The word ENOUGH, in and of itself, is so powerful in our language.
It is as empowering as you wish it to be, in whatever context you apply it to.
What is “Enough Happy”? What is enough “success?”
Are we ever happy enough? Content enough? Do we ever really make enough money or gain enough success? At what point do we stop, look at our situations and sigh with gratification….”Ahhhhh, I have finally got enough.”
It is a word that has no end, in reality, but it is also the word that drives us to reach goals. “I have finally done enough, and I’m content.”
On the other side of the coin, Enough isn’t always permanent. In fact, if you think of all the times in life that we have had “enough”, it’s only a temporary fix. After a meal, you can’t eat anymore because you’ve had enough. The next day when you awake with your stomach complaining that it’s empty. Your car can be full of gas, but it’s only enough to make it a few hundred miles, before it complains that it doesn’t have enough anymore. You may have enough money for a down payment for a house, but once it’s gone, suddenly you don’t have anymore.
Enough- determiner & pronoun- “As much or as many as required”
As a positive, when we have enough, give enough, feel enough, do enough, grow enough, and succeed enough, it makes us feel pride, contentment and stability. It means we have reached a goal, even if it is temporary, but it helps us to feel accomplished, if only for a moment. It helps us feel like a solid, decent human being to have done enough for ourselves. It becomes a threshold, a standard or a boundary.
On a negative note, it could mean that you simply have had “enough” and are not willing to take anymore. When you are being treated unkindly, or feel threatened, sometimes enough is enough. Again, it is a threshold, but it’s one that evokes negativity and boundaries. If your boss makes you crazy at work, or your spouse has insulted you for the last time-it becomes “enough”. It forces you to react with new direction, new emotions and new understandings of your limitations.
Sometimes we just don’t have enough. Not enough time, not enough money, not enough forgiveness, or not enough love. The efforts we put forth to obtain enough of these seem to never be enough to have it reciprocated. When you feel you are not doing enough to get enough back, you feel like a failure. It becomes toxic to your soul. In this instance, sometimes you need to step back and see that it is not you that is the failure. Sometimes, we look to others to earn satisfaction. Knowing when you have been enough, to people, is imperative to have self esteem and confidence.
ENOUGH Determines your next thought process, whether it be a positive direction, a survival mechanism or simply a change in plans. It could be the icing on the cake, the minute when your cup overflows, or the last straw. When you have enough of something, it can drive you down a new road, or it can allow you to relax and just breathe in your contentment and satiation.
Whether it’s a determination of an end goal. an imaginary line you carry within you that creates boundaries, or a fine line drawn in the sand while the tide if still low, we all have our “enoughs”. It seems to be a universal human trait that we all inherit, from the minute we are conceived and are carried within our mother’s wombs. Even as tiny as a peanut, we can determine when we have had enough love to grow, enough nutrients to survive, or enough toxins to terminate our own lives. Although the choices we make in-vetro aren’t conscious, necessarily, our “beings” determine if we will survive with enough, or thrive. Enough isn’t always determined as a thought process, but by our bodies.
The key is to have a clear understanding and wisdom within us, to know when enough is enough, and to be content with our ensuing choices.
If you think of an addict, or an alcoholic, they live in a world where enough is not an easy choice. Their is a conflict between what their mind and body craves, vs. the ability to control how they make healthy decisions. Something in their “enough” mechanism seems to go haywire, and their brains tell them that they are not content unless they have MORE. The same goes for people who hoard, or have a multitude of cats, or other pets. It is also applicable for over eaters or people with eating disorders. The word “enough” isn’t part of their vocabulary.
Athletes strive to do better than enough. They work hard, train hard and force themselves to go beyond enough, and to be the BEST. When they reach the goal of number 1, though, is it really enough for them? Or do their bodies tell them when it has become depleted and maxed out, and decide for their brains, when they have had enough. Winning should be enough, competing should be enough, and taking on the challenge should be enough.In the end, it’s up to them to make decisions based on their standards, limits and focus. If you are of competitive nature, the determination of how much is enough can be blinded. Doing well enough at something can force them to keep going, or may make them decide that they are satisfied in their results. The word “enough” may not even be a part of their mission.
They somehow have dislodged the enough factor in their heads and they need more and more, just to find their “enough”. Once they determine that enough has been met for them, they can turn their lives around.
Enough is one of the healthiest words in the English dictionary, if we think about it. Having that ability to know our limits, strive for that goal and to know when we are at our breaking point and can’t take anymore-That is when we know that we can be content or move forward. When we have reached that level, it gives us reason to believe in ourselves.
Alternatively, when we can give enough, it gives us peace, pride and accomplishment in knowing that we have done all we could have and that we have made a difference, in our world, that never seems to have, or be enough.
It’s disheartening and frustrating, knowing that there are so many people and animals in the world who suffer from not having enough. They may need more food, water, clothing, love, shelter or what have you. Others in the world have too much. It would be such a peaceful universe if the ones who have too much could simply share with the ones who don’t. Imagine the balance and contentment our world could potentially have. If we created a benchmark for every human and animal, to have “just enough”-not too much, not too little, but enough, we would have no war, no conflict, no greed and no sadness. We would need no dictators or rulers, if we all just had enough of everything we require.
Whether you can look at yourself and know that you’re skinny enough, strong enough, fast enough, kind enough, loving enough, or simply “good enough” you should never let anyone take that away from you.
If you work toward the goal of being any of the above, the trick is KNOWING when you have reached that goal, and you have reached your level of ENOUGH.
I have a tattoo under my left breast. It is based on the lyrics of one of my favourite songs of all time. It is the song “Good Enough” by Sarah Machlachlan.
I had it inked on my body, simply to remind me every time I shower, every time I see myself naked, and every time I see myself in the mirror:
It simply reads “So Much More Than Good Enough”
It’s not about my partner, or my daughter, or my family, or anyone else. It is a note to myself, that even when I don’t feel like I have accomplished all of my “Enoughs”, I know I am good enough for me.