom. Who knew that would turn out to be true. I finally figured out if I’m awake, I’m learning. Even the least productive days leave me with new pieces of information. This week I learned mustard greens, a cold...

Normal is a Myth-Tell Your Story Today

Normal. It’s a word we use with great regularity. Often about people. And even more often, talking about ourselves, our circumstances or people we know in comparison to others. Do any of these phrases sound familiar? “Why couldn’t I have a ‘normal’ upbringing?” “Why...

Accepting the Aging Process

Accepting the aging process. “That was a Senior moment.” “I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired.” “I hardly rest when I sleep.”  "I just can’t do that anymore.” “Let’s go to the all you can eat today.” What a lead into how the traditional aging process occurs for...

Blue Sky Running

One of the amazing things about running in the Bighorn Mountains of northeast Wyoming is the blue sky runs. There are days when you’re out on a trail someplace and you get to the top of a bluff and look out and all around you are some of the most amazing blues that...

My 5 Tips for Success at the Gym in 2018

… and I want workout partners, if you’re available. It’s the time of year when our health club is overrun by New Year’s “resolutionists.” While we established “regulars” welcome them as new friends, we know much of our effort to encourage them in an early-morning...

A 10-Part Journey to Peace with Aging

Part Three: What is a relationship supposed to look like at 59? Get caught up on the journey with parts one and two here. Relationships. My relationship history has been, what…successful/not successful? Not unusual? A crooked path? Win some, lose some? I was married...

Depression Relief in 10 Steps

A Book Review There are numerous self-help books that are published each year, with consumers paying hundreds of millions of dollars looking for a fix. I’m sure most of these end up unfinished by their readers. We all want to improve ourselves and find ways to...

Why Your Negative Past Is Key to Your Awesome Future

Have you ever been paralyzed by your past? Have you ever wanted to do something that made your heart leap, but then dropped the idea because your past disqualified you? Maybe you were an addict or had an affair. Maybe it was an abortion or divorce. Fill in the blank...

Building Bridges

Winter running is the best! I love running in the winter. The air is crisp, the trails crunch as you run along. The things you can’t see when trees are full of leaves suddenly become visible. Such was the scene in front of me as I ran around the reclaimed land from an...

4 Ways Writing is Like Running

My Couch-to-Half-Marathon Story Three years ago it dawned on me that I was really out of shape. I was approaching my fortieth birthday and I had not participated in regular physical activity since my college volleyball days. I wasn’t fat, but I certainly wasn’t fit,...

Blessed by Breakfast

Beginning the day with love I wrote this article years and years ago . . . I feel like I’ve been writing about healthy food forever. Recently I have had several friends “go vegan” for two weeks — just two weeks. Their results have been remarkable. I’d also add that...

A Ten Part Journey to Peace with Aging

Part Two: Seven Stages from Athlete Girl to Athlete Woman My sole purpose in this series is to be transparent, writing with some humor and exposing some anxiety, about particular phenomenons of aging as I experience them. In part two, my experience is this: after a...

When Your Platform is Pain

“So long as you can sweeten another’s pain, life is not in vain.”~Helen Keller “You need to get used to the new you,” said the counselor I went to only once. His statement made me angry. When I left his office I felt more lost than before I went in. I was thankful to...

Plug Into Sacred Moments to Find Christmas Rest

You have a to do list that is never ending. The Christmas season is packed with a million wonderful things and yet it’s lost its luster for you. You begin to dread getting up in the morning. What is going on in your mind, heart and body? Christmas is coming and you...

2 Powerful Truths You Need to Know About Your Past

It happened again. John thought he did his best to avoid it, but there he was — laying there empty in his soul next to a woman he barely knew after the fillings of a one night stand. He stared at the ceiling and then looked at her. Gazed once again at the ceiling in...

How to Avoid Holiday Weight Gain

Do these things right now. Holiday weight gain. It’s a problem, especially if you’re American. Americans like to focus on self, but let’s not discount our global friends in Finland, France, Germany, and Japan who say they feel the same pain. In January, likely you’ll...

How to Get Rid of Shame

What if everyone finds out what we've done? Maybe it's time they did. Shame. We’ve all felt it at one time or another, haven’t we? We’ve all done things we certainly wouldn’t expect to see announced in the church bulletin. Could you imagine? “Prayer walk on 42nd...

Running Into a New Thing

Finding my quiet spot Running is where I find my quiet spot, that time to reflect and listen. I don’t wear headphones so I’m not listening to music. I’m just listening, listening to see how my feet are hitting the ground to know if I need to correct my form, listening...

Make D.O.U.B.T. Work for You

Every time I have run the Big Horn Wild and Scenic Trail Run there have been different conditions. Snow the first year, extreme heat the second year and mud from hell this third year. Every time I have run this race I have begun the race with a niggling doubt about...

