The secret to building confidence in your work.
“Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.”
— Theodore Roosevelt
You see them everywhere on every platform known to man. They are revered among the creative community, and even among the everyday Joe’s. What they produce is almost scary it’s so good.
You can’t help but distance yourself from any related thought of being like them.
But here’s the thing. You are. You just don’t know it yet.
Every single one of us is an amazing creator. We have the capabilities galore. The problem is we don’t spend enough time honing in on it. Instead, we focus on what everyone else is creating.
Whether you realize it or not, you’re constantly programming yourself to reduce your self-esteem. To drop your level of confidence because they are so much better than you.
That becomes the driving factor of the “I’m not good enough” excuse. So you back out and throw up your hands as if you’re just better off doing what you normally do.
This mentally can change (and should) change.
You’re Worth More Than You Think
Inside of you is gold. Pure gold. But right now, it’s in its rough stages, covered in dirt. The process of getting to that source has yet to be enacted. And if it has, you shouldn’t stop the process from happening.
What this requires from you is first a complete recognition that this is true. If you don’t believe it, there’s no point in continuing. The first step is acknowledging your own ability to produce awesomeness.
Take your eyes off of everyone else and spend some time working on yourself.
That’s easier said than done, though.
We’re pulled in all sorts of directions every time we open a browser, every time we go on Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram. Content hits us in the face like a bucket of cold water.
And sometimes that doesn’t feel good. Now what I’m not saying is that you ignore all sources of content for the rest of your life. Not at all.
However, I am saying you should ignore the shining lights if your initial reaction is to degrade yourself. That’s not healthy. That’s not productive. You’ll never produce anything this way.
Create More Often
Here’s what you need to know: you’re no different from them. They are humans just like you. But the dividing line began when they had enough confidence in themselves to create.
Who cares what anyone else thinks. If it’s what brings you joy and helps people, do it. Too often we limit ourselves based on what we see out there. In the process, we basically sever ourselves from our true potential.
Ultimately the choice is yours. If you choose not to see it, to hold to the anthem of the “I’m not good enough” crowd, that’s on you. But if not, I want to remind you of what you have.
After you’ve come to grips with your potential, it’s time to put it in action.
To do this, though, you need to make sure you aren’t chasing someone else’s dream.
Most of the time people feel “inspired” to do something simply because they saw someone famous doing it. In reality, they have no real passion for it.
Address your underlining reason for pursuing your goal and you will identify its true value.
Too many of us place ourselves in the average box. We see no real value in ourselves. No real purpose. And it’s unfortunate, to say the least.
When most of our time is spent glued to the work of someone else, there’s no wonder we can’t see the beauty in what we create. This way of living chops away at our self-confidence and shows up on our faces.
We all have influences. But we don’t have to copy them.
The secret to being original is by producing work you’re proud of without the approval of everyone else. It’s your work, not the emulation of another, that counts.
I used to get stuck on that train too.
Everything I wrote made me gag a little. There was rarely a time when I was happy with the results of what I’d done. In truth, I was being a perfectionist without balancing originality and the confidence to hit publish.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to get it right. But there is something wrong with doubting yourself every passing moment of the process.
Stop looking around. Share it.
The world will thank you soon enough.