I am unique. You are unique. Each of us is a ‘one-of-a-kind’ kind of person. So what makes me unique? Why should you care?
Because it only takes a spark to get a fire going. I want to spur you on to greatness. I describe ten sparks describing my uniqueness. Each ‘spark’ will ignite a fire in your soul to celebrate your uniqueness.
“When I walk into [the studio], I am alone, but I am alone with my body, ambition, ideas, passions, needs, memories, goals, prejudices, distractions, fears. These ten items are at the heart of who I am. Whatever I am going to create will be a reflection of how these have shaped my life, and how I’ve learned to channel my experiences into them.”
— Twila Tharp, The Creative Habit
At the urging of Shaunta Grimes, I’ll do my best to keep this meme going inspired by Twila Tharp’s quote. I’m game.
You might be wondering what I am going to write. Twila’s quote got me thinking of the ‘sparks’ that keeps the fire burning in my soul?
Each of the ten parts describes us, [Me], as when we are alone, what are we thinking about ourselves?
Spark 1. Body
When I go on my daily walk, I am alone with this body of mine. It’s old but not worn out. No way, I’m seventy-six but feel like fifty-six, okay, sixty-six. My brain says, younger but my body does not agree. But I’m one happy man. Oh optimistic me.
Spark 2. Ambition
I am not ambitious! I am not a driven person. I’m the turtle, not the Hare. But, I do have a sense of purpose. ‘Steady’ is the course I should follow. After all, steady has put me where I am today. I enjoy a steady forty-eight-year marriage. Worked in three careers over a fifty-seven-year span. Kept a forty-year friendship with a man I respect. I know the path I have chosen, and I’m staying on it.
Spark 3. Ideas
This idea of me being a writer intrigues me. It piques my interest. Could it be, my experiences when written would influence people. That they take a second look at how their choices determine their reality? So my idea is to put words on paper, (screen), to shape others into a more fulfilled life. Nicole Ackers at Publisious is a big help to me, also Sarah at Be A Brilliant Writer. I have lots of ideas, but I need all the help I can get.
Spark 4. Passions
Do I have a passion and if so, for what? Yes, but not a hot burning zeal, now its more of a steady burn. My desires have changed over the years. Right now my fixation is on maintaining good heart health by walking each day.
Spark 5. Needs
I need security. My marriage is one of trust between my wife and I. This gives reasonable protection. While not rich by American standards we have a solid financial footing to live in retirement. My adult children care about me; that’s a good feeling. But I do have ‘wants.’ Most of them are frivolous and not necessary. My choice between my needs and wants stop at a thin line. I must be vigilant not to trip over this line.
Spark 6. Memories
I’m the youngest of seven children in my family. Born five years after my next older brother. As I grew older, it was no surprise to me that I was a surprise. My childhood was secure and loving. My mom doted on me. Dad, not so much. Mom died when I was twenty-four at fifty-six years old. She died too young. To this day my siblings and I have a monthly breakfast keeping the ties strong between us. Three older brothers have died. But we still meet with nephews and nieces and next of kin. I enjoy great memories.
Spark 7. Goals
I often set goals too high. Discouraging, since seldom do I reach the mark. In my retirement years, I have the intention to become a writer that gets read. If you read this far, THANK YOU! My goal is to be the best husband to my sweet wife. I often ask her, “What can I do to make your day better?” It’s a sincere question and reaps great benefits for us both. A good father to my adult children. Display a loving concern to my grandchildren. I have a goal to be a man others would choose to follow. A heady goal I know.
But there was something wrong with my little world.
Spark 8. Prejudices
When I was ten years old, my parents took me from our home in Pennsylvania to visit my oldest sister and her pastor husband in Alabama. We stopped for gas, and I was thirsty, so I went around the side of the building to drink from a water fountain. Walking away my dad motioned to the sign above the water fountain, it read. “Colored.” My first brush with prejudice. My dad did not have a prejudicial bone in his body. In our home, we never looked down on others due to their color of skin or their social status. I have friends in countries of Africa and the nations of; India, Sweden, Myanmar, and Fiji. I ate meals in their homes. I enjoyed these visits. I see them as friends, period.
Spark 9. Distractions
I’m distracted by reading the news of the day. Why do I do this? It robs me of my time to write. Always look at the local day’s obits. Checking to see who ‘checked out.’ I have three to four books I’m reading plus Medium posts.
Spark 10. Fears
At seventy-six I no longer fear death. Pain and suffering, yes, death no. I’m a Christian. God has prepared a place for me after my life is over. There, family and friends await my arrival. Most of all, I will see my Savior face to face.
So what is my point?
My point is introspection is good for a life well lived. Most people do not take the time to examine the what, the why and the how they are doing life.
“The unexamined life is not worth living.”- Socrates
I have taken the time to look at these ten parts of me. Wrote and published it to spur you to look at yourself when all alone. It is a good exercise.
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