How Choosing To Love Nourishes Your True Self

Love is one of those words that are much used and little understood. We say we love our families and chocolate in the same conversation, we talk about falling in and out of it like it’s a hole. We attach all sorts of adjectives to it like secret, true, forbidden, and...

A Ten Part Journey To Peace With Aging

Part One: Things that are Horrifying: Mirrors, Wrinkles, Mortality One of the freakishly horrifying things about aging is realizing the truth of mortality. Freakishly horrifying because most horrifying things are rare. Getting mugged. Being in a plane when it loses an...

This Is The Reason Why You Won’t Score That Second Date

Single Guys have a lot of problems. I know because I’m one of them. I’ve been running in the single guy lane for 34 years and can attest to the issues that plague us. But out of all of the issues we struggle with there is one that seems to always be obvious to those...

I’m an Ungrateful Snob

Who doesn't want to write about gratitude this year. Gratitude. I purposely chose not to write about it this year. Maybe it's because I'm an Ugly American. Maybe I'm just as entitled as kids these days. Or, maybe when I look around it's because so many are covering...

How to Support Someone You Love with Mental Illness

We need your help, even when we don’t act like it “When a man gets depressed, it’s not exactly like people stand in line to spend time with him. When you suffer a bout of major depression, the only good thing that happens is that you learn who your true friends...

7 Strategies to Overcome Stress in Your Life

Pressure So much to do and so little time! Pressure at work and pressure at home and pressure at school — can you stand the it? Stress is a daily part of life. It is normal! Stress keeps us productive and moves us forward! Without a manageable amount of stress we...

It’s Probably Just Me

Mental illness lies. It’s not just you. It’s Wednesday night and we are all seated around a rectangular table. Eye contact is non-existent. Some of the women look haggard, with circles under their eyes and barely-brushed hair. Others look like they just stepped out of...

Two Tales of Sexual Abuse

I have been on both sides of this sexual abuse issue. Two relatives and I were unjustly accused of molesting three girls when we were in our late teens. We were accused and confronted in front of some other relatives. I was sexually molested by a woman in a most...

The Silliest Reason I Ever Cried

What’s your silly crying scenario? My dreadful drive to work begins by 6:15am, yet the existence of the Kidd Kraddick Morning Show on Jack FM radio allows me to enjoy this commute on the Dallas North Tollway. Their family-friendly, hilarious morning show has been a...

The Origin of Black Friday and WTF Is #WhiteMonday

From lack and desperation to abundance and gratitude With the holiday season approaching and shopping fever rushing in, I was having thoughts about the glorious Black Friday and how it is actually affecting our mindset in a somewhat… Black way. What’s the issue with...

These 4 Words Create Better Relationships Overnight

Better relationships require some emotion. Men aren’t very good at being emotional. Even at the onslaught of this sentence, the look on your face as you read this article is likely very dull and straightforward. Is this a problem? Eh, maybe. It may not be a problem...

Sickness And Motherhood

“Why don’t you relax? I asked again and again You are sick. We will be alive still. Why do you keep working through the pain ??? “ There was a time not long ago, Maybe a decade but not more … I was not a mother but had one And constantly her persistence I abhorred....

How Mind and Body Work Together

Frenetic Stillness My buckshot days “It’s like getting hit with buckshot.” My kids have no idea what I’m talking about. Then I say “it’s like getting pecked to death by chickens!” That they understand. My life is so much busier than I ever imagined that it would be. I...

8 Ways to be Generous Without Using Money

Tis the Season Tis the season for giving thanks, expressing gratitude, and being generous. The requests start pouring in for charitable donations as many hearts open wide. But what can you do when the desire to give exceeds your monetary resources? Generosity doesn’t...

When Real People Make Real Food

Sometimes it‘s a real mess When real people make real food it doesn’t always turn out the way we envision it. You know, the best laid plans… If eating well and making quality meals from scratch is important to you, it’s about more than maintaining a healthy...

The Truth About Lies

photo credit: utah778 on iStock How Lying Can Cost Us More Than We Think How much does lying cost? More than you probably think. Have you ever served on a jury? I have and found the experience quite fascinating. My case? The big, bad mega-insurance company vs. the...

Giving Thanks… to People

Once again, I’m challenging myself for the Thanksgiving holiday. I’m taking some time to intentionally trace back how the good things in my life came about — the prized introductions, the unique opportunities, and the abundance of slack I’ve been granted… all by...

3 Ways My Anxiety Makes Me a Better Parent

And, one way that it doesn’t… I’ve struggled with anxiety and panic disorder for many years now. Early in my years as a mother, I was fairly carefree and healthy — both mentally and physically. I felt like I was on fire as a parent. When my anxiety ninja attacked, I...

