Ever been there before? Have you ever gotten to that point where you thought all the efforts put towards achieving your goals were going to pay off and then suddenly your hopes are dashed with a loud thud?
I have been there. And I must tell you that it is not a very pleasant place to be.
I was out of work for a while, because I needed to take care of my newborn. And like you may well know, getting back to work with an employment gap on your resume sometimes can prove very difficult.
I applied for several jobs, and attended several interviews, and was turned down many times. But, I needed to work, in order to support my growing family. So, I continued applying for positions.
Being turned down by potential employers was not the problem because I sort of expected that to happen. But here is what became the problem.
After attending countless interviews, I finally interviewed with an organization that made me feel like I was the best thing that ever happened to them.
They told me that I was the best of all their candidates. They flattered me (so to speak) and raised my hopes. Even going as far as promising me ‘the job’, but needed to take care of some administrative decisions, before extending the offer.
They told me to give them some time, and that they would get back to me with the job offer.
I believed them and assumed that my job search was over. Finally, I had gotten the job that fit my schedule and would help me support my family (or so I presumed).
I felt thrilled, gave up my job search and looked forward to officially receiving the job offer.
One week went by, nothing. Two weeks went by, and the promises were still held, despite the fact that I continued to stay in touch with the hiring manager who seemed like the sweetest person ever. During our conversations, she continued to give me high hopes, and I took her by her words.
Little did I know that you never trust recruiters, until you actually get the job offer in your hands. But, I had been naïve, over-trusting and probably overwhelmed by the stress of looking for a job.
And so, I had nothing else to do, other than to believe her.
Then at the end of the third week on Friday afternoon, I got the hope-dashing email. They had decided to move forward with another candidate whose credentials were better suited for the role than mine.
And like a pack of cards, my hopes came crashing to the floor. I felt sad, and I felt very bad. And maybe I also became quite desperate, as I watched all my hopes turn into insane despair.
I probably also became frustrated at the fact that I needed to continue the laborious process of looking for a job, and knowing the amount of time and effort it took me to get to that ‘almost job offer’, I thought I would become overrun by stress.
But I didn’t. And here is why.
Thanks to a very strong and deep-rooted upbringing in Faith. My Parents laid a great foundation for us in the Faith, which always gives me the confidence that irrespective of my challenges, I would always prevail.
In keeping with this, there is one verse of the Bible that I love a lot, and it’s found in Romans 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
And so, despite the fact that I wasn’t feeling great at all and was in that difficult situation, I decided to hinge unto the only thing I had: my Faith.
And here is what I did (which you can also adopt when your hope suddenly turns to despair):
- I learned to trust the fact that I am here for a reason, which is to fulfill my purpose and make an impact. And that I didn’t need a particular job to achieve that. There are countless jobs out there. I just needed to be patient enough to wait for what was rightfully mine.
- I appreciated the fact that tough times do not last, but tough people do. I told myself that if I really wanted to get that job that was perfect for me, all I needed to do was look beyond the disappointments and keep searching.
- I cried a bit but soon told myself there was no point crying over spilled milk. Because crying over the milk that was already spilled wasn’t going to fill my cup automatically. I had to do what was necessary to get another gallon of milk.
- I decided to change my job search strategy because you cannot expect to get a different result if you keep doing things you are used to, the same way. To get a different result, you need to change your approach. So, I cast out a wider net in my job search, and started applying to jobs I was qualified, over and under-qualified for.
- I realized that I had become too desperate (sort of) in trying to secure a job. I needed to take life easy because life is not a sprint, but a marathon.
- And finally, I learned to trust in the infallibility of God’s word in Scriptures, like when He said in Hebrews 13:5, “………. I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
And the rest today is history!
So, if you are having a hard time, and your hope is gradually turning to despair, it is time to deal with some trust issues, change your approach to life and wait for the manifestation of your glory.
God Bless You!
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