Everyone is filled with flaws
All the lonely people
Where do they all come from?
All the lonely people
Where do they all belong?
— Lyricsto Eleanor Rigby by The Beatles
I have my bad days. You guys know the ones. Where you struggle to even get yourself out of bed.
You don’t know why you are sad or anxious, just that you are.
It’s how you feel.
Then you get to work and your mind is hazy, you feel borderline crippled by your sadness.
“Did something happen to me recently that’s making me feel this way?” I ask myself.
But often times, it isn’t that something tragic has happened to me as much as several things have been happening to me over a period of time.
Before I know it all of these things have been stacked up on top of each other and have started to wear me down.
I just haven’t realized it until this very second that’s all.
I need to express my feelings more, I need to talk to people more often about things that are bothering me instead of bottling it all up.
I’ve had issues in the past of people abusing my trust and hurting me. Then again, who hasn’t had some of those same experiences?
Enough with the excuses.
The Statistics On Mental Illness Are Alarming
I think our overall lack of ability to communicate and trust each other has sent us down a dark path as a society.
So many of us suffer from depression and anxiety, it’s alarming.
I simply have my bad days here and there but there are millions of people in America that are suffering from severe depression and anxiety.
Did you know…
- Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year.
- It’s not uncommon for someone with an anxiety disorder to also suffer from depression or vice versa. Nearly one-half of those diagnosed with depression are also diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.
- Anxiety disorders develop from a complex set of risk factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, personality, and life events.
- PTSD affects 7.7 million adults or 3.5% of the U.S. population.
Women are more likely to be affected than men.
Rape is the most likely trigger of PTSD: 65% of men and 45.9% of women who are raped will develop the disorder.
Childhood sexual abuse is a strong predictor of lifetime likelihood for developing PTSD.
The above facts and statistics were all found on this website and I hope you were as alarmed as I was when reading the stats for yourself.
So how can we cope and work through our problems?
How can we work together to improve our mental health and overall well-being?
The Importance Of Relationships
We can start by learning how to get along with one another and improve our relationships.
We should also be conscious of the fact that all the relationships we have throughout our lifetime will in some way, shape, or form impact us.Relationships Matter — Even The Bad Ones
It’s the people along the way that make life worth living.medium.com
One book I have read in the past that was an absolute game-changer for me in regards to building positive relationships was Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People.
The book talks extensively about simple, yet practical things you can do to have an easier time getting along with people. It doesn’t matter what the person’s background is, chances are that you can make a positive impression on them.
Something I started doing for the past couple of weeks is texting a friend of mine one thing I am grateful for in my life.
I text him this one positive thing in the morning while I am drinking my breakfast smoothie and getting ready to head to work.
He then will respond with one thing that he is grateful for in his own life.
I came up with this idea from a few Blog posts I had read recently that focused on gratitude. I have to admit, focusing on the good things in my life first thing in the morning has helped to improve my mood and usually carries over into my work day. I like the feeling of positivity that radiates through me while I work at my job, I enjoy thinking about the positive things in my life.
Also, I like learning about the things my friend is thankful for in his life as well. It’s been fun learning more about him and peering into the things that he appreciates.
This exercise in gratefulness also inspired me to write the below article. Check it out, I hope it helps remind you of all the beauty in your own life:25 Things I Am Grateful For In My Life
An exercise revolving around gratitude.medium.com
I don’t have all the answers to our mental health issues as a nation.
Perhaps we can start by focusing on these two things.
Relationships and Gratitude.
It has helped me improve my overall mental health. And I hope it helps you improve yours as well.
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