The Day I Got Burned

And, what I learned about multi-tasking Morning multi-tasking. I stumbled into the kitchen while rubbing the sleep out of my eyes. I grabbed the tea kettle and filled it with water while demonstrating yawns so big they could have touched my toes. Clumsily I found the...

Renee’s Culinary Resume

A timeline of food, love and passionate learning I’ve been working in a “kitchen” for the last 48 years. At first it was a chore, then a labor of love and now the kitchen is my sanctuary. A sacred place to honor the Earth and my family and friends. 1969 — 1972: At age...

Fall is the season for BS (Butternut Squash)

I know you were thinking Butternut Squash. All year long I look forward to the first bowl of Butternut Squash Soup. I know, I’m kind of weird that way. I readily admit that I am fantastic at making soups especially with a hunk of crusty bread and good company. Keep...

Another Relatable Experience

Not again... “I’m tired of having relatable experiences,” I complained to Mike through a veil of tears. “You can throw any woman at me and I have a 95% chance of having gone through any experience that she has. I’ve been raped, I have bipolar disorder, sexually...

How to Relieve Stress and Anxiety

Stop everything you’re doing right now. Just stop, relax and think for a moment. Are you busy steamrolling ahead? Are you in a rush, racing against time to get things done? Do you feel anxious? Well….stop! It’s time to find out how to relieve stress and anxiety….once...

How to Find Your Quiet

We live loud, busy lives. Going all the time on the outside with noisy minds on the inside. How can we find any quiet spaces in our lives? How can we calm our inner world? It’s not easy but I found a way. And if I did, you can find your quiet too. Every day I have a...

How to Overcome the Failure Myth

What exactly is the Failure Myth? Let’s break it down… First we’ll tackle the confusing mixed messages regarding failure. Optimists look at failure as a teacher and friend. believing failure teaches us things like try again, be persistent, never give up — spinning it...

Breaking Free From Soul Toxicity

How releasing this one thing can make you stronger As I pulled the car door open the stench hit me like a sucker punch. A quick scan of the front seat and back yielded no sign of decaying fast-food or a zombie apocalypse. I sped off, head half-way out the window. Go...

To the Girl Who Needs Validation

I get you. I get you because just like you, I’ve struggled with the overwhelming need to be validated every day like some parking ticket. I get you because just like you, I’ve reminded myself more than once that obsessing over my hair, my weight, and the fact that my...

This Is What You Should Do When Someone Hurts You

I’m sitting with a few friends from my youth group at a church potluck. I take a bite of the hot chicken casserole. And then it happens. Rachel asks me, “So, where does all your weight go, down to your toes?” I stop chewing and drop my fork. Can I just eat without...

6 Things Every Mother Should Know About Turning 30

Turning 30. It’s supposed to be scary, right? The end of the ‘fun’ decade. The true end of childhood. The start of fine lines and grey hairs. The big three zero. But before you start stressing over this new age, Mama, there some things you should know. 1. You’re Not...

The World’s REAL Currency

Regardless of what the media want you to believe, the world only has one currency. Yes. One. Can you guess what it is? Probably not. Euro? No. Yuan? Nope. Dollar? Not that one either. It’s not Bitcoin, Ethereum, or any other crypto-currency. So, what is it? You use it...

Stop Strengthening the Stigma Surrounding Mental Illness

Mental Illness is No Joke. You’re such a psycho. She’s so bipolar. What a schizo! I often hear people use mental disorders as adjectives and for name-calling. I hear comments like this and my blood begins to boil. They are meant to be hurtful due to the stigma that...

Stuck In the Sludge of Depression

Mental Mud Over the past week or so, I’ve struggled with depression, more of a prolonged depressive state. Not the deep, suicidal depressive state, but one where I feel like I’m stuck in mud up to my waist and trying to move while I slowly sink. It’s cumbersome and...

People Feel Invisible: We Need to Open Our Eyes

“You look tired,” I said to the young woman scanning my groceries. I’m not one to just spit out the question, “How are you?” Maybe because I know people just say what they think you want to hear. “Oh, I AM tired,” she responded a little surprised. “I haven’t slept in...

What to Do When You’re Stuck in a Hole So Deep

Suicide is not the only way out I almost became a widow three times. I don’t say this lightly. I have had to work through layers of anger and resentment. But God has helped me do just that. How could my husband do this to me, knowing I have my own abandonment issues?...

Wall of Hope

Let’s climb that wall together. Before I Die Wall, Asheville, NC. My husband and I recently vacationed in Asheville, NC. We never had a honeymoon, so this was it…nineteen years later…and our first vacation together in fifteen years without our child. As the cliché...

Is Coconut Oil Good for You, or the Latest Health Fad?

When the American Heart Association issues a Presidential Advisory turning the tables on coconut oil, suggesting canola oil instead all kinds of people are scratching their head. USA Today leads with Coconut oil isn’t healthy. It’s never been healthy, citing a report...

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