Let it do its thing. You do yours.
We have a saying where I’m from.
The only thing rain stops is cricket
I guess the American equivalent will be baseball.
When we use this saying, it really applies to our party culture. If it starts to rain during an outdoor event, no way that’s going to stop us from having a good time. But we unconsciously apply it to everything else.
For instance, like most countries during the rainy season, we experience ridiculous flooding.
Despite losing a lot to the rain.
Despite the emotional stress and almost hopeless scenarios.
We press on.
We won’t let the rain stop us from being happy. The rain has to do its thing. So we’re going to keep doing ours.
What’s your storm?
Are your current trials putting a dent in your life? Sometimes it’s difficult to see through the storm. We encounter countless failures. Naysayers ready to put us down. Constant rejection and adversity.
In a perfect world, we can get what we want instantly, without resistance.
But that will make us dull, uninteresting people.
Without the rain, there’s no story. There’s no comeback. Without the scars, there are no lessons.
Edison and his team would not have invented the lightbulb without thousands of attempts.
There’d be no iPhone without Steve Jobs getting forced out of his own company.
And no one would care about Tiger Woods’ comeback without his trials (self-inflicted or not).
If there’s something you want in life, you have to face resistance to get it. No one is exempt.
Your storm is supposed to rain on your parade. The question is, are you strong enough to dance in the rain?
If you’re having a hard time dealing with your hard times, try asking yourself these four questions to help you work through it.
1. Is there a bright side?
Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit — Napoleon Hill
Looking on the bright side has got a bad rep as being cliche. But the bright side might mean not dealing with something that could have caused even more pain. When you’re going through serious trials, you could be blinded by an even better opportunity if you become obsessed with the problem.
2. How can I use this?
Sweet are the uses of adversity which, like the toad, ugly and venomous, wears yet a precious jewel in his head — William Shakespeare
On the other side of adversity are the skills and character we need to deal with your next trial. Without adversity, you would not build resilience, focus, discipline, or learn to improvise.
For instance, my mom went through years of personal adversity when we lost my step-dad. But she often says those times set her up to deal with losing her big brother last year.
If you’re not thinking about how to use tough times for learning, you could be missing out on what you need for your next stage in life.
Adversity and failure is a test to be passed. Not something to avoid.
3. Who can I learn from?
Some of the most successful entrepreneurs, writers, and persons of influence had serious trials before becoming successful.
Take some time to read or listen to their stories, especially if it’s in your niche.
For instance, The book Man’s Search For Meaning opened my eyes. Despite the conditions for years in Nazi camps. Despite getting stripped of his work, name, and reputation, Dr. Frankl still found moments of happiness.
If you’ve never read the book, it’s a must for those going through struggles.
4. Can I stop the emotional time travel?
As someone who deals with anxiety, I know how crushing it can feel dealing with a situation where you’re unaware of the outcome. But looking too far ahead gives us these feelings of anxiety, panic or hopelessness. Things get bad, but are we in danger? Our comfort zones tend to get mixed up with our safety zones.
Know that despite your current trials, you’re here, alive, right now to deal with them. And there’s solace in that.
Are you ready for the rain? Adversity is busy doing its job, why aren’t you doing your job of working through it? It’s easier said than done, but if you work on what you can control today, and get help for what you can’t control, bit by bit dealing with trials get easier.
Before you know it, you’ll be smiling every time it rains on your parade. Because you’ll be ready.