There are some common assumptions about introverts that have been driving me crazy lately.
It’s not that I have anything against the people making them. But out of all the bullet points they conjure, many are untrue and more are left out.
You see, I consider myself an introvert.
I feel a boost of energy when I’m either alone or within the company of those close to me. Not that I’m anti-social or anything like that. But being around loads of people for any long period time drains the life out of me.
The chatter. The noise. The weird handshakes.
To me, it makes me feel out of place. Like I don’t belong.
But nonetheless, I — we — are not what people think. In fact, we have a lot to offer society despite the many misconceptions.
We Catch What Most People Miss
The world we live in today is busy, fast, and always looking ahead. But for us introverts, taking in the little things matters a lot more.
Some of my friends don’t like the idea of staying alone in a dim room, reading a book and writing peacefully while listening to music. They would much rather go see a movie or watch a basketball game.
I like both of those things. But I need those times to myself. Times when I reconnect with the meaning of my existence in the face of so many who are quick to forget it.
Even when I’m with them, my mind often wonders.
One time I completely missed what a friend of mine was saying because I’d seen an elderly couple sitting on a bench at a park. They looked so happy.
I wondered what life would be like for me then (if I live that long).
They didn’t understand though, being the extroverts they are.
We Like to Have Fun Too
Most people think of introversion as a boring way of living life. Well, to that I say… you have no idea.
Time with family and friends is important to us. Going out isn’t the problem. It’s being around a bunch of people who have nothing to do with our conversations that bothers us.
Though the idea of being around large crowds of people for long periods of time drains our souls dry, we appreciate the company of close ones.
Never listen to anyone who says introverts don’t like to have a good time.
But like a battery, we need to recharge. The way we do this is by finding our “safe space.” The places where we can breathe again, away from the noise and chaos.
Working In Groups Is Not Always a Problem
There’s nothing wrong with working with other people. We are actually very productive individuals.
We just want to feel like our voices are being heard.
We want the assurance that what we say matters in some way. If our opinions are ignored and unappreciated, we tend to shut down or request to work alone.
Don’t be surprised (I warned you).
We Make Close Friends
Because our circles are rarely ever large, our friendships are closer than most. The affection of our relationships tends to make us the kind of friends you dream of having.
That’s not to say that we introverts are perfect. But it should cause you to second-guess the common assumption (like we don’t have any friends at all) that are widely spread nowadays.
There’s no separating the ties we share when they are present. That is, of course, unless you break our trust.
That’s a whole other story.
We’re Good Listeners
Need someone to talk to? That’s what we’re here for. One-on-one talks are best with us because it cuts out the distractions and gets to the heart of the issues at hand.
Sure, you’ll find us writing in a corner somewhere. Or sitting near a window, gazing at the sunset with a mind full of thoughts and dreams. But we love to hear what you have to say.
In the end, I think it’s safe to say that both introverts and extroverts complement each other. They aren’t completely different. There’s just a distinct temperament at play.
People can think however they want. We have a set of qualities that add to the overall aspect of life. And vice versa.
When we all begin to see the beauty in ourselves, the misunderstandings fade and the “quiet ones” aren’t so weird after all.
Kevin Horton is a 24-year-old photographer, college student, modest book-worm, and wanna-be web developer with a new-found love for writing. He writes helpful words about creativity, productivity, and the enjoyably simple life.
’Til next time. Thanks for reading!